How to judge whether a man really loves or pretends, and what are the "details"?

Love is often sacred and inviolable. Many people can't get sand in their eyes when they are in love. They just want each other to be really nice to themselves. Nowadays, however, love has become complicated. The richness of people's emotional experience makes them complicated. In love, it is hard to say whether it is true or not.

Reader's message consultation: I have been in love with my boyfriend for five years. I always thought my boyfriend loved me very much. I didn't wake up until he broke up with me and said that he had never been serious about me.

I think it's ridiculous to think about the dribs and drabs over the past few years. After five years together, I thought that my deep affection for him was actually hypocritical. I can't trust love any more, and I can't trust men any more, because I can't tell whether men are sincere or just playing with me.

In fact, whether men are sincere to themselves has always puzzled women. How can we judge whether men really love women or pretend to love women? In fact, it can be seen from these three details.

First, do you spend time with women?

What women need most is often the company of men. Moreover, in the world, women are often weak representatives, and men often act as women's arms. Therefore, when a woman needs a man's company, the man who will always be with her is the one who really loves her.

Men who always find excuses to say that they are busy often don't cherish loving women. If you don't even have time to spend with women, then women really have to consider men's sincerity to themselves. Men who really love you will not leave women alone to face difficult things because they are unwilling to give up.

Therefore, women refuse to be women and learn to rely on men. If he doesn't even give a woman a chance to rely on him, it's time to seriously consider whether this man should continue to be together.

Second, whether the promise to women can be fulfilled.

It doesn't matter whether a man is willing to give a promise to a woman, because anyone can talk about it. A man's promise to a woman is rarely fulfilled, which is a sign that a man really loves a woman.

If a man always promises a lot to a woman, but never keeps it, then a woman should consider the sincerity of a man to herself. Because the most important thing in cherished love is honesty. If you can't even do this, it means that men don't take themselves seriously at all.

Therefore, if the man around you always promises himself, but rarely keeps it, don't make excuses for him, and don't delude yourself into thinking that he loves you.

Third, will you be impatient with women?

Most of men's personalities are bold and unconstrained, but after meeting the woman they like, most of this boldness will be hidden, leaving women with tenderness and security. In front of the woman you love, you are often reluctant to show your bad temper to the woman, while men who don't care about women won't.

Men who are always impatient with women often don't love women very much. It's too late to care about the woman you love. How can they be willing to vent their bad feelings on women? The person you love is always cute and playful. But people who don't care so much will make men uncomfortable.

So whether a man loves himself or not can be seen from many small details. And women always like to deceive themselves and always make excuses for men in their hearts, which is why readers are confused, helpless and ridiculous when they fall in love for five years and finally break up.

In a word, dear women, in love, what you need most is yourself. Therefore, happiness is the most important thing. Men who need to make excuses themselves will not love themselves very much.

So, why not live a chic life? There are so many men in the world, why not find a man who really cherishes himself instead of guarding a man who doesn't love himself very much.