Why does my husband have to go out for a few days every time we quarrel? He's not answering his phone or answering his text messages.

1. Self-space: Some people may choose to leave in the face of conflict to protect their emotions and space. They may think that leaving the quarrelling environment for a while can ease the tense atmosphere and calm themselves down.

2. Dealing with problems: Some people may not be good at facing conflicts and need time to think and deal with their emotions. They may think that they can handle these problems better by leaving home.

3. Avoid conflicts: Some people may not want to reply to you directly by phone or text message to avoid further arguments. They may want you to calm down and discuss it further.

4. Don't understand the importance of communication: Some people may not understand the importance of communication and think that leaving is the solution to the problem. They may think this is a way to avoid problems.

You can consider talking frankly with your husband about this problem. If you feel troubled, you can seek the help of a professional marriage counselor.