What should you do when the child reaches out for money?

It looks like an article to educate children, but here it is. I saw the miniature of our childhood again. In fact, this article is not only about educating children, but also about educating all of us.

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These are two true stories.

A girl told a story of five dollars:

I live in junior high school and go home once a week. Mother usually gives 2 yuan pocket money every week. She wanted 5 yuan money that week, but her mother wouldn't give it to her. She said she wouldn't go to school. Mom said, "If you can't fall in love, don't go home now."

Later, she kept pestering for it, and her mother took out 5 yuan unhappily and threw it on the table, looking disgusted. Five dollars bounced to the ground.

The little girl picked up the money trembling.

It seems that things have just passed. But she said it had a great influence on her, and she always felt humble. At the same time, she buried her desire for money in her heart.

The story of fifty cents was told by one person:

During the summer vacation of the second day of junior high school, two lesbians in the class learned to visit his house. They sat together and chatted, which was the first time in his life that he had contact with girls of the same age.

Later, the female classmate suggested going around the street. He had no money, so he went to his mother, hoping to give him some pocket money.

Mom won't give it. He begged again and again. Finally, my mother took out fifty cents. "Take it!"

He bent down, picked up the fifty cents, went out with his female classmates, treated them to a big bowl of tea, and then dispersed separately.

The boys in those days are now in their thirties, graduated from college, financially independent, and have reached the age of talking about marriage. But he refused to get married.

He won't get married or go home. He knows that his parents are lonely. But at present, he just wants to live like this, not to get married and not to go home. He said that all this came from fifty cents thrown on the ground.

These two stories, I can't see the real state of the economy of these two families, but what I can feel is only a kind of "poverty".

This kind of poverty is not about family economy, but a kind of spiritual poverty.

When the child asks for some money reasonably, the parents' above reaction is like saying, I have no money, why do you ask me for money?

But for this little boy, reaching out to his mother for some pocket money is because this adolescent boy is polite and educated, and he knows that friends should be enthusiastic when visiting. At the moment when he reached out his hand, the image of his mother was still intact in his mind. He was the one who could reach out.

Mother took out 50 cents and threw it at him, calling him "took it", so a boy's dignity was shattered.

The most humiliating thing is that he can't refuse. He needs this 50 cents. Two female students who don't know what to do are still waiting for him in the outhouse, looking forward to a pleasant trip.

When he bent down to pick up this bill, he must have heard the sound of his dignity breaking. His heart was torn apart.

Fifty cents seriously affected his adult life. From reaching for pocket money to bending down to pick up the fifty cents, the objective time is only a few minutes; In his psychological time, it is as long as his life. Everything in her son's heart was completely unknown to her mother from beginning to end.

In fact, mastering money is also a right of parents. In the above two stories, parents used the power brought by money to severely humiliate their children.

It seems that this is the only way.

Many parents have disease control, especially financial control.

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When they feel that their uncompromising authority is challenged, they will use money as a weapon and cut it at their children.

Many parents have disease control, especially financial control. When they feel that their uncompromising authority is challenged, they will use money as a weapon and cut it at their children.

There are many opinions that don't know how to spread, saying that children should grow up in poverty, especially boys, but do you know how much they will lose if they grow up in poverty on purpose?

Some parents hide wealth and cry for poverty in front of their children in order to prevent them from developing the bad habit of extravagance and waste. This practice needs moderation, and moderate "hiding the rich" and "crying the poor" can be the driving force for children's progress. If it is excessive, it may cause a kind of stress to their children and cause financial insecurity.

Therefore, before the child reaches adulthood, parents should tell the child in a firm tone:

"Mom and Dad will guarantee your school and living expenses, so you don't have to worry. But when you grow up, you must create wealth through your own efforts. "

This kind of commitment is very important to children. Because when the child's heart is stable, intelligence can be fully exerted.

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In fact, the most important thing is that poor support will make children lose a lot!

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Poor support will make children lose their generosity and decency.

Children of the poor will feel inferior because they are inferior to others in some ways. They are introverted and timid, and even dare not associate with other children.

When they grow up, they will show restraint and even feel inferior in front of their peers. They dare not show their own light, and they feel inferior and unworthy. Only by locking themselves in a small space can they find some relaxation.

Blindly learning from others' poor support will make children lose their generosity and propriety.

Poor support will make children lose their model.

Many people say that "the poorer the poor, the richer the rich". The reason why the poor are poor is because parents have set a set for their children. This is called "pattern".

In order to save money in 2 yuan, our poor children will spend two hours walking to their destination, but how do the rich children do it? In order to shorten the journey from two hours to two minutes, they did not hesitate to pay 20 yuan for a taxi.

This is the pattern! In order to save a few cents a day, children from poor families may spend their time on things that can't add value to themselves, while children from rich families have more time and opportunities to contact the world.

Poor support will make children lose their temperament.

Many times we can judge a person's origin from his clothes, words and deeds. Why do some children look elegant and cultured, while others look vulgar?

Children's temperament is permeated from the bone marrow, which is the symbol of family environmental education.

This temperament comes from children's self-esteem and self-confidence.

Children who grow up in poor environment are more pursuing material satisfaction, and they have no energy or opportunity to pursue higher-level things.

Therefore, education should not go to extremes. Balance is the best way of education;

To ensure the material life of children, they will not be greedy;

Let the children suffer a little, and they will know how to be modest;

Let children learn music and art, and children know elegance and taste;

Let children suffer some setbacks, and their souls will be more tenacious;

Children often travel, and their horizons will be broadened.