Can you still live well without WeChat?

WeChat is slowly penetrating into every aspect of our lives like poison. By the time we realize it, we have become hopelessly addicted. I don’t know since when, every morning or evening, no matter what happens, I always open WeChat. Even if there is no new news, I will still be reluctant to leave and scroll through the circle of friends. Sometimes I know clearly that not only will there be no surprises, but I may also gain something. I was attacked by some negative emotions of this kind, but I still couldn't help but do this.

I believe everyone will have an unforgettable story in WeChat, mixed with various emotions, including happiness, sadness, jealousy, disappointment, and these emotions are like clear or turbid. The breath gathers into feelings that you can't let go of.

Some people have many people they must contact on WeChat. No matter how annoying they are, they cannot neglect any of these people.

Some people don’t necessarily need to contact anyone when they open WeChat, it’s just a form of emotional sustenance.

Some people may have never thought about why they have WeChat online 24 hours a day. Everyone is like this anyway. After closing it, they will not get used to it.

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Girl A once tried to close WeChat for a while, but within half a day, she felt absent-minded in doing anything, and her mind started to run, I care most Will the person be anxious because she can't contact me, will she send a series of messages to ask me? Although she missed me very much, she resisted the idea of ??opening WeChat, stuck to the plan, and closed WeChat two days later. When she started She opened WeChat with anticipation, ready to read the screen full of unread messages that had been imagining in her mind for the past two days. Only then did she realize that after she logged in, there was not a single unread message. She felt like when Pandora's box was opened, panic, disappointment, confusion, and anxiety flew out in an instant...

The feverish expectations suddenly dropped to freezing point, and the loss was truly infinite. It's sad that the people you care about most don't care about yourself at all. In fact, in life, oneself is not that important.

A said, We can leave WeChat, but it is possible that no one cares about your departure. After you leave, you can't see other people's lives, the world becomes quiet, and you are no different from a hermit in the mountains. I think most people still like the noisy mortal life, and like the kind of "a little sense of existence, and occasionally troublesome" "Trouble others" feeling, and find a pleasure in communication and the motivation to continue living happily.

A said, if we don’t reach the realm of true hermits like Zhang Ailing in her later years, then it’s better not to leave WeChat. It’s really almost like death.

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H said, “My WeChat cannot be closed anyway, because my family, my boss, and my lover will be in trouble if they can’t find me if something happens. "

For example, if your boss sends a message to arrange urgent tasks in the work group while you are logged out of WeChat, but you don't reply for a long time, she will think that your work attitude is not serious enough and lose trust in you. , after all, everyone’s WeChat is online 24 hours a day, which is equivalent to giving away the opportunity for promotion and salary increase in the future. I don’t want to leave any bad impression on my boss at work. That is because I can’t get along with money, and I will be the one who suffers in the end. .

Your lover will keep thinking about who you are with at this moment. It is just a message, so there must be something wrong with the ink, and then he will endlessly think about the bad things, you You will have to spend more time explaining over and over again to eliminate your mutual distrust, and it is not worth paying several times the price for "the moment of peace you often get by closing WeChat." If your parents can't contact you for a while, creating the illusion of losing contact, they will pay more attention to you as if they are neurotic, and you will not be able to calm down.

In addition, even merchants use WeChat to pay discounts for promotions. If you don’t use WeChat, you have to pay the full amount. Think about the amount of money in your bank card every month. Those discounts are missed. , it will still hurt.

Leaving WeChat will give you peace, and your life may function normally, but at least it will not function very well anymore, because you don’t reply to WeChat. People who really want to find you still have phone calls and text messages. Contact you, but even so, unnecessary misunderstandings can still occur if you are not careful.

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M and her boyfriend met during a vacation trip. They left each other’s WeChat IDs and chatted about their lives through the screen every day. It didn’t take long for them to be together. At first, like other couples, they commuted to and from get off work every day and went to supermarkets and shopping malls together.

But because they met on WeChat, M is particularly sensitive whenever she hears the other party’s WeChat ringtone, because she is worried that a third party will get to know each other on WeChat in the same way. I re-examined the relationship between the two people. It was too easy for them to get together at the beginning. They didn't have many similar experiences. They just typed and chatted on their mobile phones and got together very recklessly. Before, the two of them had We have never gotten along seriously together, nor have we ever had a magical relationship. We lack a solid emotional foundation. Of course, we are worried that this kind of relationship will be easily replaced by any netizen who can chat with us.

