I met a girl. I was very enthusiastic when I chatted with her on Monday, but I chatted with her on Friday.

Nowadays, many magazines offer these to girls, as well as the TV series "Happy Events in the Fertile Field". Take a look, it is very detailed, but it cannot be copied mechanically. It must be related to the actual situation. What I want to say is that self-confidence is the most important.

You also need to get to know him, the so-called "know yourself and know the enemy"

"Telephone Rules".

Decipher the message code

Find out the secrets behind the three most common yet puzzling voice messages...

·Knot Baba's incompatible preface and follow-up style

"Hey, ah, it's me, what, I just want to make a phone call to see if you are there. It's nothing, I'll leave you a message by the way..."

Nervousness is the biggest characteristic of this type of message, which shows that he cares about you, and he also cares about the impression he leaves on you.

·Purely business type

"It's me. Call me back as soon as possible, Bye!"

Women usually feel that this tone of voice is too harsh and gentle. Too rude. But don’t forget, this is how men usually use the phone. In their eyes, the phone is just a tool for quickly transmitting information. Don't worry about the formality, just this - it's obvious he wants to talk to you.

·Sudden and incomprehensible type

"I am outside with my friends, but I want to call you, say hello, and listen to your voice. That's it. "Goodbye!"

What does he mean? Want me to call him back? Jealous of me hanging out with other people? The answers to all these questions seem to be ambiguous, and only one thing is certain - although he is with someone else, he is still thinking about you - he likes you and has not run away.

Men's "Telephone Rules" - Telephone Etiquette Explained

·He is obviously interested in me, but he has been reluctant to take the initiative.

What should I do to get him to ask for my phone number? You must know that many men are shy, and many men are too "stupid" to understand your hints. These two types of men usually will not take the initiative unless they are 100% sure that you are willing to give him your phone number. . As a smart woman, of course you have to relieve him of the pressure, and taking the initiative to ask for his phone number is the best policy. If you think this seems a bit too "broad", then try to gently say this when breaking up on a date: "You can call me."

·My caller ID Told me that he had called me when I was not home but had not left any messages.

Should I call him back? If so, should I mention that I knew he was calling?

Taking the initiative to call him on the pretext that he has called you through the caller ID seems to be a very good idea, but in fact it can only be regarded as a third-rate method. Remember, take action when it's time to take action. The "telephone game" also has its own set of rules. Especially in the early stages of a relationship between two people, it is particularly important to abide by the rules. Only after he leaves you a clear message—such as leaving a message asking you to call you back—is it your turn to act.

·He hasn’t called me since the date. Does that mean he’s not interested in me at all?

This is obviously not a good sign. Generally speaking, when a man is obsessed with a woman, unless all the phones at hand are broken, he will be eager to call his sweetheart. Another possibility is that although he likes you very much, he doesn't know what your attitude will be, so he hesitates and would rather torture himself over and over again than dare to call you. I advise you not to consider this kind of indecisive man and let him pay the price for his incompetence!

·I have already left a message on his home phone, should I still call his cell phone?

It depends on what kind of person he is - if he is the kind of person who will say "Why don't you call my cell phone?", then everything is OK, just call him until he finds it. So far. If you have left him a message before and he responded immediately, then there is no need to pursue it like this.

It should be noted that if you are not sure what kind of person he is, or you have just started dating, then in this case, be patient and don't be too hasty.

·If I call him back later, will it increase my attraction to him?

The answer is - "Absolutely correct"! When a man is troubled by the question "Does she love me? Doesn't she love me?", your opportunity is here! As a man, he must feel uneasy after facing the unknown you taking the initiative for the first time. If you forget to be reserved at this time and answer the phone too quickly, letting him know that you are equally eager (or even more eager than him), he will feel that the challenge has been reduced a lot, and everything will become boring. .

In addition to phone calls, there are also text messages. We had a great time meeting each other for the first time, and then you received the following text message: How are you? Nice to meet you. Let's meet again. I'll pick you up at six o'clock.

You really want to reply: See you at six o'clock!

You must reply: I really want to go, but I have already made an appointment. Can we meet next Monday?

Why?

You are indeed very eager to meet him, and you even start to fantasize about a beautiful relationship, but please give yourself at least a few days of space. When men are tempted, they will be as eager to establish a relationship as a hungry tiger pounces on food. Doesn't take your feelings into consideration, and you should be the one controlling the pace at this time. He can't go from a stranger to your boyfriend in a few days. He should know that you have your own life and fun. , every minute of your time is valuable. You can't reply with "Sorry I don't have time" because you are still looking forward to performing on the same stage with him.

This method is not to oppose your natural development, but to give the man room to move forward, and to leave enough room for yourself. You still encourage him to ask you out again, but don’t forget You really need to reserve your own time for your friends and family, and slowing down at these times is definitely a wise move.

●A text message from the handsome guy I met at the dance last week: Where are you? Going out for a drink?

You really want to reply: Where to go? I'll be out right away!

You must reply: Sorry, who are you?

Why?

He has two full weeks to call you. Unfortunately, he seems to be very busy. He only spends 15.2 seconds to send you a text message when he feels he needs a female companion. . Has he never thought of asking you out officially in these two weeks?

