If you don't return my messages, consider him dead.

Recently, I found that people in my circle of friends generally got a disease, including me. Many times, when I see the news, I automatically reply in my mind, which leads to the burning of people accidentally. When the other person asked me why I didn't reply, I opened the dialog box with a puzzled face, only to find that I didn't reply.

Tell a story. Once upon a time, when a man saw a message, he would subconsciously want it back and even consider the wording. I just happened to be delayed by my hand, so I thought I would come back late, and then when he finished, he had forgotten.

When he remembered, maybe a few hours or even days later, the best reply time had passed, so he put it on hold. Many times, for a long time, and finally he died.

When I say death here, I don't mean physical and mental death, but I have no place in this social group. Cang Kejia said, "Some people are alive, but they are dead.".

Suppose you have a friend who always doesn't like to reply to your messages. As soon as he said it, he made an excuse to say,' I'm too busy, but in fact, he replied in my mind'. After a long time, are you still willing to chat with him and make friends with him?

How long can the friendship between people who always forget to reply to their friends' messages last? And how can a person without friends have a sense of existence in society? There is no connection, no group, no one can cooperate with him, so it is no different from death.

I have a best friend. She is a slow-witted person. It took her a long time and great courage to open up and accept me, and then showed her most enthusiastic side. She likes to tell me everything, and I am the sweetest person to her. Of course, this was before we met.

The reason why we became strangers is embarrassing, because I don't like answering her messages.

Because it is far away, she will tell me what she did every day, met the sun, and went out to eat with Beijing. Someone added her, but she didn't know what to talk about. She will also tell me that she got a job and made a plan for her future life to cheer me up and share her love view with me.

I always don't answer her, partly because I answered her with my brain and then forgot, and partly because I always feel that I am good with her, and nothing will happen without answering her, which will not affect our relationship for 78 years. At first, I didn't reply to her, so I sent it again, and QQ WeChat Weibo message was sent again. Later, she stopped sending it. You look at others in a strange way. You have nothing to be afraid of. You always hurt the people closest to you and the people you cherish the most. I didn't realize this until she commented on it several times in my circle of friends and deleted it. It's over. I went back to our chat interface, and the last chat showed six months ago.

It was only when I happened to talk about her with other people that I realized that she was moving, that she had started selling crystals, and that she had new friends, but I knew nothing about it. While wandering around, a group of people went downstairs to her house, called her and got through, and then she hung up on me. I was confused at that time and my heart was a little soft. I feel ants crawling around my chest. Later, I stood under the tree and slowly took a few fuzzy shadows.

Maybe I am a person who likes the new and hates the old, and I am a little fearless. I didn't show up when she needed me most, hugged her when she was bursting with negative energy and told her there was still me. So for someone who doesn't return her message, I'm dead in her heart.

I still regret what I did, and I still owe her an apology, but it's no use that I can't get out of that step.

So first of all, I want everyone to understand that it is very rare to have a friend who sends you messages on his own initiative. Some people may think that they are too busy to chat with others and talk nonsense.

What you said may really be irrelevant. The topic may be as small as having a litter of puppies at home, or passing by the park and finding flowers in full bloom.

These are all very important.

No one would say that to someone who doesn't care. Some people say that I am not cute at all, but when I meet someone I care about, I am not only cute, but also loveable to death.

Nowadays, the pace of society is so fast that everyone has his own goals and rhythm. Besides caring about you, I can't think of a better reason for someone to take the initiative to talk about trifles with you. In the face of such a person who wants to share with you "clouds in the sky are like cotton candy" but doesn't appreciate each other, life will inevitably be a little sad.

The "Buddhist" culture that was blown up some time ago is generally characterized by the state of "whatever you want, whatever you do, it doesn't matter". Buddhists generally don't make too many friends, don't get too close, and they can have friends or not. They look down on everything and don't seek to win or lose. It is said that everyone grows into an independent individual, and no one can live without anyone. We are destined to be friends, so we don't force you to go to the end with me. I won't hold you back, and you don't hold me back. If I make you unhappy, you can go.

I mean, bullshit.

Say "I'm ready to spend my life with you, and I'm ready for you to leave at any time." This is the best emotional view, affectionate and not entangled. " It's all bullshit

Responding to other people's information in time is the most basic kindness. Interpersonal relationship is sublimated from constant communication, but you even miss the opportunity of communication. You lose not only a friend, but also communication skills.

Maybe you are really busy and can't chat with your friends for a long time, but remember to explain clearly why, get together with him when you are free, and don't ignore any friends who are worth your time.

I'm more and more afraid of my friend leaving. They never seem to learn to say goodbye. They have disappeared from my life.

I used to feel that there was not much less than one, and there was not much more than one. Leaving shows that we have irresolvable differences. Let's go. We'll have new friends. But then I felt more and more that clothes were not as good as new ones and people were not as good as old ones. I still like old friends, understand each other's temperament and weaknesses, and get along naturally and casually. A little talk about impulsive regret and youth, as if time stayed forever a few years ago.

So even if new friends can chat again, don't ignore those old friends who will send you messages on their own initiative, and don't let yourself die in their circles again and again.

Of course, this is a general statement. I'm not saying that if you don't reply to him, people will blacklist you.

A friend, an old friend of 1978, knows the other party's attributes too well and doesn't care too much about whether the other party's information can be returned, because when something really happens, a phone call will be ignored.

On New Year's Day, he called me and I said, "You are so stingy. Now you just come to chat with me. Why didn't you give me a red envelope when you went to Christmas! " He was very helpless: "Elder sister, go and see for yourself. From June 22nd to now, 65438+February ... "

When I saw it, I was embarrassed. I swear I will reply to the message in time. He laughed it off and shrugged his shoulders.

Indeed, there will be such people, but the more such friends need to be cherished, right? Besides, don't try this easily, because you won't die until you die.

It's not easy to make friends, but do it and cherish it.