The blind date said it was inappropriate. How should I reply to her?

Most people who choose blind date are old enough to get married and are eager to find a partner to end their single life. Once you get old, you will inevitably be pointed at by people around you and urged to get married by your parents and relatives.

Therefore, a blind date will always be watched by many people, carrying too many people's expectations, so that the blind date itself can't help but pay attention to the results.

People who participate in blind date will invest great enthusiasm at the beginning and even brainwash themselves. In the past few years, their relationship is not smooth, but because they have not met true love, they may fall in love at first sight in the blind date market.

The greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Repeated failures make people wonder whether blind date is useful or not, and whether there is true love in the blind date market.

Some people even refuse to fall in love and get married because of too many failures, and even refuse to associate with girls, constantly denying themselves and doubting themselves.

Duck, you don't have to do this, man

You shouldn't equate love, marriage and blind date. You think wrong.

The purpose of blind date is not love.

It has never been stipulated that blind date must be for love and marriage. This is not a multiple choice question, but a multiple choice question.

After all, blind date is just a means to expand social circle, just like going to tea parties or meeting netizens in the past.

The girl you are dating is like a new colleague in the company and a new friend brought by my buddy at the birthday party.

Blind date is a medium for you and her to get to know each other. As for how far you can achieve it, the media don't have to take the blame.

Maybe I won't bother you anymore, maybe I'm a fair-weather friend, maybe I'm a confidante, maybe I'm a life partner. It doesn't depend on the form of blind date, but on how you and her manage this relationship next.

So don't be so naive, don't treat blind date as love, don't treat love as marriage, just to know more people and make more friends.

As the saying goes, "friends go many ways", maybe she will be your colleague, your boss, your partner, or even the introducer of your future wife.

It is normal that people who have only met once can't be girlfriends. It was just a kiss. Why are you serious?

2. Why do you feel embarrassed about blind date?

The reason why you feel embarrassed about blind date is that you can't have true love. In the final analysis, you have high expectations for that girl from the beginning.

You constantly remind yourself subconsciously that the girl sitting opposite you is the one who wants to spend a lifetime with herself. You must watch carefully and don't settle for it.

You put your expectations of your future wife on that girl one by one. One failure will make you feel embarrassed, two failures will make you feel disappointed, and three failures will make you give up.

Don't you think you have gone too far?

The girl didn't do anything, and you turned her down.

You said that you don't value superficial things like appearance, education and income. You just want to find someone who can get along with you, but in the end, what makes you think that she is not beautiful enough, uneducated enough and her income is too low?

The first time I met a strange girl, I graded her with such strict standards. How can she pass?

If she passed all the rules, why is she sitting here on a blind date with you?

It's just the first time we met. You can chat at most. Signing the deed of sale is not so casual.

Of course, it is also possible that you are the one who is picked on by girls, but so what.

As long as you can understand that the essence of blind date is not for love and marriage, but a means to help you get in touch with the opposite sex, you won't always be stubborn.

As for love and marriage, intimacy needs to develop to a certain stage, and it can't be completely finalized by that meal.

No one can save you if you have to decide life and death at a glance.

3. What is the function of blind date?

Blind date is not that you can't meet true love, but you are not as lucky as lottery, but you always associate luck with blind date.

To put it bluntly, this is laziness, and it is a whimsical expectation of pie falling from the sky.

You are willing to go on a blind date, mostly because it is convenient and there is no burden to coax girls in circles. Everything is on the table and you can see the finish line directly.

But this is not a deal. If a girl comes up and doesn't talk about feelings, just say how much money you have and how many RVs you have. If she is satisfied, she promises to get married. Dare you get married?

No love can skip the process of falling in love. Those who really get together after a blind date are not together because of the side they saw during the blind date.

In the process of getting to know each other constantly, they appreciate and tolerate each other through the efforts of the day after tomorrow. Blind date is just the beginning.

The real labor-saving place of blind date is that it doesn't take a lot of time to find it, and it can quickly pull two people who don't intersect to a table.

If your idea of blind date is wrong, you will naturally be disappointed with it, treat it as an unreliable stranger date and think it is a money transaction in the name of love.

The chance that a blind date can meet true love is actually very high. You didn't meet it not because you were unlucky, but because you didn't work hard or made a mistake.

4. How to get rid of the embarrassment of blind date?

People always use "embarrassment" to describe blind date, regard it as a burden, and think that it is just a pair of strange men and women sitting opposite a small shop, crustily talking about their love views and life background.

You feel tired because you have a strong sense of role substitution and always regard the girl opposite as your future wife.

You are wrong. You should take that girl as your personal word of mouth.

Many people have a "try" attitude when dating. If they are interested, they will talk more. If they are not interested, they will be like a deflated ball and want to run away quickly.

This performance really sucks. You are deliberately discrediting your image.

The reason why you dare to take a cursory look at the flowers like this is because you think that two people are strangers, and after the blind date, they naturally go their separate ways and never see each other again.

But it's not that simple.

Your performance in the process of blind date will be seen by girls and kept in mind. She will probably vomit with your references or her girlfriends. Your comments will be qualitative when the news spreads.

Your attitude towards blind date is not positive at all, and you are not active towards girls at all. This situation will gradually spread to everyone who has a relationship with you.

So no one wants to introduce girls to you again. Even if some girls have always been interested in you, they will regress because of your comments.

If you can realize from the beginning that blind date is actually a display of personal charm, I think you will not be so casual.

I also met a girl I don't like:

A has been perfunctory and has been using "hmm" to deal with girls' words.

B direct cynicism, tucao girls are too fat and too black to deserve themselves.

C talk about what, share the social pressure of girls, but euphemistically express inappropriate views when they are apart.

After the blind date, men like A and B will be mercilessly spit out. People think that they deserve it if they can't find a wife, but men like C are different. Girls just think they don't deserve him. Driven by girls, he will attract more high-quality girls.

Have you ever thought about such a chain reaction?

⑤. The chain reaction of blind date

The result of blind date is not important, but its chain reaction, so you should make good use of this opportunity to sell yourself in the emotional market.

At this time, we can see the importance of "emotional intelligence".

People with low EQ always attach too much importance to their feelings, while people with high EQ always take care of each other's feelings.

You may want to say that even if you don't get along, you want to get together and leave a good impression on each other, but the scene is too embarrassing to take the initiative.

Why not change your mind?

Now that you have made sure that two people can't fall in love, you don't need to be depressed any more. You can relax completely.

You can enjoy each other calmly and chat without burden. There is no purpose and I don't care about the result anyway.

Maybe chatting, you will find this person interesting and eye-opening.

At the same time, your relaxation will also infect the girl, helping her to unload the burden and be more honest.

I've asked a lot of successful blind dates. To my surprise, most of these people didn't want to be with each other at the end of the initial blind date.

But after a while, they found that this man left a deep impression on themselves and always wanted to know more. After a while, they really came together.

So, after the blind date, you also need a cooling-off period. When you calm down, you will realize whether you are interested in this person or not.

Since you can't give an answer right away, why not change your mind and show your charm? After all, love always catches people off guard.

Blind date has now become a common way of life for young men and women in cities. The reason why it didn't work is mostly because people think blind date is too crooked.

You dislike those rules and regulations and question that the copper smell of blind date is too strong. Actually, it's not necessary Ordinary love will also need these as the guarantee of love.

Compared with other forms of love, blind date is actually more reliable, more cost-effective and faster.

Blind date is not that you can't meet true love, but blind date doesn't exist simply to meet true love, so please get rid of those prejudices and show yourself well, and you won't be a lover and many friends will not suffer.

I hope I can help you. You can adopt it.