Girls take the initiative to say that they regret breaking up and want to get back together.

Girls take the initiative to say that they regret breaking up and want to get back together.

The girl volunteered that she regretted breaking up and wanted to get back together. Whether it is love or marriage, men and women are prone to quarrel for a long time, and sometimes they break up in a rage. I'll take you to see a girl who volunteered to regret breaking up and want to get back together.

The girl volunteered that she regretted breaking up and wanted to get back together. 1 1, directly explain.

Tell him you regret it. Just text, call or ask out. This is the simplest. You don't have to be suspicious and hesitant to see his attitude clearly. If he just can't let you go, then everyone is happy. If he has no intention of getting back together, forget it. Your fate is over.

2. Ask a friend to convey it.

Girls are thin-skinned, so it is a good idea to ask others to convey them. It can not only express your desire to get back together, but also avoid embarrassment. After all, you broke up first. In this method, choosing the client is the key, and the pig teammates must be absolutely eliminated, preferably your friends.

3. Release the willingness to get back together

If you meet frequently, you don't need to explain directly, just express your desire to get back together. If his radar is sensitive enough, you will know what you mean. However, the shortcomings of this method are obvious and need the understanding of the other party.

Personal experience tells me that returning to grass is really not delicious, so it is better to start again. There must be a reason to break up, and it will not be eliminated just because you broke up for a short time, so if the problem still exists after getting back together, you will eventually break up.

First think clearly about why you regret it, understand why you broke up in the first place, then decide whether to get back together, and finally see which method is better. For young couples, it is also common to be on and off. Determine what you want and pursue it bravely. Some regrets can be made up, and some are irreparable, only for a lifetime.

The girl volunteered that she regretted breaking up and wanted to get back together. 2 1. Rationalize your real desire to get back together: "I don't apologize directly, I don't show weakness, I don't kneel."

Many people will feel sorry for each other, because they broke up on their own initiative and ended this relationship, but you must look at it objectively. At present, your main goal is "saving", so you must be as result-oriented as possible. Don't let your guilt get the upper hand, and encourage you to apologize directly. As we have said before, your clear apology is likely to backfire.

In addition, many people are prone to make a mistake-being controlled by "separation" and can't help but show weakness: "It is too difficult for me to leave you. I really can't live without you. Can you forgive me? " This is equivalent to giving the other person a hint that "if I want to get her, it will be easy", but he will be twice as "unavailable".

There are still many people who, because they love each other too much, try to avoid each other and subconsciously kneel down and lick each other: "If you don't like it, can't I change it?" Will I listen to you in the future? "

In this case, even if you succeed, the probability of breaking up again later is quite high, because you put yourself in an absolute emotional trough, which means that once you want him to do something for you in turn, he will immediately think that you have changed, you don't love him, and he will still leave you.

2. Make it clear that "men will go through three emotional stages after breaking up" to capture the best opportunity to recover.

First, the pleasure period (3-5 days) As we said before, after breaking up, men are unwilling to realize their mistakes and need healing. Under this kind of stimulation, they will try their best to liberate the happy feeling of "breaking up". "Finally, no one cares, and finally you can enjoy a person's life." At this time, it is equivalent to saving them.

Ⅱ. After the high-frequency pleasure in the quiet period (1-3 days), they will gradually step into calm, as if everything is no different, as if things that can bring them "pleasure", such as drinking with friends and playing games all night, become boring and ordinary, and then remembering "breaking up" seems to be a past tense experience, without too many emotional waves. At this time, we must save them.

Three. The retrospective period (10-2 1 day) is influenced by past emotional inertia. At this stage, they began to miss their predecessors. After all, single life and spouse life are completely different experiences. He will begin to miss the beautiful things you have experienced in the past, constantly touch the scene, and even begin to reflect on some contradictory details in the past. At this time, he will save himself.

Considering that there may be many people who are "eager for peace", they may feel panic when they see three emotional stages. Once I have a new lover around me, what should I do if he really thinks I have put it down? What if he forgets me? "

You might as well put yourself in the shoes. If you are in a relationship and suffer a lot of contusions, there is another person around you at this time. What was your first reaction? Is it "alert"? Will he hurt me again? Even when we start to get along, we will subconsciously compare each other with our predecessors.