Don’t give him everything he wants, he still has a lot to work on! This setback will remind him that he is too self-righteous and presumptuous, and you are definitely not the kind of frivolous girl who can be summoned with a glass of wine.

●After meeting my ex-boyfriend in a shopping mall, he sent a text message: She is still so beautiful, I miss you very much, let’s find a place to sit and chat some other time.

You really want to reply: You finally understand me!

You should take: Ignoring is the best way. The most likely reply is: Thank you, let’s talk about it later.

Why?

It’s easy to send a text message with just a few clicks, but it’s very difficult to call you, let alone chat face to face. If he really wants to see you, and is even ready to take a step towards a reunion, He shouldn't just send a text message, if he truly wants to reconcile, his actions won't stop there.

It is undeniable that the moment you receive the text message, various memories of your past will appear in your heart, but he may not have much expectation for a reply. If you do not reply, the depression will affect the two of you. Personally, but you need to push him to take action at this point to find out if he's really willing to give up texting and talk on the phone instead. If your indifference results in another text message from him, you should reply clearly and tell him that you want to talk in person instead of this way.

Give him hope. The premise is that you want to start over with him. If your love history has deeply hurt you, it is recommended that you turn around and walk away, and don't go back to the old road. Say to him: You look good, take care.

●At two o'clock in the morning on Saturday, a man who had had an affair with me sent a text message: I've been looking for you everywhere and really want to see you. Can I come over now?

You really want to reply: Don’t you know my address?

What you should do: you must reply nothing, turn your phone off to silent, and sleep well. If you find him making dozens of calls the next morning, send him a text message asking: Are you crazy?

Why?

Anyone who tries to contact you through text messages at that time is an act that you are not responsible for afterwards. Why doesn't he text you during the day? Men are easily impulsive under the influence of alcohol.

Remember, be wary of late-night text messages, which are usually summoned by the devil of desire and full of hints of lust and debauchery. Don't give any chance to a man who wouldn't dare contact you while sober!

●You are making dinner and getting ready to watch a TV series, and he says: What are you going to do tonight? Have a date?

You really want to reply: No, what about you?

You must reply: I'm making dinner, let's meet up next week.

Why?

If he really wants to ask you out, he should notify you at least a few hours in advance, and it should not be through text messages. Let him know that you are a social animal with a rich spare time and a well-organized schedule. Very full, and you never change your plans for a casual date with a guy.

Only good sisters and relatives have the right to ask to meet you without saying hello in advance. For such men, you should politely teach him a lesson. Those who do not change after repeated admonitions can be directly excluded from consideration.

You have to believe that your time is very precious. It is his honor to take the time to date him. Of course, if you really want to meet him, it is a bit difficult to pretend, but it is not appropriate for him to propose a date without saying hello in advance. Men cannot be too tolerant. Your principled approach to your own time and arrangements can remind him to respect you enough.

●He made a date but let you go. He sent a text message saying: I'm really sorry for attending my colleague's farewell party at last minute. Can we make another date next week?

You really want to reply: No more dates, asshole!

You must reply: No.

Why?

A man who doesn’t respect you and your time will never get a second chance. A phone call to cancel an appointment only takes 5 seconds and wastes your entire day.

It is not uncommon for men to do this kind of thing. Someone once analyzed this phenomenon, and the only conclusion is: he does not love you as much as you think. Putting aside etiquette and respect, you can think about it from their perspective. If you fell in love with someone and had the opportunity to meet him, would you let it go easily? Even if there is an emergency and you have to miss an appointment, you will immediately pick up the phone and inform him.

For men, this is a very low-level behavior. Don’t think that you are narrow-minded. The more correct way is to delete it together with your mobile phone number.

And their Achilles’ heel

Aimei: No matter how good your character is, if you lack this, there will be no encounter. Men, without exception, admire beautiful women.

Be sociable: The more talkative a man is, the happier he will be. But putting too much emphasis on it will only make men wonder if I have met a social butterfly. Because I reduce my enthusiasm, I feel it is safer to just be ordinary friends.

Jealousy: If there is no jealousy at all, it will make men feel insecure about love. Does she care so little about me that she is not interested at all? Letting him be nervous once in a while is also good for love.

Cooking skills: Used as an excuse to go to his house, but it doesn’t make sense if the skills are too poor. Conquering a man's heart starts with conquering his stomach.

Conversation skills: At parties, it becomes the protagonist, but be careful not to be too argumentative or talkative. Men are argumentative animals, so they will not be willing to marry someone they see in the mirror.

Be attentive: Men sometimes care about very small things, so be careful as trouble comes from your mouth.

Saving: It is not important when you are in love, but when you talk about marriage, it becomes the focus of your choice.

Poor appearance: "I can't do it without you by my side" is an element that makes men intoxicated.

Men have a dog-like instinct to protect food.

Willful: It is more or less loved by men. If it is used together with pitiful appearance, it will win every battle.

Cooperation: If you are invited to attend a drinking party between men or a gathering between men and women, you have to cooperate with him occasionally even if you don't like it.

Shyness: Without this, people will feel that they are not in love enough, which is considered a trump card of the character.

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