How to maintain a long-distance relationship

Question 1: How to maintain a long-distance relationship? The first thing is to trust each other. No matter what you do, it starts with trust. The second thing is to keep in touch frequently, such as calling, sending text messages, or checking in. If you are in a long-distance relationship, the most important thing is not to doubt each other and lead to misunderstandings. I accept this. Too bad, don’t be like me. Also, remember no matter how tired you are outside, don’t tell your partner when you’re chatting, otherwise she will feel tired chatting with you. This is a comment. I hope the poster adopts it. !

Question 2: In a long-distance relationship, what should boys do to maintain their love? Long-distance relationships are very common now. Whether they can finally get together depends on the joint efforts of both parties. My friend and I also have a long-distance relationship, and now we have come to terms with it, because we are planning to get married. The following contents are some suggestions for you. I wish your lovers will get married eventually. The story of the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl is poignant and moving. They are far apart in heaven and earth, but they meet each other every Chinese Valentine's Day. Although this kind of love is beautiful, it is too cruel for ordinary people. Long-distance love seems beautiful from a distance, but when we get close to it, it’s not so easy. It's challenging, it's dangerous, and not everyone can make it to the end. 1. Define your relationship The first issue in a long-distance relationship is that you must clarify what your relationship is before you separate, and what direction you want the relationship to develop in the future: do you just want to be friends, or do you want to go further? ? Is it necessary to have as many and close contacts as possible when it is convenient? Can these be the conditions for you to have true and strong love? Those decisive limiting factors are the most important. When things get worse, knowing the gaps in your relationship can help you draw a line between the two of you. It can also help you be less painful in a possible breakup, because You both know where each other stands. 2. Accept the fact of distance calmly If your relationship is really strong, talking openly and honestly is the most important part of maintaining a good relationship. Men are usually easier to endure the loneliness of separation. You must find something to kill time in your life. Don't feel particularly lonely just because you are bored or miss him, and don't complain or make unrealistic suggestions during your long-distance calls. Require. 3. We must keep communication smooth with each other. The two places are most afraid of anger and misunderstanding. Prolonged anger and misunderstanding will make the relationship between the two people indifferent, and may even allow poachers to take advantage of the situation. Make everything clear. Admit your mistakes when you should. When you are angry, if you tell him (her) what specific things he (she) did wrong and you don't like it, the other person may restrain himself next time; but if you are angry and say, "I don't care about you, you don't care about me either." Saying things like "I don't know if I will like others again" will probably only undermine the other person's confidence and create an unpleasant atmosphere. 4. You must trust each other and believe that you can be together. Even if you are separated, you must let your faith and belief support you. Constant confusion and lack of confidence in the future will shake your relationship. From time to time, express this kind of confidence and belief to each other: Although you are not together now, you have been working hard for a happy life in the future. When you no longer have any longing for your love, and even have a wait-and-see attitude, it can only be said to be your sorrow. 5. Use text messages, phone calls, and the Internet to maintain the most timely contact. Losing contact and being unable to communicate in time will make the other party feel strange, and the timely arrival of text messages, phone calls, and the Internet can help you feel the feeling of your lover by your side virtually. Maintain a certain frequency of meetings, preferably once every few months. The pain of lovesickness also needs to be released. A few days of sweetness can make up for the lovesickness of the past few months. If you don't get a response when you call or send a text message to the other party, you must have turned from sweet to anxious (or even angry), but at this time you should do your thing with peace of mind and understand that if he doesn't return your call, there must be something wrong with him. convenient. But on the other hand, if the other party calls or sends you a text message, no matter how inconvenient it is, as long as you have the phone by your side, at least give her a text message and don't make her anxious. 6. Keep it attentively *** A short separation is better than a newlywed. A brief reunion after separation will definitely make each other's love last. In addition, there are many new things that can increase the quality of long-distance love. In your spare time, do whatever you want to surprise your baby, such as sending a small card online, ordering a small gift for her, etc. Perhaps these things may seem like small actions at the time, but if you look back on them later, their aftertaste will be far greater than themselves.

