What should be paid attention to in educating children in life?

There was no rice at home yesterday, forcing us to go shopping in RT Mart. Because buying rice requires physical strength, our whole family goes out and our daughter naturally follows. The little guy staggered in the car and fell asleep at the supermarket. When I have children, I will especially visit other people's children. There are many children in the supermarket. My father came up to me and said, look, the little boy in front. It was a lovely child about 5 years old, wearing a yellow sportswear. He is putting the biscuits he just took down, but because of the size and packaging problems of the biscuits (the upper two tin cans are heavier and the lower one is lighter), he can't put them well, and the biscuits always fall down. Finally, I didn't put it away, and I fell to the ground. I saw a slight feeling on his face that he had done something wrong (his little face was a little red), so his mother pushed the car over, and he told her that her biscuit fell to the ground, which was unexpected (the little boy's actions so far made me think he was a very educated child). His mother just said faintly, "Let it fall." I had been expecting the little boy to pick up the cookies, but I ran to pick them up. Looking at my sleeping daughter suddenly made me feel more responsible. I brought him life, but not just life. I should give her more. Children are naive, and they are serious and persistent in doing their own things. It's really hard to lead by example. Inadvertently, what we bring to our children may be an education.

Teaching AIDS in life: playing cards

There are many kinds of playing cards at home, including animals, people, currency and national flags. When I come back from a walk every night, my children and I always play a few games.

After dinner at the weekend, the children watched the adults play cards. He was joking. I said, OK, let's play with numbers! I took out a five of spades and said, "Can you find two playing cards, and the numbers on them add up to five?" He looked carefully and muttered, "Good mother, I tell you, 3 plus 2 equals 5". He followed my example and gave me the number 7 to look for, so we started to get busy. Soon he found two pairs, a pair of spades 4 and spades 1, and another pair of spades 2 and 3. I deliberately asked, "Why two pairs?" The child said confidently, "Because 4 and 1 add up to 5, and 2 and 3 add up to 5". I gave him a perfect score, but I got 80 points myself, because I only found 3 and 4. The child said I didn't find them all (actually, I did it on purpose), so I had to take his advice seriously and promise to look for them seriously next time.

In this way, unconsciously, I began to play with a simple number, and I played more and more tricks with my children. With the extension of time, children have mastered the composition, decomposition and addition and subtraction of numbers within 10. What is important is that it is rare for him to show seriousness when checking my homework.

The game needs to change.

Playing will change, and a game will be boring if it is played for a long time, so I spread out the word animal playing cards and told the children, "I pick the animals that eat grass, and you pick the animals that eat meat to see who picks quickly and correctly."

Soon after the child was picked out, I went to look for it on purpose. Well, he was eager to help me, so I asked him, "What do we call a carnivore?" How could I forget? He hesitated to leave, and later told me that "those who eat grass are called herbivores" and those who eat meat are called "carnivores". I know he went to look for a book. Then I choose animals with two legs, a pair of wings and feathers that I feed at home. He chose animals to feed at home. They have four legs, fur and no feathers. The children carefully observed and selected them. Through hard work, he found pigs, dogs, cows and sheep. He asked eagerly, "Do they have the same name? "I told him which are poultry, which are livestock and why, and then asked him to find out these animals and why. In the meantime, I paid special attention to his words and chose several "classics" to use repeatedly at home. The children don't mention how happy they are!

Because I appreciate children's interest in playing cards more and more, after similar games, children can sum up aquatic animals and land animals by themselves. When he knows that butterflies are insects, he can judge that dragonflies, slugs and crickets are all insects and learn simple reasoning, judgment and induction methods.

People in early childhood

..... The child in the game, as long as he can talk, wants to talk very much. Playing and talking are the key elements of children's life at this time. Therefore, children at this stage of human development regard everything as alive, emotional and verbal, and believe that everything is listening to him. This is precisely because children begin to express their inner nature, so in his view, everything around him can also carry out the same activities as him, whether it is a stone or a piece of wood, whether it is a plant, a flower or an animal. In this way, for a child at this stage, just as his life itself has developed, his life with his parents and family has also developed, and his life with the same noble and intangible power for him and those who live with him has also developed, especially his life in and with nature, just as he feels. In particular, parents and other family members must cultivate their children to live in and with nature, and take the clear and silent things in nature as the key to their whole life. And this should be achieved through games, especially through the cultivation of children's games. At first, it was just a natural life.

