Should parents confiscate the lucky money their children get? What is the reason? Thank god, help me.

Chinese New Year is either New Year's Eve or New Year's Day, or this first month. The custom of elders giving lucky money to younger generations is still prevalent. In the first month, friends and colleagues visit each other to pay New Year greetings, and it is essential to give more or less lucky money to other children. Lucky money conveys affection and friendship, ties childlike innocence, reflects the love of elders, cultivates filial piety of younger generations, and makes this year more substantial and humane. When I was a child, I had five younger brothers and sisters. I never thought about lucky money when my family was poor. My most unforgettable thing is that an aunt for many years in the future gave us five dollars each. Qian Xin, who looked at each other by the six of us, was so happy that she couldn't sleep, and always took it out again and again. Now the world has changed and people are rich. Everything depends on the amount of money, from tens to hundreds to thousands or even tens of thousands. The wage earners of laid-off workers really can't afford it. Money and material components are more, but emotional components are less. The lucky money lacks the affection of the past, and the lucky money is somewhat stale. Literally, "Nian" is a hieroglyph with drooping ears and a symbol of harvest. When the grain is ripe, it is called "Nian". In the folk custom of lucky money, "Nian" is a monster that stays in the deep sea all the year round, and only climbs ashore on New Year's Eve. As soon as it landed, it was flooded and brought disaster to people. According to legend, giving lucky money to the younger generation in the New Year can suppress the evil spirits of the New Year, so that children can turn evil into good luck and spend the first year safely. In some places, the lucky money given to children is called scattered money to drive away ghosts, which makes the children's souls hold back, so the lucky money is also called soul-pressing money. According to the "Yanjing Year" in the Qing Dynasty, "it is called lucky money to wear money with colored ropes, weave it into a dragon shape and put it in the corner of the bed. The elders give their children lucky money. " Lucky money can be given to the younger generation in public after New Year's greetings, or it can be put under the child's pillow by the elders when the child is asleep on New Year's Eve. A Qing Wu Manyun's poem "Lucky Money" said: "One hundred yuan long colored thread, then collected from the pillow, and talked about the price of firecrackers, which made Joule busy all night", vividly describing the infinite interest of children who received lucky money. In the traditional society with blood relationship as the link and family life as the basic model, the emphasis is on the order of the young and the old. During the Spring Festival, in a festive atmosphere, the younger generation kowtows to the elders to show respect and blessings, and the elders give the younger generation lucky money to show their love and expectation for the younger generation. It not only expresses the meaning of * * * festival, but also embodies the traditional ethics of honoring relatives. It is a confirmation of family blood relationship and an emphasis on traditional ethics, which is undoubtedly a good thing. According to the amount of money, collecting money is embarrassing and worrying. There are many kinds of children nowadays, such as giving gifts to teachers and class cadres, or inviting classmates to restaurants for dinner and drinking. In Shenzhen, several seven-or eight-year-old children treat them with lucky money, and a table costs more than 2,000 yuan. Older children also buy flowers for their girlfriends as gifts. Some still play games in internet cafes all night and dance in karaoke bars and halls. Others play truant with lucky money to watch porn, form gangs with gangsters in society, and even commit crimes. Lucky money has brought some negative effects that can't be ignored, which makes us have to pay attention to the children's world. There is also disagreement between adults because of the large difference in the amount of lucky money given to each other's children. Some parents use lucky money to show their deep pockets, some parents don't guide their children to use lucky money, and adults' money worship psychology makes their children borrow lucky money to compare, which makes some people distort this traditional custom and violate its original connotation. Lucky money seems easy to come by, but children's lucky money is mostly their parents' hard money, and parents often have to pay others' debt of gratitude, which has almost become the exchange rule of lucky money phenomenon. In the past, when the lucky money arrived, everyone was poor. It's just a festive atmosphere, and the people who give it and take it are very happy. Now the lucky money has changed its taste, and the amount of money has increased by tens of dollars year by year. Even if it is impossible to get it, it can be used as a unit. I can't bear to say that there are still people who judge relatives and friends by the amount of lucky money they give. Originally, they were unhappy during the New Year and spent money to find embarrassment. Lucky money is easy to spend, but difficult to spend. Who is in charge of the children's cheese? Who doesn't have children? This Spring Festival comes once a year, and children can't lose their children for a year. This is the general mentality of our parents and elders. My son, let alone lucky money, is 28 years old and still celebrates Children's Day every year. His height is 1 m 78 and his weight is nearly 200 Jin. He also said that he was two years old and chubby. What can he do? Depressed! We China people and the deep-rooted traditional feudal patriarchal clan system are almost still in our veins, so we have spoiled and distorted expectations for our children, such as hoping that our children will succeed and our daughters will succeed. Naturally, it is not difficult to give children lucky money to the younger generation. Chinese new year makes children happy, and it is also very happy to watch the innocent smiling faces of the younger generation salute, bow and kiss themselves. Who will keep this cheese for the lucky money? The child said: the lucky money was given to me by my grandparents, uncles and aunts, and my parents have no right to make decisions for me. Mom and Dad said: Son, you don't understand my heart. It is often counterproductive to worry about all the lucky money for children, because children have a strong sense of autonomy but limited self-management ability, and it is not the way to confiscate them all. It is cruel to let the lucky money pass through the children's hands. Whether the children like it or not, it is cruel for parents to confiscate all the lucky money from their children. From the legal point of view, if the lucky money is given to the child, then the transfer of this property is a gift, and the child will have the ownership and disposal right of the lucky money at the same time. Besides, this is, after all, the kindness of the elders to their children. If all of them are confiscated, the children will be unconvinced and sad. What do we do? Children have limited self-management