7. Encourage each other. Make finding encouragement a habit, and the other person will be grateful for your understanding. It is also a good idea to show encouragement, help and praise in every communication. "Smile while talking on the phone". Your good mood can make both of you feel good.

Question 3: How to maintain a long-distance relationship? I really miss her. 30 points The most feared thing about long-distance relationships is that one person misses the other person so much, but the other person doesn’t miss her so much.

If this goes on for a long time, the person who misses you most will feel that he has given too much, and will gradually feel that it is unfair. When chatting, he will expand the problem and make the other person confused. , don’t know how to deal with it.

As time goes by, the number of people speaking the same language becomes less and less, and the feelings become weaker.

Therefore, treat her the way she treats you. If she becomes less enthusiastic about you, you have to find a way to make her enthusiastic.

Think from the other person's position.

Question 4: How long can a long-distance relationship last? How can we ensure that a long-distance relationship will not break up? Statistically speaking, the probability of breaking up is much greater for lovers who love at distance than for lovers who want to be in the same place. Especially long-distance relationships where both parties are under the age of 20, most of them end in failure.

There are many studies on long-distance relationships. One of the most important questions is what kind of contact strength and what kind of mentality can maintain a long-distance relationship better. An intuitive idea is that the closer the connection, the stronger the relationship should be. Is this really the case? Large-scale surveys have found that moderate-intensity contact, half an hour to an hour a day, is most conducive to long-term long-distance relationships; conversely, high-intensity contact, such as more than 2 hours a day of phone calls or online instant messaging, is not conducive to the development of a relationship. continued. Although the above findings are controversial, at least there is no credible evidence that high-strength ties have positive meanings.

Sternberg proposed the triangle love theory in 1988, believing that perfect love includes three aspects at the same time: sexual love guided by sexual desire and marked by physical (sexual) arousal; A close and lasting friendship based on appreciation of character, taste, cognition and judgment; a mutual relationship supported by commitment and responsibility. For simplicity, they will be called ***, intimacy and commitment respectively. Only intimacy and commitment is romantic love; only intimacy and commitment is foolish love; only intimacy and commitment is companionate love. If there is only ***, it is infatuation; if there is only commitment, it is empty love; if there is only intimacy, it is friendship.

Recently, this simple theory has been used to explain some behaviors in long-distance relationships.

First of all, by filling in a complex love scale, you can more accurately assess your partner's current relationship status. Zick Rubin surveyed University of Michigan students and found that the frequency of eye and physical contact between partners can be used to accurately predict their performance on survey scales. In other words, partners in passionate love (sexual love dominance) have significantly more eye contact and physical contact (unintentionally) than other partners. Hatfield directly defines sexual love as "a state of strong desire to be with the other person." If long-distance lovers have higher requirements for romantic love (which can also be estimated through a scale), then they will fall into conflicts. Meyer's survey found that these lovers who still have a "strong desire to be with each other" usually have longer phone calls (Meyer's survey only involved phone calls) and often feel frustrated during and at the end of the call - they want to be together. Hearing a familiar voice and regaining a familiar feeling, but nothing. In fact, I think the reason is that what they really crave is the taste (physical arousal) rather than the sound (spiritual arousal). On the other hand, those who are able to overcome long-term separation and finally enter into marriage often have the following two characteristics: First, the lover has passed the period of passionate love at this time, and his emotions have been increasingly invested in the spiritual aspects of the partner. In terms of development, the two parties have relatively many exchanges on a spiritual level; secondly, both parties have clear and strong commitments.

Knowing these principles, are there any targeted suggestions for young people on how to maintain a long-distance relationship? I think there are three aspects that should be paid special attention to.

The first is the problem of physical arousal; the second is the problem of strangeness (same as lack of language); the third is the problem of verbal injury in a different place.

