How to humbly ask others for advice?

Xiaoke was recruited as an office clerk by the company a year ago. At that time, the work assigned to him by the company was only to complete some trivial daily work according to the arrangement of the leader, which did not require too much brain work and did not contain too much challenging content. For him who has just graduated from college and is eager to start his own career, there is no way to serve the country. However, because of his junior qualifications and no work performance, it is difficult to get rid of the status quo, so Xiaoke began to look for opportunities while learning modestly.

Every morning, Xiaoke will arrive at the company half an hour early. Besides cleaning the office, he also helps the doorman to send and receive letters and distribute newspapers. A seemingly simple job made Xiaoke a celebrity in the company. One day, the manager's secretary was ill and asked for leave. The manager personally asked Xiaoke to be the manager's secretary for a few days, which is both an opportunity and a challenge for Xiaoke. The first task that the manager gave Xiao Ke was to contact the printing business of a company. As a representative of the company, Xiaoke is regarded as a guest by the manufacturer. After the inspection, the manufacturer also gave Xiaoke a mysterious envelope, hoping that Xiaoke could say a few good words when he came back to promote cooperation. However, Xiao Ke politely declined the customer's gift, saying that the strength of the manufacturer and the quotation company would be very interested, and he would objectively convey the manufacturer's wishes to the leaders.

After returning to the company, Xiaoke reported the equipment status and technical strength of the manufacturer to the manager in detail. The manager was satisfied with Xiaoke's report and publicly praised Xiaoke at the company office meeting. When the director of the office told Xiaoke what the manager meant, there was a trace of dissatisfaction in his eyes. The director specially pointed out some shortcomings in Xiaoke's work, hoping that he would pay attention in the future. Although Xiaoke felt the director's dissatisfaction with himself, he accepted the director's advice modestly.

After working as the manager's secretary for a week, Xiaoke's youthful vitality and sincerity left a good impression on the manager. A month later, he was transferred to the manager's office and soon took up the position of assistant manager.

Xiaoke has four secrets to success: first, ask the experienced "predecessors" modestly. The most fatal thing for students who have just left school is to overestimate themselves and look down on others. In fact, when I first started my wet experience, I didn't know much about society, the characteristics of all walks of life, the detailed processes of my own unit and the complicated interpersonal relationships. So when you encounter problems, don't pretend to understand, don't jump to conclusions without authorization, and don't make hasty statements. You should listen to other people's opinions with an open mind and less express your arbitrary opinions. Only in this way can we formally take the first step in interpersonal relationship, and everyone will unite with you to move forward together. Generally speaking, as long as you are sincere and open-minded, others will help you. And ask for other people's opinions, don't be in a hurry. This is the so-called modesty that makes people progress, while pride makes people fall behind.

The second is to be brave in accepting criticism and be grateful. Whether you can accept your boss's advice with an open mind, or whether you can accept your mistakes calmly when you encounter setbacks, or even whether you can remain calm when you are depressed, all these will reflect a person's inner quality. In the face of the director's difficulties, Xiao may accept it humbly and treat it sincerely. Even the demanding boss will change his attitude and show mercy in this warm hospitality.

The third is the spirit of cooperation. Talking with people easily and happily and living in harmony with others are often prerequisites for achieving a happy marriage or becoming a group leader. Enterprises hope that employees can establish the best corporate image by maintaining good cooperative relations with corporate customers. In the first contact with customers, Xiaoke showed a sincere and firm side, which not only made customers feel his frankness and fairness, but also established a good social image for the company.

The fourth is to be a diligent person. Freshmen, students are often full of passion and resentment, determined to do something big. However, one fact is often overlooked, that is, you may not be a white-collar worker immediately after you leave school, and you need a high starting point to do great things. That's true, but you should start step by step. As a newcomer in a unit, we should start with small things such as fetching water, sweeping the floor and distributing newspapers, so as to establish our own image, easily blend in with everyone and establish the concept of being responsible for reality. Do more small things and talk less. This is the so-called sweeping the world without sweeping a house.

Any company hopes to have a group of healthy, enthusiastic, proactive, energetic and energetic young people. A person with these advantages, even if his performance is not good and his behavior is unsatisfactory, others will not judge him low; On the contrary, if you lack passion and act slowly and dully, other aspects of evaluation will also be affected. Xiaoke helps the doorman distribute newspapers every morning. The image of diligence, optimism and initiative has made all employees of the company have a good impression on him, and a good mass base has also added a few bright colors to Xiaoke's development.

However, we often see such counterexamples. Some people are very capable and think highly of themselves in the unit. They don't buy the accounts of those old colleagues, which makes them very disgusted. After all, these old colleagues are deeply rooted and their opinions will be considered in all aspects. Therefore, they feel depressed at the critical moment, which cannot but attract our attention.