Game is the highest stage of children's development and human's development in this period, because it is the spontaneous expression of internal essence and the external expression of internal essence out of its own necessity and needs. The word "game" itself illustrates this point. Games are the purest spiritual products of people at this stage, and they are also samples and replicas of people's whole life and natural life hidden in people and everything. So games give people happiness, freedom, satisfaction, internal and external peace, and peaceful coexistence with the surrounding world. The root of all beauty lies in it, comes from it and comes from it. A capable, spontaneous, calm and persevering child will inevitably become a capable, calm and persevering person who can improve the happiness of others and himself through self-sacrifice. Isn't it the best performance of a child's life in this period that a child is playing and concentrating on the game?

As mentioned above, the games in this period are not trivial, but have a high degree of seriousness and profound significance. Cultivate it, feed it, mom! Protect it, care about it, father! From the calm and keen eyes of a person who really understands human nature, children in this period spontaneously choose games, showing his future inner life. All kinds of games in this age stage are the germ of the whole future life, because the purest quality and the most inner thoughts of the whole person are developed and expressed in the games. Man's whole future life, until the moment he will leave this world again, is rooted in this life stage, whether it is pure or dirty, gentle or rude, calm or full of storms, hardworking or lazy, outstanding or inaction, slow and indecisive or keen and creative, numb, timid or far-sighted, constructive or destructive. His future relationship with his father, mother, family, brothers and sisters, with society and mankind, with nature and with God, depends mainly on his lifestyle at this age according to the inherent and natural endowment of children. Because children live among themselves and with themselves, among family members and with family members, between nature and God and with nature and God, this is completely unified at this time; Therefore, a child of this age hardly knows what is more kind to him-flowers, his own joy in flowers, the joy he brings to his mother and parents, or the joy he vaguely foresees when he gives flowers to his dear creator. Who can analyze how much happiness children of this age feel? If a child is damaged at this age, if the germ of his future tree of life is damaged, then he must make the greatest hardships and efforts to grow into a strong person, and he must overcome the greatest difficulties to avoid this damage from causing deformity in his development and training in this direction, or at least to prevent the one-sidedness caused by this damage.

Please pay attention to cultivating children's endurance.

Children's tolerance is a very precious feeling, which is mainly manifested in forgiving others' mistakes. This kind of affection is of great significance to the healthy development of children's personality, especially their emotions, and to the establishment of good interpersonal relationships. Children who are tolerant are often kind-hearted, gentle, lovable and supported, while children who lack tolerance are often eccentric, easy to go to extremes and difficult to get close to others, so interpersonal relationships are often bad. How can children have a tolerant heart?

Most children nowadays are only children. Children are wronged at school, and parents are also distressed. Therefore, some parents educate their children to say, "If others are sorry for you, you will be sorry for him. If someone hits you, you hit him. " This encourages children not only to deal with the relationship between classmates in school, but also to affect their future interpersonal relationship and even their future husband and wife relationship. Therefore, teaching children to learn tolerance is not only for their children to get along with their classmates today, but also for their future happiness.

In real life, people often encounter things that others are sorry for or harmful to themselves. Don't hold it in your heart, don't care too much, just laugh it off. This is tolerance. Tolerance is a virtue of human beings and a way and realm of being a man. Tolerance can make people kind, give the mind room to maneuver, eliminate many unnecessary contradictions and turn hostility into friendship. Tolerant people are always welcomed by people everywhere, so they can handle all kinds of interpersonal relationships, adapt to different environments quickly, cooperate harmoniously with others and give full play to their potential.