Physical arousal is an implicit term. Simply put, it is the urge to approach someone of the opposite sex, or even to have sexual relations. This kind of arousal is often intertwined with mental arousal, or the individual believes that This awakening has an intrinsic spiritual cause. Especially for lovers who have been together for a long time in different places, it is easy to have feelings for friends and colleagues around them (some even just people who often work together, but do not communicate much) that they did not have before, and seem to go beyond friendship. This kind of feeling Emotions contain the element of longing for sex. Therefore, when this kind of feeling arises, the individual will question himself: Have I cheated on him/her mentally? Do I no longer love him/her? Then, soon, the individual will find some reasonable explanations for his behavior to maintain the individual's inner psychological consistency. These explanations are often not conducive to the consolidation of love. Then, the individual will doubt whether the other party will also have "excessive feelings" for the friends around him, and thus become suspicious in communication - a projection effect in our nature, which is called judging others by oneself in Chinese. Finally, the individual will doubt the rationality of the relationship itself - is love over, or is new love waving to me?

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Question 5: How can we maintain a long-distance relationship? Keeping distance is to maintain the temperature of love. But the distance must be just right, not too far, not too close. When it comes to long-distance love, you must keep a good grasp of it. Keep in touch every day, and don’t forget it because of busyness. Especially When eating and sleeping, even if you can't call the other person, you still need to send a message, show concern, and say hello. Let the other person feel that you are always by your side! In a long-distance relationship, there is only one word - letter. Now that you have decided to have a long-distance relationship, you must trust the other person. If you don't believe it, it is better to end it early so as not to waste everyone's time. Because we are all in different places, sometimes when we hear rumors, we have no way of confirming them and we have to choose to believe the other person. Moreover, even if you are really suspicious, it is not easy to show it, because no matter whether the other party is cheating, as long as one party starts to doubt, the relationship may have begun to come to an end. There are many people talking, so feeling safe is very important. In fact, a sense of security is based on "trust". If you make the other person feel that you trust 100%, you will feel safe and secure, and vice versa. Of course, you need to make the other person believe that you only love one person, and this does not change due to changes in emotional status. First, contact. Since we are in a heterosexual relationship, we must keep in touch with each other. It is recommended to use text messages and phone calls. Text messages can convey a little bit of your usual mood to the other party. As for phone calls, you can express your love through text messages or interesting things about your day. Of course, you can write a letter by chance. It doesn’t have to be a series of love words in the letter. You can write down something you can’t usually say. It is not recommended to use Q video. Because when using Q video, you will be relatively speechless all day long, or you can only see the other person and can’t do anything about it. This not only wastes everyone’s time, but also makes the two parties feel that the distance between them is getting farther and farther, and finally leads to what? , just don’t talk about it. Of course, if you can't bear to see each other, it's necessary to meet occasionally. Second, content. Don't think that a real relationship is just an ordinary relationship, and you have to pay attention to small skills. I suggest that if you talk to the other person on the phone and talk about the day, you should try to use the person's name instead of his or her identity when describing the person. For example, today my junior sister asked me to borrow a camera. I can say it like this: Today, A asked me to borrow a camera. I saw that I haven’t used it recently, so I just borrowed it. Do you remember A? It’s because I told you last time about a junior sister who has emotional troubles. Because as long as you make it clear to the other person, once you understand your life circle, and when you contact them on a regular basis, you don’t have to worry about misunderstandings or misunderstandings all day long, and hide things from everyone around you. As for the authenticity of the speech?! I don’t suggest that you talk big words, at least I don’t know how to talk about it, because I know that no matter what the point, paper can’t cover up the fire, and I have never told the other party, There is no need to hide it and tell lies. However, I think it is more difficult for many people to do it, not because of that, but because the degree of freedom in heterosexual love is too high. Many people think that if you hide it, you won’t know, so I would say 8 points True, 2 points false. In fact, if you really want to grow old together, there is no need. They will understand you. There is no need to hide it, it will only make you harder. Third, festivals.

