I sent a message to my predecessor and didn't reply to you. What's the reason?

No matter how anxious and sad you are now, don't send messages to your ex again.

Because your current behavior has aroused strong dissatisfaction from your predecessor, it will only be hacked if you continue like this.

What do we do? If an ordinary person doesn't reply to the news, we won't feel anything at all, while the loved one doesn't reply to the news, which will cause great self-denial in the long-term consumption and waiting.

Many people are used to giving themselves a seemingly most reasonable explanation when they can't accept or can't figure out why their predecessors didn't reply to their messages. He doesn't like me? He hates me.

In fact, this is also a kind of self-deception, you will subconsciously not return the message = don't care about me = I am not important.

To protect myself from being. I'm not important? Will you use harm? Completely deny it? The way to form a self-protection mechanism can keep you from falling into a quagmire. However, pretending not to care about the feelings you really care about is another kind of pain.

You should realize that you don't return messages. You are not important. You're not answering messages? He doesn't like you anymore

Then why didn't your ex return your message after the breakup? It's probably because there is something wrong with the message you sent.

First of all, don't send some meaningless messages.

Like what? Miss you? , for example? What are you doing? Like what? I want to talk to you. Is it okay? ..... What kind of response do you want from this sentence?

If you have something to say, it's useless to say it, otherwise it will only make your predecessor very disgusted with you. You are a stranger to her.

No one has the obligation to take care of strangers' emotions, especially when you have upset her many times.

Therefore, don't send meaningless messages after breaking up, it will only make the other party feel that you are puzzling and have nothing to do.

Secondly, don't send your ex some information that doesn't look good, hoping that the other party will feel bad about you after seeing it.

Please remember: once you break up, this is your relationship. Don't cut it. The other party has no obligation to take care of your emotions.

It must be a positive you who can attract the other person back, not one? Not without her? ,? Live on this man? Dear you.

For your ex, your poor sales can't affect her mood at all. On the contrary, there are two negative effects:

She will be complacent and think that you are a loser who can't leave her. Fortunately, she chose to break up with you.

(2) She will be very nervous and afraid that you will drag yourself into the water, so she wants to distance herself from you.

What can attract a person to do something is always a positive emotion. If you don't sell well, you will not only get the other party's heartache, but also make the other party feel that you are of low value? Excuse me, what do you want?

Thirdly, even if you really think that breaking up is your reason, don't apologize to your ex frequently.

Yes, when you apologize for the first time, your ex may be moved, and you may feel that you are not as bad as you thought, but breaking up is a heavy blow to anyone and a negative thing, and you apologize to the other party again and again, which is to drag the other party back to the quagmire of negative emotions and let the other party constantly remember what they did wrong during that time.

So, if you want to apologize to the other party, find a time to say it sincerely, once is enough, and don't keep writing a review to the other party no matter whether the other party returns to you or not.

If you think you are right, the other person will think you are sincere, but in fact such behavior will only make the other person unhappy.

Finally, don't say anything that has nothing to do with each other.

Tell the truth and share your life. For lovers in love, it is because they like you that they are interested in hearing a lot about you.

Do you think your own business is funny and others care? No, actually, people don't care about your business, just to give you face.

So, since you have both broken up, there is no reason to let others give you face and listen to a bunch of things you have. Don't treat your ex as a punch card machine and a tree hole. This attitude will only make the other person think you are annoying.

Some people may say: then I want to show my change, I want to make a second attraction, how can I make the other person realize that I am changing?

Friend, there is such a thing as a circle of friends. Do you think it's weird?

Private chat is different, private chat is one-on-one, and the circle of friends is one-to-many. If you can show your changes in your circle of friends, the other person will not only think that you are intentional, but also think that you are seriously trying to change yourself.

So, if you can't find anything to say, don't talk to each other privately, try to find a topic. Choosing to show your changes in the circle of friends is the correct way to attract again.

Above, the feelings after breaking up are already weak. At this time, if you don't know how to harass the other party, don't ask the other party why they don't return your message.

