What is the psychology of keeping the contact information of your predecessor?

99% of those who still contact their ex after breaking up are people who haven't let go and still have hope. There is a popular saying recently: There are 10,000 reasons to care about you, but none can care about your identity.

In this world, there is no such thing as "get together well and part well". Two people who once loved each other can't be friends after breaking up, but the one who loves more continues to love each other as friends. At the same time, the loved one also guarantees that you will always be his prey in this way.

Keeping in touch is to keep the relationship from getting cold, or to keep the last contact, so as not to let the other person disappear completely from your world, because as long as you have contact with your ex, you feel that there is still a chance to get back together. However, many people have turned themselves into each other's spare tires step by step.

Your ex occasionally returns a message or two, giving you a little sweetness, and then no matter what you say, he never returns, as if he never appeared. But you will stay up all night because of his words, thinking about the meaning of his reply, whether he said something wrong, and why he didn't reply, so that the heart that was originally difficult to cool will boil again.

Slowly, your reluctance will become a kind of worry. When he needs you, you immediately appear in front of him; You can't find his shadow when he doesn't need you; Every look in his eyes and every movement affects your heart, and in the end you will only get deeper and deeper.

Actually, it's okay to keep in touch with your ex, but you can't make him realize that you are waiting for him to come back. Because what is easy to get, no one will cherish it. This is human nature. Especially in love, people are most likely to eat what is in the bowl, but look at what is in the pot. The more you can't live without him, the more unscrupulous he is.

You can contact him, but like other contacts, he has no special status. Work when you should work, study when you should study, and enjoy when you should play. Don't let his presence affect your life.

There is a saying in love: if you plant flowers with your heart, you can't open them, and you plant willows without your heart. What you desperately want, or what you have tried your best to get, may turn out well when you are not so persistent in pursuing it.