Don't burden yourself with meaningless anxiety. Your position is not so easily replaced by others. I've met many people, even if they really established a relationship with their new lovers, but they broke up not long after they got together, because after comparison, they still felt that their predecessors were better, so, ah, their mentality must be stable.

3. Recognize each other's current attitude, hide their true wishes, and gradually get in touch harmoniously.

So how to identify it? You can tentatively send a message when the other party is not busy: "I don't know if you have time, I'll think about it and still want to talk to you."

At this time, the other party's reaction is nothing more than three kinds:

A, reply+tone is more harmonious, ask what you want to talk about (the signal is good, you can make a short statement)

B, reply+bad tone, with strong emotions, indicating that there is nothing to talk about between you (the signal is moderate, you can jump and communicate)

C, don't reply (be careful here, don't make a judgment right away, the other party may just have something at present and haven't seen the news). The interval is about 2 hours or more (the signal is moderate, and you can do guiding communication).

Now let's talk about what we should do next in response to these three reactions.

First of all, in response to A's reaction, if the time happens to be in his "retrospective period", his reaction shows that he really wants to know what you want to say to himself. There is a high probability that he already wants to get back together with you, but he didn't mention it for various reasons. At this point, you can make a short statement:

"I think a lot, when I'm not around you. Indeed, I did a lot of inappropriate things before, which also made you sad (proper avoidance), but I don't know what happened at that time. I don't really want to hurt you, but my emotions have accumulated and I am obsessed with it. I may have said a lot of hurtful things to you,,,,, (rationalizing contradictions and shifting). Now think about it. Actually, I've always wanted to go with you since I met you. I don't know if you can trust me. I really don't want to leave regrets for "us" (throw option one), but if you still feel particularly uncomfortable, then I am willing to take a step back. I don't want to put pressure on you. Let's be friends (throw option 2). This time, the decision is up to you. "

You should have noticed that I threw out two options. It seems that you gave him a choice, but it's not entirely true. Which of these two options is good for you?

On the one hand, we can find out his attitude directly. If he agrees, your recovery will be natural. If he doesn't want to, with the radical background of Option 1, Option 2 seems not so difficult to accept, and your contact can be maintained. At this time, you can continue the "low-profile inquiry": "I really hurt you, didn't I? /You are still sad, aren't you? " If the other person replies, you can calm down a little. If the other person avoids talking, make way to end the chat: "I see, it doesn't matter, you should be quiet first."

Then, there is B's reaction, which is actually the same as the avoidance we talked about in the second half of A: he is resisting to get back together with you, but the slight difference is that B's avoidance is a strong dissatisfaction. At this time, we can make a leap communication:

"I'm not here to get back together with you. In just two minutes, I can finish it right away. " I couldn't sleep that day. It suddenly occurred to me that you told me once before. After being together for so long, I never thought that we could become what we are now. I know a lot of things can't be forced. I came to see you today just to tell you that when we broke up, I said a lot, but many of them were actually impulsive.

No matter what he replies to you later, you just need to grasp the principle of "love each other and hope that all shall be well". After this communication, I believe that his feelings for you will not be so extreme, which can be regarded as laying a solid foundation for redemption.

Finally, reaction C, which can be said to be very common. If he doesn't reply for a long time, it means that he is uncertain about your current relationship. At this point, you can edit another message for unilateral guidance and communication:

"Maybe you are very busy, in fact, I want to talk to you, that is, there are a few words to tell you at last. This breakup has changed me a lot. ,,,,,, (* *) It is said that feelings are two-way. When a relationship breaks up, both of them are at fault. I've thought a lot recently and found that I really have many problems. When I think about it, I wonder, why? But it's all over now. I came to see you this time to tell you that many words are really insincere. If I hurt you, don't take it personally. I sincerely hope that you will be well in the future. "

No matter whether he comes back or not, no matter what he comes back, you just need to grasp the state of "your prejudice against him has been completely put down" As long as you don't care, he will not be too aggressive as a man.

After this screening, I believe you already know his attitude towards you. Then you just need to continue to recognize your "ex-girlfriend" status and get along with him.

