How do you strike up a conversation with the guy or girl you like when you go out on the street? What are the tips for girls to successfully strike up a conversation?

Taking up a conversation, which Beijingers call "taoqi", is a popular behavior in recent years to proactively meet the opposite sex. If you are lucky enough to meet your Mr. Right (the goddess in your heart), how should you strike up a conversation?

How to strike up a conversation when you meet a guy or girl you like on the street?

One afternoon on the pedestrian street, Miss Xiaolin was wandering alone. Suddenly a man came up and asked politely: "Miss, what time is it now?" Xiao Lin said apologetically: "I'm sorry, I didn't bring my watch or mobile phone, and I don't know the time."

1 , unexpected method

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

One afternoon on the pedestrian street, Miss Xiaolin was wandering alone. Suddenly a man came up and asked politely: "Miss, what time is it now?" Xiao Lin said apologetically: "I'm sorry, I didn't bring my watch or mobile phone, and I don't know the time."

This At this time, the man stretched out his hand, showed his watch, and said: "I know it is 3:50 pm Beijing time, and there is a movie in the cinema over there that starts at 4 o'clock. Can I invite you to watch it?"

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Friendly reminder: This method is generous to both men and women, but is only suitable for people with a sense of humor.

2. Direct attack method

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Zhao Zhao came out of the cafe with a few friends, who had been paying attention to her in the cafe just now The man also came out. Zhao Zhao secretly smiled, wondering what the meaning of such childish tracking was. The man sped up to follow her, walked up to her, and spread out his hands to stop him. He looked directly at Zhao Zhao and said seriously: "My name is XX, I am a junior student at University C. I hope to get to know you and make friends with you." His friends laughed kindly, and Zhao Zhao also smiled and said to him : "Just be ordinary friends. My name is Zhao Zhao."

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Friendly reminder: Sincerity is the biggest secret to successful conversation. Introducing yourself candidly in front of an overwhelmed client can gain trust.

3. How to use free time

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Xiao Wang went to Beijing for a business trip and was stranded at the airport because of a delayed flight. When he was bored, someone suddenly tapped him on the shoulder. He turned around and saw that the person taking his photo was actually a beautiful woman. She asked, "Are you also taking the ** flight? Is it really late?" It turns out that the beauty also traveled alone. Xiao Wang suggested going to the airport cafe for a drink, and the beauty readily agreed.

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Friendly reminder: The environment and mood of dating in your free time while waiting for the plane are good. "We Met" has a sense of loneliness like traveling. We understand. What does acquaintance matter? So the chance of striking up a conversation is very high. Likewise, this approach works for trains and ships.

4. Vest word memory method

Applicable type: Male

One day, Xiaosi often rides the No. 1 bus and sees a girl often. The girl finally Got a chance to talk to him. She sat behind him, and Xiao Si vaguely felt that something was about to happen. Sure enough, my vest suddenly felt itchy. He knew what she was doing without looking back. At the station, Xiaosi got off the car as usual.

The white T-shirt and vest he wore read: I see you every day, can we be friends? My phone number: 139

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Friendly reminder: Not every man has such good self-cultivation, you can write it on his vest. He'll probably jump up and yell, "Oh my God! Oh my CK!" This is a no-no for a woman who loves her clothes!

5. Palm calligraphy method

Applicable types: men, generous ladies

For details, please refer to Sanmao's "The Rainy Season Will Never Come Again". She discovered a boy she had a crush on for a long time on the playground. Without saying a word, she took his hand and wrote his name and home phone number on his palm. A kind of silent romance spread in the hearts of the two teenagers.

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Friendly reminder: When you rush to grab his (her) hand, you may have to give a simple explanation, such as: I am not a bad person! Wait, otherwise it may be misunderstood as robbery. After all, silence is better than sound, and not everyone can appreciate it.

6. Friends are hard to find.

Applicable type: Suitable for both men and women

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, the school had a power outage. Two girls, silent mosquitoes, wandering around the campus with nowhere to go and no one to love. When I was depressed, I suddenly saw two boys passing by carrying guitars on their backs. After silently discussing with the mosquitoes, they boldly walked up and asked: "Can I listen to you play a song?" Perhaps it was the hazy moonlight, the annoying power outage and the girl's plea that moved them, and they immediately agreed to their date

Friendly reminder: Everyone likes to show their strengths, especially those with special skills. This reason sounds beautiful.

7. The gangster's method of making money

Applicable types: men, kind-hearted women

This is the real way to teach the devil to pick up a conversation. During lunch time, she went to her usual casual restaurant, took a spoon, and walked towards the man who looked very pleasing to her eyes. She said to him expressionlessly: "Your food looks delicious. Can you give me some?" He blushed and stammered: "Please do so." The laughter of friends around him reminded him , and quickly added: "How about I make one for you to eat?"

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Friendly reminder: It is said to be the devil's method of picking up conversations.

8. Ask for advice humbly.

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

He Da has a crush on the girl in the swimming pool who wears a red swimsuit and swims breaststroke well. He swam up to the girl and asked, "You swim breaststroke very well. Can you point it out to me?" The girl looked at him suspiciously, and he immediately said, "I know butterflies. How about we exchange and learn." The girl smiled. .

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Friendly reminder: Be humble, really be humble, and hide the meaning of being an alcoholic. The possibility of rejection is not impossible, but at least it won’t embarrass you.

9. How to praise.

Applicable type: Suitable for both men and women, especially suitable for women.

Su Dong caught up with the girl coming out of the shopping mall: "How to get to Renmin South Road?" After the girl gave me directions, he took a deep breath and said, "God, can you tell me how to get there?" What kind of perfume is it?" She immediately looked at him warily, and he explained: "I have been looking for this perfume for a long time. What brand did you buy it in? "How much does it cost?" The question made the girl relax her vigilance. She told him the answer in a friendly manner and led him to the counter. Of course I bought the perfume, but he gave it to her.