A translator once told such a story:

In a resort in Thailand, one day, in the lobby, I suddenly saw an apologetic staff comforting a 4-year-old western child. The frightened child was exhausted from crying. When I asked the reason, I realized that there were many children that day and the staff was negligent for a while. After the child finished tennis lessons, he counted one less and left the child at the tennis court. The child was scared to cry because he was alone in a remote tennis court. Now the child's mother appeared, looking at her crying child.

What would you do if you were a mother? Do you want to reprimand the staff member, or protest directly to the supervisor, or take the child away angrily and never join the "children's club" again?

Neither! I saw my mother with my own eyes, squatted down to comfort my four-year-old child and told him rationally, "It's all right. That girl is very nervous and sad because she can't find you. She didn't mean to. Now you must kiss your sister on the cheek and comfort her! "

At that time, I saw the 4-year-old child stand on tiptoe and kiss the cheek of the staff squatting next to her and told her, "Don't be afraid, it's okay."

It is this kind of education that can cultivate tolerant and considerate children.

Be a filial child

Since kindergarten, Rong Rong has made great progress in all aspects. Let alone the progress in study. What moved me most was that Rong Rong was obedient and sensible, and he was good at taking care of people. In the eyes of his grandparents, he is a filial child.

One day, my husband and I peeled bananas and put them on the table after eating. When the baby saw them, he threw them into the trash can. My husband and I looked at me, and I looked at you and smiled.

There is a 92-year-old grandmother at home. Usually we are busy with work and have no time to accompany her. Old people will inevitably feel lonely. That Saturday, I got up in the morning to go to work and told Rong Rong that it was cold and let him sleep for a while, but the baby solemnly said to me, "Mom, I'm going to get up and go down to accompany my grandmother." Grandma is very uncomfortable alone. " I am very touched to hear that. It is good for them to accompany the old and the young now. The baby reads children's songs to grandma, and grandma accompanies the little guy to build blocks. Every morning when I go to school, I never forget to say, "Grandma, I'm going to school. Wait for me to accompany you. " I was so happy that I couldn't shut my mouth.

One day, when we were preparing for dinner, we saw that the baby ran to the door as soon as the food was served. I wondered, it turned out that he had gone to help grandma. After a good meal, the family chatted for a while. Grandma got up and planned to go back to her room to sleep. Seeing this, the baby quickly climbed down from the chair, handed the crutch against the wall to grandma, helped her back to her room, turned on the light for her, said good night and closed the door. If I hadn't seen this scene with my own eyes, I really couldn't believe that he would be so sensible. The whole family laughed happily.

During the three-day holiday on New Year's Day, I took Rong Rong to Huang Gu's grandmother's house for two days. My mother told me that this was the first time she was so moved. It turned out that in the morning, the baby went downstairs to make breakfast with his grandparents. Rong Rong picked up the teacup and said that she would make tea for her grandfather. Somehow, she said that her grandfather likes drinking tea in the morning and found a comb to help her comb her hair. I don't know how he came up with it. No wonder it is said that she will have many surprises when she has children.

As the days passed, my baby became more and more sensible. I remember that I used to lose my temper at home from time to time, and the whole family revolved around him. Now my little guy can help with housework and know how to take care of people. It's really comforting to think about it.

Parents-partners who enjoy growing up happily with their children.

The birth of our son has brought infinite fun to our warm little family. With the growth of my son's age, this kind of fun has sprung up like mushrooms after rain and touched us all the time. For example, my son has been rated as a "star of moral practice" and "three good students" by the school for many years; Participate in Jiaxing Shaodaihui on behalf of the school; Published more than 20 articles in journals at all levels; Successfully passed the electronic organ 10 exam; His blog "Xiang Dingding" is often in the forefront of the school's "Children's Garden"; Pinghu TV Station's Good News Appointment once made a special report on his son with the theme of "moving and moving". Now, my son is a pupil in grade six. Along the way, we * * * shared the happiness of his growth, but also gained the joy and pride of being a parent. Bit by bit, it seems hard to say at once, only a little.

First, set an example-let children learn to be grateful.

