In many rural areas, why do you go to your uncle's house to thank you after the first seven days of the deceased?

In various rural areas, there are many customs.

After years of changing customs in cities, many red tape and customs have been abandoned, but they are still observed by most people in rural areas.

The most troublesome thing is the tradition and etiquette of funeral.

Maybe everyone knows some customs, for example, don't light a flashlight on the way home from a memorial service, or don't look back, but maybe you don't know the custom of thanking filial piety.

Xiao Xie is developed in many rural areas, but it is not popular in some areas. This custom is mainly practiced by the Han nationality, and other ethnic groups basically do not do it.

There is an old saying that mourning is unfilial, not hanging, not burning paper money, not thanking filial piety! Today, I will introduce the custom of thanking filial piety and various precautions for everyone.

First, in many rural areas, why did the deceased go to his uncle's house to pay homage after the first seven days?

1, the custom of gratitude and filial piety

The word "Xiao Xie" has a long history, and it is generally a courtesy for the families of the deceased, mainly children and other descendants to pay tribute to the deceased.

That is, after the first seven days of the deceased, the descendants of the deceased need to pay homage to those relatives and friends who came to mourn.

This kind of etiquette is generally known only to Han people, and it is normal for ethnic minorities not to know it.

But even in Xiao Xie, people in different places have different details.

In some places, people go after the funeral, some people go after the dead are buried, and some people come and go later.

But in fact, it is not recommended to visit people everywhere immediately after the death of someone in the family, because it will bring yin and misfortune to others' homes, so it is better to go after the funeral.

In the past, people wanted to send messages very slowly. The dead need to be notified by letter. Most rural people don't know a few words. Only relatives of the dead go home to attend the funeral. If the relatives of the deceased did not attend the funeral at their home, the other party had every reason not to attend the funeral.

Moreover, there is a certain order in mourning, and the rules cannot be chaotic.

And generally speaking, if someone dies, neighbors will come to help arrange the funeral, so there is another saying about Xiao Xie, that is, "the dutiful son left his head all over the street", which means that the descendants of the deceased should kowtow to other people who came to help in addition to condolences.

If the person who comes to mourn is a younger generation, he also needs to kowtow to the deceased.

Of course, if the people who come to pay homage simply pay homage and don't burn paper money, there is no need for the descendants of the deceased to kowtow to her.

Therefore, the second half of the sentence does not burn paper money, and the first half does not report mourning, which means that no one will be mourned in front.

2. Preventive measures in Xiao Xie

When you go to thank you, you must not leave empty-handed. You need to bring some simple gifts. Generally, these gifts are prepared by the families of the deceased, and generally consist of chickens, fish, firecrackers and candles.

The content of the gift will change according to different regions. In addition, the descendants of the deceased need to wear mourning clothes, that is, mourning hats, mourning belts, etc. And then go to my uncle's house with my elders.

Uncle's status in rural areas is very high, and there is a saying in rural areas that reflects this phenomenon, that is, uncle tripterygium wilfordii in the sky and uncle underground.

As my mother's brother, my uncle is a very important person to my mother. Just as my brother is like a father, my uncle is also a very important pillar in a family.

In many places, the bride needs the bride's brother to carry her when she gets married, and the status is self-evident.

Therefore, when thanking filial piety, the first person to thank is my uncle.

When you get to the place, you need to clean the cemetery, then put all the tributes and food you brought, and then burn the paper money you brought to the deceased. After that, the basic things such as burning incense and kowtowing were unified nationwide, and then the core link of thanking filial piety was to go directly to my uncle's house after the above actions, and then have dinner with my uncle.

People who come to thank Xiao give small gifts to my uncle's house. After dinner, my uncle's family will also give some gifts to the people who come. Everything is basically the same.

But there are some exceptions, that is, what if my uncle has passed away? Never mind, just thank the rest of my uncle's family.

But there is no need to kowtow to these people. Just install a door.

Summary: Now rural customs are becoming more and more simple, many things are simplified, and filial piety has been abolished in many places.

The main purpose of these ceremonies is to thank those who have been kind to themselves and the deceased, so as long as the mind is there, the form is not so important.

No amount of etiquette is as good as treating the deceased before he died. What customs does everyone have at home?