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Friendly reminder: Be careful to only ask what you want, and don’t let the other person think you are thinking about something else. Wear anything, but don’t be flattery. Everyone likes their taste to be recognized. Moreover, people are kind. When he (she) tells you the answer, he (she) also has time to see clearly whether you are worthy of leaving your phone number.

10. Theater Courtship Method

Applicable Type: Female

At the entrance of the theater, Ocean held two of the most popular tickets, but she made an appointment with him The friend temporarily released his pigeon. He wanted to see it but felt it was boring to be alone, so he didn't want to sell it to scalpers. At this time, a pair of girls nearby were asking scalpers for fares. When they were hit by the fare and were about to give up, Ocean walked over and said to one of the girls: "Can I invite you and your friends to the theater?" He said He gave the tickets to two girls with only one request. He hoped that the girl he was chatting with would invite him to tea in the future. The girl was immediately moved by the selfless act and took the initiative to arrange a time and place to meet.

Happy Leaving the Ocean, a drama that can be watched or not, is a good deal for him in exchange for an unknown love.

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Friendly reminder: This spirit of giving up the ego and taking the overall situation into consideration is very convincing. However, girls are easy to get together with. Don’t make a bad proposal that only invites one person to see it, otherwise the probability of success will immediately drop to zero.

11. Mobile phone sexting method

Applicable type: suitable for both men and women

Dandan met him at the light rail station and fell in love at first sight. After getting in the car, she kept thinking about how to talk to him so that he would not be misunderstood as 13 o'clock. Seeing that the bus was about to arrive, she suddenly stepped forward and said to him: "Can I borrow your mobile phone?"

Maybe she looked really anxious (of course she was not calling) phone), so he immediately handed the phone to her. After Dandan pressed a few numbers on it, her cell phone rang. Seeing his confused look, she smiled and said, "My number is already on your phone.

Can you contact me often in the future? "

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Friendly reminder: Although mobile phone robberies occur frequently, there are many good-hearted people after all. As long as it does not appear "criminal", you can generally borrow each other's mobile phones. This method Both implicit and effective, it’s worth a try.

5 tips to help you successfully chat with the opposite sex

Let yourself be a “friend of destiny”.

Whether active or passive, looking like an easy-going and ready person is the first key to successful conversation. Social psychology research has found that people who smile, are willing to make eye contact, and whose body language blends into their surroundings. People will exude the invincible charm of being a "destined person", so take the initiative to make eye contact with others, nod gently when your eyes meet, and convey respect and kindness. If everyone at the party has a glass of wine, your hand will definitely not. Empty. If there is music, your body should dance to it. In this way, people who are interested in you will be happy to get close to you.

Find Coup 2 from the environment. Clue, speak elegantly

If you just come up to me and say “I like you a lot. may i get to know you? "If you are lucky, you will win the lottery, but more often you will hurt yourself by scaring people, haha! The best way is to look for clues from the environment and make your mouth generous and not obtrusive. For example, in the supermarket, you can Ask "Do you know if this brand of products is good?" "The library said: "I also like the book you borrowed. "Cafe, greeting: "This is my first time here, and so are you? "It would be more likable if you could politely add "I'm sorry to bother you," before speaking!

Coup 3. Praise a woman's temperament and affirm a man's ability.

Some men just say "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen" to a woman. This kind of direct compliment sometimes makes people wary. If you want to compliment the other person, it is best to do it according to her temperament: "I admire such a quiet (generous) and elegant girl like you." And if a woman wants to take the initiative to marry a man, from the perspective of asking for help, it is often easy to get a positive response: "My mobile phone (or laptop) There is a problem. Can you take a look at it for me? "Give men a chance to show off their skills, and they'll usually enjoy it. Women can use more subtle ways to compliment men. When a man does a considerate service for you (such as bringing you a drink), the best compliment isn't: “Wow, you are so considerate! ” A better answer is: “You know what?” I appreciate thoughtful men! "In this way, the other party will know without being too explicit. Then proceed and retreat appropriately. In case Mr. Ichiro didn't mean it, you won't be embarrassed.

The fourth trick is to make noises in the east and attack in the west, and attack quietly.

If you see someone of the opposite sex but it is not appropriate to talk directly, you can first find a same-sex partner and turn up the volume while chatting (haha, make sure he/she can hear it!): "Hello, I am XXX . Are you coming alone? "Start talking to them. After a few words, you can casually turn to the person of the opposite sex you're targeting and invite him/her to join your conversation: "Hey, what about you? "How do you know who's who?" When we don't feel like someone is trying to hit on someone, but are being invited to join an ongoing conversation, we're usually willing to participate. So, going to a party and finding a same-sex friend can work in this way. However, remember, when the conversation is getting better, this partner should find a reason to disappear, so as to create an opportunity for you to chat in depth alone.

Coup 5. Create opportunities to meet again.

Don’t forget to turn today’s first attachment into a long-term interaction. A more natural way is to talk about two people's common interests. You can say, "Great. I have a group of friends who are all movie fans. I'll give you a call next time I go to the movies!" and say casually: "Please leave your contact information and I'll call you next time." Call!" Or simply say: "I'm glad to chat with you today. Let's exchange experiences together next time!"

The above is a detailed introduction to the five tips to help you successfully strike up a conversation with the opposite sex. I hope it will be helpful for you to further understand the psychology of gender. In daily life, if you fall in love at first sight, you might as well try the above methods to strike up a conversation with him or her, so that you can happily enjoy your alone world.