My mother-in-law always comes in and out of our husband and wife's room at will. What should I do?

This kind of thing must be stopped, which is not only the protection of personal privacy, but also the maintenance of self-dignity. Specifically, you can do this:

The first thing is that you should formally discuss this matter with your husband and tell him the seriousness of the matter. I told my husband that although her mother-in-law's behavior may be unconscious, after all, couples sometimes have some intimate actions. If the mother-in-law sees it, it will put both sides in a relatively embarrassing situation and even have a psychological shadow. I hope my husband can understand his concern.

After getting her husband's understanding and support, let him contact her mother-in-law, telling her that this is not only the daughter-in-law's wish, but also her son's inner thoughts, so that her mother-in-law can remember to knock at the door in the future, so that both sides can be "psychologically prepared" (some scenes are definitely not what people other than husband and wife want).

My mother didn't knock when she entered my daughter-in-law's room. At first, we didn't care about this problem until the scene of the couple kissing was seen by the old mother. She also hurried out and closed the door. Realizing the seriousness of the matter, I took the initiative to tell my mother about knocking at the door before my wife said. She also nodded repeatedly, promising not to go in so casually in the future, knocking at the door as soon as she entered.

Of course, my mother's behavior was unintentional, and she changed when she realized it. But my aunt often likes this. Even if my cousin and aunt said it seriously, my aunt didn't care at all and didn't regret it at all. Later, in desperation, my wife could only lock the door every time she returned to her room to avoid embarrassing incidents.

Secondly, if negotiation fails, I suggest you move out and stop living with your mother-in-law. This is also the most direct and effective method. If you don't live with your mother-in-law, she can't go in and out of your husband and wife's room at will, once and for all.

This behavior may not be a problem for the mother-in-law, but it is unacceptable for the daughter-in-law. A colleague in our unit, faced with her mother-in-law coming in and out of their room at will, repeatedly tried to persuade her, and finally decided to move out of the house and not live with her mother-in-law. In her words: "Although I have to pay more 1500 yuan every month, I can finally get a solid sleep."

Finally, I want to say here that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult since ancient times. We should not be eager for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along as closely as mother and daughter. As long as we can respect each other as guests, we are already "lucky". In addition, keeping a proper distance from the red line is also conducive to maintaining the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.