For heterosexual lovers, the importance of festivals is more important than being from the same party. Because holidays can reflect your attentiveness as a person, you should prepare gifts in advance. Sometimes, because we are too far away to meet each other, we have to prepare many gifts in advance. You should also listen to me on the holiday night, or by phone or video, so that you can spend this holiday together. Because this way you can avoid going out with the third person (although you have to trust the other person's words, but you won't give any chance to the other person's suitor), and you can also show your position that night (no accompanying the third person). Fourth, sip vinegar. Many people think that sipping vinegar is actually a bad behavior, but in fact, sipping vinegar appropriately will make the other person feel a sense of security. For example, when the other person tells you that you have been chasing them all day long, and you want to give them a large gift. You can no longer pretend to be generous and indifferent. You should express your dissatisfaction appropriately with some sour words. In this way, the other person will know that you are concerned first, and will not have a feeling of: I am not important in my heart. Of course, it's not okay to be jealous all the time. If you are jealous all the time, it will only make the other person feel annoyed. You should control everything and not even give them a little private space. So you must have a good grasp of it. Fifth, worry. Just like the vinegar above, tie it in an appropriate amount and wait for the other person to know that you are really tightening it. And I believe that if you...>>

Question 6: How to maintain a long-distance relationship? I'm a man and I'm in a long-distance relationship. Long distance relationships are so hard. The success rate is very low. But just like smoking is harmful to health, you can’t stop it even though you know it. Besides, there are very few men and women who are in love who are sober. If you two have enough courage and love deeply enough. In fact, long-distance love is also a kind of beauty. In a long-distance relationship, you must first clarify a common goal, which is to stay together for life. I think so too. If the love lasts for a long time, how can it last day and night? You first need to confirm whether both parties plan to stay together for life. This is very important, so as not to waste your love, money and youth. I believe that anyone who is truly committed can do this. Second: The most important thing about a long-distance relationship is belief and trust. If you are a very suspicious person, I suggest you not try it to avoid getting hurt. Trust is really important. If you choose him, you must trust him, but the premise is that he is a trustworthy person, not a *** or a sentimental seed. The reason why you have to trust is because you are too far apart. Anything can lead to misunderstandings or even breakups. Give me an example. I was sleeping one day. My girlfriend called and wanted to talk to me, but I didn't answer. What did she think ***, she was better off, just sulking. Fortunately, I saw it and she told her about it. So the most important thing in a long-distance relationship is trust. Third: Both parties in a long-distance relationship must be able to endure loneliness. I've tried it, and it's painful to miss someone, very painful. Seeing couples and being alone, I felt deeply desolate. But I believe that there is someone far away who is also thinking of me. I feel more comfortable. And when I'm sick, I wish she was the one who would be by my side. I think the woman thinks the same way, but she has no choice. Hey fifth: Try to be honest with the other person, because you have decided to be with the other person until old age, so there is no need to hide it from the other person. Sixth: Don’t get angry. Anger will harm you. For example, you secretly compete with each other and ignore each other. Ninth: There should be a fixed time to meet each other, such as once a month or two months, to relieve the pain of missing each other. This is very necessary. Tenth, you must have the other person accompany you on important holidays, even on the phone, so as not to give her a chance. Explain to him that you are not allowed to go there that day, haha, because I am also in a long-distance relationship, and it is going well. The impression is quite big, so I want to share my experience with you. Haha I am so tired typing, haha ??I hope you grow old together. That's who I am. I hope you can be like me. Haha

Question 7: How to maintain trust in a long-distance relationship? A guide to winning sweet long-distance love

1. Make sure the communication between each other is smooth

The two people who are separated are most afraid of anger and misunderstanding. Prolonged anger and misunderstanding will make them The relationship between the two is indifferent, and poachers may take advantage of it. Be clear about everything, be rational before being emotional, and admit your mistakes when you should. Of course, if no one is willing to bow your head, ask a boy At this time

there is no need to give priority to ladies.

When you are angry, you tell her what specific things he (she) did not do well. You don’t like this approach. I think if she realizes it, she will definitely do something about it next time

You have restrained yourself, because this is your woman's need; but if you say that you no longer have confidence in the love between two people, or say "I don't care about you, you don't care about me either" "I don't know what else to do" "Will you like others?" "Who do you think you are? How can I find someone like you?" I think it's really too much.