Learn to be grateful and know how to repay, which is our expectation for children. To this end, we must first set an example to educate our children, such as buying clothes for their parents at the right time, taking care of their parents when they are sick, and accompanying their children to buy fruits. Let the children feel the affection, learn to take care and learn to be grateful in specific situations. So, in his son's diary, he wrote:

Since childhood, my mother has really paid too much for me. How can we repay her? Mom is ill and dad is on a business trip again. I thought I was the only one at home, so I put the clothes hanging outside in and folded them, then went to the bed, tapped my mother on the back, pinched my waist and rubbed my shoulder, and asked my mother from time to time, "Are you better now?" "Mom, what else do you need?" In this way, mother's illness can be cured quickly!

Sometimes, my naughty will make my mother angry, but I will apologize and communicate with my mother by writing short messages. When Mother's Day comes, I will kiss my mother and say, "Happy Mother's Day, Mom, you have worked hard!" " " ; When Teacher's Day comes, I will say to my mother, "Happy Teacher's Day, mom, you should pay attention to your health!" " "On my mother's birthday, I will personally make a greeting card for my mother and write my best wishes to her; I even washed my mother's feet. I know that I have done very little for my mother, but my mother said, "I am a grateful child, and a grateful child is the cutest!" " "Classmates, let's all be grateful children, so that the world will be more wonderful!

Because of this, although our son's skin is a little dark, he will care about people, including his classmates and teachers at school. So everyone likes him very much and praises him as a lovely child. The 23rd issue of Hero Education published by the affiliated primary school made a special report on his son, the real child "Ding Ding". On Mother's Day in May 2006, Pinghu TV Station "Good News Meet" also filmed a feature film for my son, the theme of which was "I was moved by being moved".

Second, create an environment-let children learn to read.

"Book" is man's best friend, and children who love reading can gain endless knowledge and wisdom. To this end, we strive to create a good reading atmosphere for children. On the one hand, we open bookcases for our children at home and give them books as the best gifts on occasions such as birthdays. On the other hand, try to read books by yourself at night or on weekends, so that children can enjoy reading in a good reading atmosphere. At the same time, visit bookstores with children regularly, making bookstores a place that children yearn for. Nowadays, children love reading deeply, so they must read before going to bed. When they go out to visit relatives, they often take a book with them, and even when they go to the toilet, they will hold a book in their hands. In April, 2007, we were honored to be named "Home of Scholars" by the Primary School affiliated to Shi Ping Normal University, and relevant photos and written materials were exhibited in the school. Of course, this is an incentive for children. Since then, children's reading enthusiasm has been even higher, and their knowledge level and expression ability have been improved day by day. From the first grade to now, my son has published more than 20 articles in national journals at all levels, one of which won the first prize of the national "Andersen Fairy Tale Cup".

3. Appreciation and encouragement-let children learn to forge ahead.

Children need to be appreciated and their personality needs to be respected. Only in this way can we maintain an equal position with our children and make them interested in various activities. To this end, we try to do this: for example, every semester, we actively encourage him to fight for opportunities, and he always writes the campaign draft for us to read. So from the first grade to now, his son is basically a class cadre and has been awarded the "Little Lu Xun" award many times. Usually, we read the praise comments left by the teacher in the exercise book with our children, and let them collect various awards; Let the child collect the down payment by himself and keep it together ... Let him gradually realize that learning is a very happy thing and know that no matter what efforts he makes, he will succeed.

The child is growing, and he has the right to control his own time. So when the winter and summer vacations come, we will say to our children, "Winter and summer vacations are the time for children to rest, but what do you think you can do during the rest?" After he answered, he said, "There are a lot of things you want to do, but how to arrange them reasonably? Shall we make a plan together? " The plan generated in this way is easy for children to accept, so it is more persistent to implement, so that children's study and life in winter and summer vacations are still very regular.

A warm home is the cradle of children's growth, and democratic parents are mentors and friends for children's growth. We will continue to learn by doing, strive to be good partners in children's study and life, and enjoy the happiness of growth with children.

Family education: what should children do if they have resistance to their teachers?

1. The child has a serious rebellious mentality and rebelled against his family by venting his dissatisfaction with the teacher.

