When my ex came back to get back together, I said to wait until we met, and then I stopped talking without talking. What was the situation then?

MengMeng felt very uncomfortable, always passive, and was led by the news of his predecessor, which led him to expose too much demand in the early stage of reunion. Every time I chat with my ex, I am careful, for fear of saying the wrong thing and making the other person unhappy. However, his predecessor showed indifference. Many times, the reply is perfunctory. As a result, the more MengMeng tried to maintain the ties between the two sides, the further he pushed his predecessor.

In fact, it is not surprising to feel this way, but if you are always in a low-value passive state when chatting with your ex, your ex will naturally find you boring. So the tutor told MengMeng that if you want to rekindle your ex's love for you through chatting, you must learn to dominate the rhythm of chatting, and how to dominate the rhythm of chatting can be mainly divided into these three points. Learning to shift the focus of chat in chat actually attaches great importance to discourse dominance, and whoever the topic revolves around is the focus of chat. Therefore, when saving our predecessors, remember not to always take each other as the center, which will make us very passive.

Therefore, when instructing MengMeng, the tutor asked her not to always say "Are you there?" "What are you doing?" , the boring greetings. It can be changed to "tell you a magical thing!" You know, I've been in big trouble recently. In this way, the topic will revolve around yourself, and you can also inadvertently reveal your changes and dynamics to the other party, and the topic will not make the other party feel too boring. Although it is best to talk about topics of interest to the other party from yourself, in the process of chatting, you must talk about some topics of interest to the other party, such as some hobbies or some news hotspots that the other party likes.

This can not only extend the topic well, but also improve the interest of the other party in chatting with you. That's how MengMeng changed his ex-wife. At first, MengMeng was always passive. Later, the tutor asked MengMeng to think about the topics that interested her, so she thought that her boyfriend liked playing basketball very much, so she got to know the teams and stars that her boyfriend liked. Then I bought two tickets specially to surprise my boyfriend.

While watching the ball, MengMeng was unconsciously infected by the atmosphere at the scene, very excited and fascinated. Because of this, they also have a common topic, which is to discuss ball games. Therefore, it is very important to talk about what can resonate with each other and extend the topic. Can't expose the sense of demand.

As the saying goes, home delivery is never a business. Don't be too modest in chatting. Being too active will also make the other party lose the initiative. Modesty is the best state. When MengMeng was in contact with his predecessor in the later period, the tutor specially told him this. Don't worry, sometimes being a little cold will arouse the enthusiasm of the other party. Later, MengMeng and her boyfriend chatted for a month in this state, and both sides began to get used to this brand-new state, and naturally they got back together successfully.

Therefore, after reunification, it does not mean that reunification is successful. After reunification, feelings also need a warm-up space. Simple humbleness and flattery can't help you save it. How to chat can arouse each other's emotional resonance is the most important thing. Have you learned?