During this period, you can expand your social life, establish a circle of friends, and create an illusion that you are really peaceful at present. In the meantime, you can do three things:

1 praise his social dynamics at the same time, but the frequency of attention must not be too high, just at 4 o'clock. 1, don't praise it every second, at least control it every 15-40 minutes.

② On the 4th-5th day after this communication, you can push a circle of friends with vague feelings, such as sharing a love song in the middle of the night, to make him think that you have put it down and make him unclear about you.

③ On the 7th-8th day of this communication, rationalize an excuse (a reason he has to, such as receiving SMS verification code) and ask him for help to see if his attitude towards you has eased.

Once you feel that the other person has reduced you, you can be your friend and communicate with him, such as:

So slowly approach and open the topic.

4, ambiguous escalation, emotional final confirmation, and then "breakup" negative weakening.

As long as the above stages go smoothly, your relationship will easily get better and better. At this time, you must pay attention to seize the opportunity to care about him. For example, he has encountered problems at work and various situations have occurred at home.

At this time, you should approach him in an intimate state, give him some comfort and some reasonable suggestions, make him realize your existence value, bring yourself affirmation, security and pleasure, and make him rely on you again bit by bit.

In the meantime, you can also complain to the other party, but be careful that you must confine yourself to complaining, do not seek comfort from him, show a high degree of independence, and make him realize that he has emotional dependence on you, while you still stay at the level of "friends spitting" to awaken his new round of "conquest desire" for you.

What you need to do next is to cooperate with him, cooperate with his conquest of you, be good to you, and show your capture and cherish, but you must pay attention. If you go too far, you should refuse it properly. Let me give you an example:

Maybe he is used to chatting with you and sharing with him every day. If you are in a bad mood one day, you can refuse to share it with him and try to be alone, or you suddenly don't call him back one day and tell him that a friend just called to answer the phone.

Simply put, you should give him further opportunities at any time, give him a hint that "I may not need you at any time", and stimulate him to go further with you and become your priority.

Many of the suggestions I gave above are based on psychological strategies extended from the psychology of sexual relations.

In fact, whether it is "intimate relationship management" or "getting back together", in the final analysis, it is a process of constant game and convergence.

Don't give up easily because of one breakup. Everything has two sides. Let's look at it from another angle: perhaps it is because we have been apart once that we can better appreciate each other's preciousness.

There is a saying of the older generation that I have always liked: love can keep fresh, not by change, but by repair. This is also for everyone.

The girl volunteered that she regretted breaking up and wanted to get back together.

When breaking up is a foregone conclusion, if you cry and make trouble again, it will reduce his good opinion of you and even leave him with more negative impressions. As we all know, it must be hard to break up.

However, as long as you want to recover, as long as you don't want to give up this relationship, you must suppress your pain, don't cry in front of men, don't let yourself lose your manners, and don't humble yourself to stay. If a woman does this, a man will only see your rude face and make him feel no pity at all. How can he stay with you?

On the contrary, if a woman can still maintain elegance and dignity after breaking up, how to dress herself and let men see your goodness. Then, when the contradiction between them fades, men will take the initiative to contact you.

Improper contact.

After breaking up, a woman should know what to do and what not to do if she wants to make it back. Most women choose the wrong method, and will choose to contact again and again, beg again and again, and disturb again and again to save.

As everyone knows, this is confusing and entangled for men. The more you pester and disturb, the worse his impression of you will be. If you seriously affect his normal life, then he will even pull you black and make you lose the last hope of recovery.

What one needs is space, not freedom. If you show up in front of him every day, he will certainly get bored. And when you don't contact him and leave him alone for a while, he will get used to it and want to contact you on his own initiative. Therefore, don't entangle after breaking up, and don't contact at will. Men will naturally contact you.

Let oneself become more outstanding

If you want a man to ask you out to get back together, you must make him feel regret. How does a man regret his broken feelings? The key is to let men see that after you leave him, you are not depressed, but getting better and better.

Everyone is jealous and unyielding. If you haven't been in love, then how good you become, your influence on him is not so great. But you were in love, and that's the point.

Seeing that former lovers are getting better and better, men will regret their mistakes and then want to get close to you again and get to know you. After that, you just need to keep your attraction and wait for him to talk to you.