What would you say if a white man didn't attend the wedding?

I know it's rude to do so. I should have come in person, but I really can't go out of town. I'm really sorry. I wish the old man a pleasant journey and don't blame the younger generation for being rude. May the dead rest in peace. Take care of your family. First, apologize for not being able to be present, then explain the reasons for not being able to go, and then explain the condolences to the deceased. I hope that the relatives of the deceased will feel sorry for their losses.