If you met and got together through WeChat, the other party’s subconscious mind will think that it’s okay if you can’t get along. There is no need to repair relationship problems. There are so many WeChat friends, just chat with one more, anyway. He is tired of being together for so long. With such a view deeply ingrained in his mind, it is impossible for him to maintain the relationship between you with all his heart. Once there is a problem in the relationship, instead of looking for the cause within himself and conscientiously repairing it, he directly chooses to post it on WeChat. restart.

WeChat provides us with many opportunities for love. Maybe some opportunities are rare and good opportunities, but we have to admit that most of the love opportunities on WeChat are terrible. You waste time and youth again and again in exchange for lessons that are not worth it.

M said, but what if there is no WeChat? After going out every day, no matter whether you turn left or right, you still can’t meet MR RIGHT. So when you are bored, you might as well seize the bad opportunity to have fun. , in case there is hope, it is much better than shutting down the phone, going offline on WeChat, and soaking oneself in the quagmire of despair.

The startup page of WeChat is a picture of a little man looking up at the planet. His back is long and lonely. He longs for communication and care. He is thinking hard about how to connect with the world on the planet in front of him. In the dark night, blending in with the darkness, looking up at the light on the planet, trying to find a way to the other side.

It is said that Tencent Research Institute conducted a "social fasting" experiment, recording and analyzing the changes that occurred after 85 people participated in the fast. The experiment set the daily use of WeChat to not exceed 30 minutes, and the experimental period was After 5 days, it was found that the work efficiency of the participants was greatly improved, but their life satisfaction did not change. Although they got rid of fragmented texts and advertisements, they regained the habit of in-depth reading, and got rid of "face praise" and "favorite praise" , refused to be an "emotional trash can" and let negative emotions spread across the screen. However, social fasting also had a negative impact on the participants, such as being unable to participate in public discussions in various WeChat groups and being dissociated from the online community. In addition, anxiety rises, and there is no weak connection to buffer the unsatisfied emotional needs. The pain of a hard landing but nowhere to rely on will increase the accumulation of bad emotions, so the sense of disconnection begins to fill the entire heart

After the experiment stopped, the time spent by each participant on WeChat immediately rose to the level before the experiment, or even worse.

We are all fragile people, and we need more than just work efficiency. We must have a place to put our tiredness, anxiety, and frustration at work. Maybe we can’t find a confidant on WeChat either. We are human beings, but we can use a slim hope to buffer our current tired body and mind. What we are afraid of is not loneliness, nor is it the disappointment caused by not getting "other people's feelings" after telling us once or twice. It’s not the betrayal that once hurt our hearts. What we fear most is that one day we will be in the quagmire of despair and cannot get out.

I think that the little man on the startup page is so lonely that people can’t help but want to open his arms and hug him. He looks up at the stars every day. Maybe he is looking up at something that can give him hope. Something, even if this hope will never be realized forever, at least it has guided him in the direction and inspired courage in countless confused nights. Many times, isn't the motivation for each of us to live just for a possibility?

When you leave WeChat, you leave a way to establish connections. The way you give up may happen to become the contact method that more and more people are used to. If you give up the way that everyone is accustomed to using, Contact information, this will make everyone less accustomed to contacting you again. In this way, although there is no anxiety of waiting, no pain of disappointment, and no worry of being entangled, it is also equivalent to actively giving up the hope that may appear in the future, and automatically choosing to live alone. After all, maybe tomorrow will understand you. That person will send you a message.

WeChat has become our passport into the world. In this world, there are people who have a weak connection with you without mutual benefit, and there are people who have a strong connection with you who interact frequently, or they may be among a full screen of friends, watching various advertisements, taking selfies, and showing off in the circle of friends every day. You just feel inexplicably lonely, but with your phone by your side, at least you have a sense of participation and presence.

Maybe one day, the person you want to contact comes to you, and you no longer feel any throbbing in your heart, but you will not despair, because the WeChat message you guard will still leave you a message. Take the infinite possibilities and wait for the next love that you think is just right.