A doctor was assigned to a research institute and became the person with the highest academic qualifications. One day, he went fishing in the small pond behind the unit, and it happened that the director and deputy director were fishing around him. He just nodded slightly. What are these two undergraduates talking about? After a while, the director put down the fishing rod, stretched himself and walked briskly across the water to go to the toilet. The doctor's eyes are about to fall off. Floating on the water? Really? This is a pond. When the director came back from the toilet, he also floated back from the water.

What's going on here? It is difficult for a doctor to ask, because he is a doctor!

After a while, the deputy director also stood up, took a few steps and floated across the water to go to the toilet. Now the doctor almost fainted: no way, go to a place where Jianghu experts are concentrated? The doctor is also in a hurry. There are walls on both sides of this pond. It takes more than ten minutes to go to the toilet opposite, and it's too far to go back to work. What should I do?

The doctor doesn't want to ask the two directors. After holding back for a long time, he got up and stepped into the water: I don't believe undergraduates can pass, but my doctor can't. With a bang, the doctor fell into the water. Two directors pulled him out and asked him why he had to go into the water. He asked, "Why did you walk there?" The two directors smiled at each other: "There are two rows of stakes in this pond. Because it rained these two days, the water just rose below the surface. We all know the location of the stake, so we can step on it. Why don't you ask? "

When many people encounter difficulties that they can't solve, it is always difficult to talk to others, or they don't want to involve others. This is not right. Because on the one hand, if you don't ask others for help, others won't know your difficulties, so you lose a chance to solve them; On the other hand, if you don't ask others for help, others will mistakenly think that you are a person who is afraid of trouble. Once something happens in the future, others will naturally not pour out their hearts to you.

Therefore, when you encounter difficulties in the future, you should be diligent in asking your colleagues for help, which will show your trust in your colleagues, thus further harmonizing your relationship with your colleagues and deepening your feelings with them. Good interpersonal relationships are based on mutual help. So in general, it is ok to ask others for help. Of course, we should pay attention to discretion and try not to embarrass others.

Xiao Wang graduated from a famous university and is very quiet. She works in a public institution where she has to write a lot of materials. After all, she has just arrived and is not very familiar with official document writing, so she will show it to her colleague Lao Li every time she finishes writing. After Lao Li has revised it, he will take it to the section chief for review. Soon, Xiao Wang's materials were getting better and better, and Lao Li had nothing to modify, but the section chief still smeared everything and showed no mercy. Although Xiao Wang was unhappy, he didn't say anything, so he humbly asked the section chief to correct me.

Lao Li is indignant. He thought that the level of the section chief could not modify Wang's article. He told such a story to Wang. Khrushchev visited an abstract art exhibition, but when he didn't understand it, he called names. The artist in charge of the exhibition replied that you don't know anything about art. Khrushchev said his famous saying that when I was a miner, I didn't understand it. When I was a junior official of the party, I didn't understand. However, today I am the chairman of the Council of Ministers and the leader of the Party, so of course I understand now. Lao Li said that he is now the section chief, and of course he can modify the clerk's article. Xiao Wang just smiled and didn't mind. Sometimes she is forced by Lao Li, that is to say, isn't it just to change the material or modify your life?

Because Xiao Wang is modest, diligent and perhaps talented, the section chief recommended Xiao Wang to the higher-level propaganda department, and Xiao Wang was promoted. On one occasion, the superior asked Corey to write a big material. After the materials were sorted out, the section chief asked people to send them to the Propaganda Department first, saying that they asked their superiors to check. Two days later, Xiao Wang revised the materials. This material has been well received by superiors. The section chief was very satisfied and said that Xiao Wang was really good. I didn't see the wrong person. Lao Li also believes in Xiao Wang, although she is young.

Xiao Wang took out money to invite these former colleagues to dinner. Lao Li said to Xiao Wang privately, let the section chief invite you to dinner. You wrote that article very well. Xiao Wang said that won't do. You taught me to write materials, so I have to thank you. Lao Li added that the section chief will never change your article this time. Xiao Wang said, do you know what the four words my father gave me when I took part in the work? The first is gratitude, and the second is tolerance. Lao Li didn't think much at that time, because he drank too much. After he came back, comparing those four words, he gradually felt ashamed. If you learn tolerance, you may turn it over and modify the leader's article. If you don't learn to be tolerant, you will always be revised by the leaders.

Especially for those new employees, it is necessary to guard against arrogance and rashness, calm down and frankly admit their own shortcomings, consult others more, and make less hasty statements.

Many newcomers don't understand this truth, or they are unconvinced, too eager to show themselves, and try to be brave without understanding. As a result, the work was not done well, and naturally it was laughed at.

You know, those colleagues who came before you will accumulate more experience than you. When you have the opportunity, you might as well listen to their opinions and find something to learn from their success or failure. This will not only help you avoid detours, but also make them feel that you respect them. Especially those colleagues who are older than you, but weaker than you in other aspects, will be more moved, while those colleagues with strong ability will think that you are enterprising and will be willing to take care of and support you.