Once or twice, these words may still achieve the purpose of making you angry with your boyfriend, but you must know that even if a man is uncomfortable, even if he

will be sad and shed tears, he will ultimately It's possible that after suppressing this disappointment for too many times, when he turns this disappointment into despair, it really becomes a matter of words whether to break up or not. --It's not his suddenness, but his outburst.

Therefore, I would like to advise those of you who are in a long-distance relationship to know what angry words are and what words that destroy confidence are!

2. You must trust each other.

If you believe that you can be together in two places, you must let your faith and belief support you. Constant confusion and lack of confidence in the future will

shake your feelings. Quarrel and cold wind caused by minor conflicts can become the trigger for breakup.

Love requires trust. After all, we are in a different place, so it is impossible to see every word and deed every day. Inexplicable suspicion will ruin the sweetness between two people.

In everything you do, you must first consider the bottom line to prevent yourself from being caught off guard when encountering sudden changes. Things must always be done in a good direction, but you must be prepared for bad ones

Temporary separation will inevitably require two people to wait. Waiting is not terrible at that time. Xhosa does not know what he is waiting for.

The result.

This is the job of faith and confidence: think about your woman from time to time, express this faith and confidence, and let her know that although you can't be together now, until you are Work hard, work hard to achieve yourself, and work hard for your happy life in the future.

Only two people who firmly believe in their love can be qualified to talk about anything right or wrong.

Therefore, at any time, no matter who the two people are, they must have this understanding clearly.

When you no longer have any longing for your love, and even have the attitude of leaving and seeing, it can only be said that you are sad.

Of course, if you still think this way now, then stop reading my posts. I despise people with this attitude.

3. Losing contact and being unable to communicate in time will make the other party feel strange, and the timely arrival of text messages, phone calls, and the Internet can create the feeling of being around someone through virtual feelings

Maintain a certain frequency of meetings, preferably once every few months. The pain of lovesickness also needs to be released. A few days of sweetness can make up for the lovesickness of the past few months.

If you want to call her (or send a message), then do it! Conveying your thoughts in time will make your love sweeter; but remember

Remember, if she calls twice in a row and she doesn’t answer the phone (or hangs up directly) or the text message goes unanswered , you must have turned from sweet to anxious (

even a little angry). No matter how anxious (angry) you are then, stop dialing. Just do your thing with peace of mind (try your best) and wait for her to see the phone. I'll call you naturally

But on the other hand, if your girlfriend calls you (or sends a text message), no matter how inconvenient it is, as long as the phone is by your side, try to

give her as few text messages as possible Don't make her anxious. Don't ask any questions, because we are men and because we love our girlfriends.

It must be admitted that when anyone wants to call the person they love, they want to get an immediate response, but in a long-distance relationship, you can't see each other

so you can only Replace this invisible barrier with trust. If she doesn't return your call, it must be inconvenient for her. You should get used to this idea.

4. Even though the two places are separated, the romance lasts forever

A little separation is better than a newlywed. The brief reunion between the two places makes them fall in love with each other. In addition to the first time, there are also many new things now. It can also

increase the quality of long-distance romance.

In your spare time, do whatever you want to surprise your baby.

This surprise is not all expressed in money, because there are many people like me whose hearts are richer than money.

For example, send a cash card online; give her a romantic game to play when you have nothing to do...etc.

Don’t think that these are redundant and insignificant. You must know that your baby is in a long-distance place, and it is inevitable to have crazy love at night... >>

Question 8: Long-distance relationship, How to maintain? Long-distance love, as the name suggests, is love between two places. With the development of the times, more and more people have to "leave their hometown" for various reasons such as study and further study, work and so on. Therefore, it is bound to cause the separation of lovers. Therefore, there is a new word: long-distance love.

Generally speaking, long-distance relationships are relatively stable and deep relationships. Because maintaining a long-distance relationship requires more endurance, and of course, more gains.

Question 9: How to maintain a long-distance relationship? Put yourself in their shoes and see what the other person needs more? Who would you rather be? What can you do for the other person?