A female colleague was cheated by love rat and didn't know it. How should I remind her?

This kind of thing is very common in life. Today, you found a female colleague cheated by love rat, and you kindly reminded her. So tomorrow, if you find a male colleague cheated by love rat, will you kindly remind him?

Although you have good intentions, the other party may not think so. If you think a female colleague has been cheated by love rat, do you have conclusive evidence? Or how do you know it's love rat? Are you sure that the person you think is love rat must be love rat? Although this sentence sounds like a tongue twister, it is true. Although the authorities are fascinated, you may not be awake as a bystander. What you think is bad may be good in others' eyes. How can you be sure that your colleagues don't know that your boyfriend is an asshole? If you can figure out all these questions, the answer will come out. Don't end up doing something wrong for others.

From the perspective of colleagues, do you think the relationship between you has reached the point where you can interfere in each other's private lives? Although there are real friends in the workplace, in most cases, they are "under the same roof, don't die a natural death." Even if you are really nice to each other, even if what you say is true, her boyfriend is really love rat. But if you expose this matter, it will be good for her, but it may also be hated by the other party. As for why, I think anyone who has had emotional experience can figure this out.

But if you let it go and don't remind your colleagues, your conscience will be hard. So it is necessary to remind each other, but it should also be objective and rational. On the premise of mastering substantial evidence, remind each other by subtle means. If your relationship has gone beyond colleagues, you might as well go out and show her what love rat has done. All this is more convincing than saying it from your mouth. Although doing so may also cause the other person's disgust, it is much better than "empty talk". At least, she saw each other's scum herself, not from your mouth.

In addition, if the relationship between your colleagues is not very good, even the usual competitors or hostile relationships, personal advice is to leave this kind of thing alone. Maybe you remind each other in good faith, but they don't necessarily think so. Even if you help the other person recognize a boyfriend, the other person will think that you are hitting a person when he is down, or gloating. In the workplace, there are many people who return evil for good, and there are also many people who betray their colleagues and subordinates for the benefit. Helping others is a good thing. But not everything needs help. If the other person is your good friend or relative, it is ok to take the risk to complain, but if it is for colleagues, it is not worth it. Although it is selfish to say so, this is the reality. If helping others is at the expense of your own interests, you might as well not say it.