The older a child is, the stronger his curiosity and thirst for knowledge will be. Some parents and teachers are very impatient with their children's curious behavior and answer their children's questions simply and rudely. Children's needs are not met, and their resistance to their parents has been found to have little effect after many attempts. Moreover, they have to rely on their parents to live, unable to resist authoritarian parents, so they transfer their dissatisfaction to teachers and vent it on them.

2. Teachers ignore or ignore children, and children attract teachers' attention by resisting.

Children in school, in addition to learning well can bring him a sense of accomplishment, the teacher's attention and attention is his greatest psychological satisfaction. Some children often meet teachers who don't ask him questions in class. When they get up the courage to talk to the teacher, the teacher is also indifferent. Children's self-esteem is hurt, and in order to attract more attention, they will realize their desire to be concerned by rebelling against the teacher.

3. Improper teaching methods of teachers' education Many people think that in the process of reform and opening up, education reform is the slowest, and neither the content of teaching nor the way of education can meet the needs of society and children. Although this statement is somewhat extreme, it is not unreasonable. Some teachers are used to labeling their students and have stereotypes about them. Good students are good and excellent, but bad students can't change their nature. Some teachers don't understand children's psychological characteristics and needs, and put forward inappropriate high or low requirements for children; Some teachers' educational methods are simple and rude, don't respect children, and even beat and scold them; Wait, it will make children feel resistant.

Redefinition: In fact, there are many positive factors hidden behind the resistance. Children's resistance shows that these children have a strong sense of autonomy and independence, and they don't listen to anything and rely on others. Such children maintain their psychological balance by "resisting" and dare to vent their dissatisfaction. If guided correctly, resistance can also play a positive role! On the other hand, children's resistance also reflects the unreasonable aspect of our teachers' educational methods, and will also remind teachers and schools to improve their educational methods, which is more conducive to the development of education and the growth of children. So, how can we eliminate children's resistance to teachers? Our advice to parents is-

★ Respect children and let them express their views on schools and teachers. When children have resistance to teachers, parents should first talk to their children with a gentle attitude, and do not create pressure, so that children can vent their dissatisfaction with teachers in a relaxed and free atmosphere, which can also play a role in balancing psychology. Parents provide a pair of ears and listen carefully. Children will feel that their troubles have been respected, and they will openly tell their attitudes and reasons for resisting their teachers. Parents should calmly analyze the pros and cons of things with their children and treat resistance objectively after their children's emotions have stabilized. If the main cause of the problem lies in children, we should make rational use of children's competitive psychology, use situations to help children realize their mistakes and improve their ability to recognize their shortcomings.

★ Let children learn to think from the teacher's point of view. As a parent, it is forbidden to kill a child with a stick and make the child obey the teacher unconditionally, which will only aggravate the child's resistance to the teacher. Some parents only consider the problem from the child's point of view, spoil their children too much, and even blame the teacher with their children. What's more, they go to school and have a big fight with their teachers, and the result can only be worse. Children's understanding is sometimes extreme, and it is easy to be self-centered and only look at the problem from their own perspective. In this regard, parents should learn to cultivate their children's feelings, sometimes called empathy, re-examine with their children from the teacher's point of view, create scenes when necessary, experience the teacher's emotions and difficulties, and let their children learn to be more considerate and considerate of others. This can improve the relationship between children and teachers at home and reduce children's resistance to teachers. Teach children to respect teachers, encourage children to have ideas and be good at asking questions, so it is essential to teach children some strategies and skills to give advice.

★ Communicate with schools and teachers and actively cooperate with teachers to educate children. Some children behave differently at school than at home. I am diligent, sensible and obedient at home. I am an excellent child, but when I got to school, I was depressed, didn't like studying, and didn't perform well.

Often criticized by teachers, but also often contradict teachers. The difference between family and school education methods leads to this contrasting personality performance of children. At this time, parents should actively and calmly communicate with the teacher, provide the teacher with some daily performances of the child at home, let the teacher know the other side of the child's behavior and have a comprehensive evaluation of the child's behavior. Parents and teachers should analyze the differences between them in the way of educating their children, seek common ground while reserving differences, give their children a close educational value, and don't let them be at a loss.