ability and high sense of autonomy, which can be managed by parents and children together. In addition to letting them leave a proper amount of lucky money for their own management, the rest can be set for them. This can not only enhance the feelings with children, but also let children learn how to manage money. Make it clear to your child that the lucky money is given by your elders or grandparents. Parents' relatives and friends give lucky money to each other, and parents give it to their children in the same or different ways. Understand this truth, how to use and dispose of lucky money is easy. In this way, if the child agrees, part of it can be used to pay tuition, books and miscellaneous expenses, and the other part can be owned by the child. Use lucky money to buy things he usually likes, such as clothes, decorations, music tapes and videos and some snacks he likes. The rest of the money can also be collected with classmates. If children are young or the amount of lucky money is too large, it is obviously inappropriate for them to take care of it, but parents can take care of it. For example, a baby before the age of three has no concept of money. A coin or a piece of paper only means that he can take a singing car at the gate of the supermarket, so the lucky money is of little significance and fun to children. You can buy them some pictures and educational toys. Older children can give some small change for their own use, buy some school supplies for their children, or give their favorite picture books to their children as New Year gifts. This will not only prevent children from losing their lucky money or forming the bad habit of spending money indiscriminately, but also cultivate their hobbies and help them learn. You can also save it all and give it to your children when you are older or in college. You can take your children to travel with lucky money to broaden their horizons, and you can also buy computer software and extracurricular books for your children to enrich their knowledge. You can also give your child a fitness card and take them swimming and playing ball games to exercise. Of course, if the child reaches the age of junior high school or senior high school and has the ability of autonomy, parents should not interfere too much. The new fashion has given new content to the lucky money, and it doesn't have to cost money to make it a gift. Using your brain in the form of lucky money is a good way to solve the problem of lucky money. For example, buy school stationery and extracurricular reading materials for children and give them birthday gifts. Birthday gifts should not be too expensive. If it is too expensive, both parties should re-evaluate the price of the gift. When visiting relatives and friends during the Spring Festival, bring a carefully selected gift: a book or a toy to the door, which will bring real happiness to children and pass on this new concept of pressing age to parents. You can also travel to the suburbs with relatives and friends in Rio during the Spring Festival, and use the money from buying gifts to buy tickets, boat tickets and lunch, so that they can share the friendship and happiness as light as water and as thick as wine. The emotion and law behind the lucky money, collecting the lucky money is a good time to teach. Adults should give their children lucky money reasonably and educate them how to use it well. Children have strong plasticity and self-control and are easy to imitate the consumption patterns of adults. It is very important for parents to guide and educate their children to use lucky money correctly in order to help them form a good habit of saving money and establish a correct and healthy consumption concept. Parents with older children can tell legends and stories about lucky money and properly calculate the current account of a lucky money. Children will find that there is not much difference between the lucky money received and the lucky money given by their parents. Children understand that the lucky money they got was not earned by themselves, nor was it a pie falling from the sky, but was bought by their parents with hard-earned hard-earned money. In this way, children not only understand the cultural connotation and social etiquette of lucky money, but also know that money is hard to come by. In a sense, lucky money also contains the subtle relationship between people. It is a way and carrier of emotional transmission in interpersonal communication. Lucky money is a silhouette of people paying attention to family and friendship. Usually everyone is frugal and attaches great importance to children's education. However, people often forget frugality, and it becomes extravagant to give children lucky money during the Spring Festival. We also see that lucky money sometimes provides a hotbed for holiday corruption. Individuals give gifts and bribes in disguise in the name of lucky money and seek benefits in the special capacity of their parents. Of course, this can be solved not only by moral self-discipline, but also by resorting to law sometimes. Lucky money has a negative impact on society and children. For example, parents regard the lucky money given to their children as a means of returning gifts, or children regard the amount of lucky money collected as a way to compare with each other. Not all lucky money is bad, and not all can't be accepted. Friends, relatives, colleagues and neighbors don't accept the lucky money they want out of affection, but we should find a decent reason to refuse it so as not to embarrass everyone. As for the lucky money given by relatives, relatives, elders and relatives, children can accept it with peace of mind. They can express their affection and friendship with the help of traditional customs, adjust the relationship between people and make it more harmonious. Rejecting the tradition of not giving lucky money, adults are worried that their children will be sad. People sometimes have to say goodbye to some customs and habits, such as setting off firecrackers in big cities, because this folk custom is dangerous and pollutes the environment in crowded cities, but lucky money is different from firecrackers. It is not impossible for relatives to agree to avoid giving their children lucky money, but this is more from the perspective of parents or parents, ignoring the world of children. It is also debatable that some people refuse to give their children lucky money. The folk custom of lucky money has been passed down from generation to generation, and every household uses this folk custom to have fun with people of all ages. Folk custom can be accumulated in the long river of years, which shows that it has become a carrier and has undertaken some beneficial social functions, and we have no reason to refuse it. Traditional folk customs represent the long history of our nation, and once lost, it is difficult to recover. Modern people are in a state of increasingly rich material life but relatively poor spiritual life. Few traditional public customs make us feel connected with history and national culture. The lack of traditional customs and etiquette hides the lack of traditional human relations. Lucky money, a folk custom full of harmonious affection, also calls on people to reconsider their positioning and inheritance, so as to make this long-standing tradition glow again.