My husband cheated on me and wanted a divorce. How should I send him a message back?

Hello, everyone. I am Xiaomei. I have been engaged in psychological counseling for many years and served countless families. I am recognized as an "emotional tutor" in the field of emotional counseling, and I am good at dealing with various emotions including marital emotional problems. A student consulted me, and her husband filed for divorce after cheating, asking her to give him a message, saying that it was no longer necessary. I was a little embarrassed at that time, and I didn't know what her husband thought. But at my suggestion, I found that her husband also had the need to cheat, but he never dared to file for divorce.

1, why did her husband cheat?

There is a saying that the biggest crisis for women is not from men's infidelity, but that men have no confidence in themselves and don't want to divorce. In fact, her husband's infidelity is not all because of love, but also because his married life has been very difficult. He lost love and trust in his marriage, and just wanted more, but he didn't know that this love and trust was exactly what he lacked and refused. We know that men often cheat to prove that they are a good man, but not all men can accept cheating to prove that they are a good man. From a psychological point of view, cheating is a strong behavior that can't control one's inner needs. In other words, men will be full of illusions about marriage and will continue to seek infidelity in various ways, so that they will want to obtain psychological satisfaction through the outside world.

2. Why doesn't the other party speak at this time?

When we chat with each other, we will find that the other party is unwilling to take the initiative to talk, especially before the relationship between husband and wife breaks down. But some men may not have no need, but can't accept this reality, so they are unwilling to take the initiative to communicate. This is also the reason why many people find it difficult to get happiness after marriage. Although some men choose to divorce after their marriage breaks down, more often they just choose not to continue their relationship with you in order to escape this reality.

3. Why does the other person need my help?

Many people's question is, why did the other party choose to break up instead of dating when the other party clearly made a choice? This is actually a person's subconscious appeal, which will gradually decrease with the growth of the other person, but it will not disappear. So only by digging deeply can we find the correct way to solve the problem.

We need to know each other's psychology in order to solve the problem better.

If the other party just wants to save it, then we need to know him fundamentally in order to solve the problem better. What kind of a man is he? Does he have feelings for you?

I analyzed her husband's problems for the trainees.

The student said that her husband also wants a divorce, but now he doesn't want to mention it to her. He wants to wait until he takes the initiative to file a divorce. Moreover, I analyzed her husband's problem: 1 Her husband's infidelity has a lot to do with his own feelings, because once when her husband went out to contact another woman, he found that the woman was very warm and generous, and left her contact information with her boyfriend. They have no plans to have children. You see, in recent years, he is in poor health and dare not have children. He wants to devote all his energy to his family, but ignores her husband's personal growth and psychological construction. The most important thing in marriage is to solve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband's education of children, emotional management and other issues, but this woman is afraid to file a divorce now because her husband has not given them a chance!