Don't blame the other party for not returning the message. Ask yourself first: What did you send?

Next, let's analyze the psychology and reasons why my predecessor didn't return your message.

First, you can't face the past

It's not that your ex didn't return your message, but that he didn't give you a chance to save it.

Many people have been deleted and hacked after breaking up. When you send a message, the other party doesn't reply or delete you, which also proves that he still has expectations for you and is giving you a chance.

The reason why he didn't reply to you is that he still has bad feelings for you. Once some of your words and actions hurt him, he is very sad. He doesn't want to talk to you or see the past.

You are like a mirror at this moment. Every time I face you, I will see my grievances or unbearable.

So he chose to escape, which was shameful but useful. This is a natural reaction.

In fact, he doesn't know if he should do this. Of course, I don't know how long I will escape. Run as long as you can.

It depends on who can hold on. One day, you finally inspire the other person's negative emotions, and maybe the other person will vent everything. In fact, this is a very important turning point in the recovery.

If you can properly appease the other person's negative emotions, it is an opportunity to solve the problem, let him fully express himself, and you learn to bear and accept;

If you are carried away by your emotions, the conflict will intensify and what is waiting for you will be hacked.

The second is to worry about repeating the same mistakes.

After breaking up, not all the people who broke up will be relieved. Occasionally, they wonder if this breakup is right and whether they want to get back together.

The other party knows that you want him back. He is cold to you and refuses you again and again, but he just can't let you go.

But his attitude has not changed, because he has never seen your change and can't see the hope in you. Or afraid that your change is just a temporary disguise to get back together.

He is not sure whether you have reflected on this relationship, and he is not sure whether the relationship between two people will repeat the same mistakes after giving you a chance.

I don't want to give a chance at all, but I'm afraid of giving it. This is the psychological contradiction of the rescued after breaking up, mainly because they are worried about repeating the same mistakes. Admittedly, most people have no ability to fundamentally change the way they deal with intimate relationships. In the end, they couldn't understand each other and found a good way to get along. After the reunion, they just tortured each other again and consumed the only old feelings.

So, if you want him to talk, you have to appease him first.

Make some changes and reflections first, and let him see your sincerity. The worries in his heart will slowly let go.

Third, you are pushing too hard.

It is what we usually call a strong sense of demand, which puts too much pressure on the other side.

Many people always have a strong sense of need when chatting with their ex. This sense of need will send a signal to the predecessor, that is?

As long as he lets go a little, he will never get rid of your entanglement. As long as he dares to disappear again, there will be endless harassment afterwards.

Think about it. I finally met a little reply from the other party, so I clung to it and wanted to express everything I wanted to ask and say, and started a series of torture. The other party didn't reply to your message for a while and then began to bombard with information.

Do you think the other party dares to return?

If so, he will be very cautious when replying to your message. I will even refuse to reply to any of your messages for fear of saying something wrong.

At this time, indifference is the wisest thing to do, because if there is no response, your monologue will not last long.

You should properly control your sense of need. It will be much better to talk about the topic step by step.

I want to tell many of my counselors not to blame the reason for breaking up, and not to blame the other person for not listening to you. He doesn't care about me? I'm not important? . No matter whether the other party returns your message or not, I hope you can realize it? I'm important? .

The other person doesn't respond to you because he can't face you because he still has feelings. Really no feelings, how to chat with my ex or no waves. We often talk about a scum ex who broke up and still depends on the other party not to get back together.

The other person does not give you response and hope before he is uncertain, which shows that he is still a responsible person. We will respond politely to strangers' news. We think this is the basic way to communicate with people. Pretending to be cold is also because, for him, you are very different.

The starting point is what do you have in his heart? Different? .

Generally speaking, the most important thing for two people to be together is comfort. If you can't be comfortable, what makes you think the other person will be comfortable? Love is not bondage, but walking side by side.

The other party broke up with himself. Instead of trying every means to keep him, it is better to improve yourself from now on. When you become stronger, you can control it and refuse it.