[20 17, let's write together]

He likes to call me a stupid turtle, but he calls himself a scarecrow. This is a true story that belongs to me and him 1 1 year.

I'm sure I didn't believe in love at first sight until I met the straw, and then I met the straw.

September 3, 2006, I think I will remember the day when we met all my life.

On that day, Shanghai Songjiang University Town had not yet started school. I am a member of the student union to welcome new students, and I live in the university dormitory in advance. On the evening of early September, it was still very hot, and I was sweating like rain in my bedroom without air conditioning. Helpless, I couldn't stand the lingering heat, so I packed my computer and prepared to go to a nearby coffee shop to blow air conditioning to kill one night.

There are many coffee shops on Wen Hui Road in the university town, and the owners are very hospitable. 10 You can order a hot drink for more than a dollar, and you can sit in the store for a day and a night with the air conditioner on. You can go out for dinner or go to the toilet on the way. As long as you tell the shopkeeper, the waiter won't come to clean the desk. This is a good place to kill time or review exams.

I came to a coffee shop in a small attic that I frequented. The name of this shop is Biscay. Log tables and fabric sofas are randomly placed in the attic, and rows of wooden bookshelves are nailed to all the walls except the windows, filled with various popular cartoons and novels. On the whole, it is decorated very cheaply and comfortably. There are not many people in the shop because the school hasn't started yet. I chose a corner of the sofa seat to settle down, ready to play computer reading, tired can sleep directly on the sofa.

After turning on the computer, no matter how I fiddle with it, I can't connect to the WIFI in the store. I rescued the shopkeeper, who told me that he didn't understand the Internet either. There is a boy on the sofa by the window who understands. He helps to set up the network in the shop.

I walked to the sofa seat by the window and saw two boys sitting face to face drinking beer and chatting. Boxed peanuts, chicken feet and pig ears were placed on the table, and six bottles of beer were neatly arranged. Come on, this is a coffee shop, not a bar. Eating pig's ears in a coffee shop is a tasteless behavior.

One of the boys, with a man's hairstyle and a bright orange T-shirt, seemed to realize my approach. He looked up and saw me. Before I could speak, he burst into a big smile, just like the heartless smile of One Piece Lee. At that time, I could hardly see his face, and his eyes were full of grinning happy expressions. The light in the coffee shop seems to be lit by his smile.

Unscrupulous tasteless, unscrupulous smile, is my first impression of straw.

He helped me repair my computer. He said that girls can't clean computers any more than boys can clean rooms. He gave me his mobile phone number and said that he could be my computer family doctor in the future and dial at any time with one button.

I said, "Are you so enthusiastic about every girl who needs to repair the computer?"

He interrupted Camel, his classmate who was drinking beer at the same table. "How is that possible? Every time I work as a coolie, he is watching jokes. Today, the sun really came out from the west. This grandfather is willing to do it himself. "

After that, I went back to sleep on the sofa, closed my eyes, and my mind was full of straw and warm smile. I like the feeling of sunshine.

That day, I was just a junior, and he was just a senior, and his first year of graduation was delayed.

The next morning, I woke up and got up. Straw and camel have left the coffee shop. Going back to school to attend the orientation work, I was a little absent-minded all day. In the evening, I came to the coffee shop uncontrollably. He's not there. I found a corner to sit down and read, and I felt unspeakable pain in my heart.

After a while, I felt someone sitting next to me. When I turned around and saw the straw laughing again, I couldn't help bending my mouth.

The straw asked, "Are you waiting for me here?"

"No, there is no air conditioning in the dormitory. It's too hot. "

"I'm waiting for you here. Unfortunately, you robbed me first. I went to the city during the day and came as soon as I returned to the university town. "

"… …"

On September 4, 2006, the day after we met, we talked freely all night.

I told him, "I had an unhappy childhood. My parents have been quarreling and fighting for as long as I can remember. My father likes to break glass products when he quarrels. You can't imagine the harsh and shocking sound of every plate and cup when it is broken to the ground, which makes me shudder all over. You can't imagine a little girl who is only two or three years old, curled up in a corner and crying, facing a room full of broken glass, afraid to move in despair; You can't imagine my helplessness and helplessness when I got up the courage to cry and beg my parents not to fight, and my father slapped me and told me to get out, saying that children should not interfere in adults' affairs.

For weak and helpless children, parents are the world to children, but my world has collapsed since I was a child. When I was a child, I didn't understand. I will blame myself again and again. Is it because I am not good enough, not smart enough, not cute enough and not lovable enough that my parents will quarrel like this? But then I found that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't change the status quo. This discovery made me despair.

I've always thought that I'd rather have my parents divorced than bicker with each other like this. I can't have love, at least I can't hurt each other constantly, so it's not bad to have a quiet single-parent family. Otherwise, when they are angry and sad because of the quarrel, I am also suffering from double distress and pain. Parents are unhappy and children always feel the same way.

Then I always wanted to know, what is happiness? I don't pursue how well I eat, how well I dress and what kind of bag I carry, because no matter how well I eat, how well I dress and how well I carry, once I quarrel with my relatives, I will still be shrouded in the shadow of unhappiness and feel the beauty of the world. "

Straw scratched his ear and said with a smile, "You are really like a stupid turtle, always hiding in your own turtle shell." Even if the outside world has cleared up, your eyes are just staring at the shadow cast by the turtle shell. "

Everyone thinks his story is the saddest, so he is always waiting for others to bring sunshine to his life, but he doesn't know that everyone's bravest strength is to keep hope in adversity.

The source of happiness is hope.

Parents have their own way of life, you should have your own life, the world is very big, you haven't climbed out of the turtle shell, how do you know you won't be happy? "

"You laugh at me as a stupid turtle, so what are you?"

"I am a scarecrow! No matter whether the spring thunder is rolling, the summer rain is pouring, the autumn wind is crossing the border, and the winter snow is flying, the scarecrow always stands up straight and does not escape, because he believes hopefully that everything will eventually break through and the sun is shining. "

"So ... do you believe in love at first sight?"

"Believe it! As long as it is beautiful, you should believe it! "

"What's it like to fall in love at first sight?"

"I study IT server technology. For me, seeing a girl is love at first sight, as if debugging the network. Speed index is fast enough, network delay is low enough, CPU power consumption is small enough, memory capacity is large enough, and data is not lost. The overall inspection standards are paired and checked, so there can be no error, so Bingo! Love at first sight! This girl is sitting next to me now! " I feel that the straw is looking at me eagerly, but I dare not look up and carefully check the nails on each finger.

For a long time, I heard the straw ask, "Do you believe in love at first sight?"

I looked down and replied, "I didn't believe it at first, because I didn't believe I would have such good luck." Now I believe it a little. "

"Sure enough, like a cute stupid turtle, how do you feel now?"

"I am tempted at a glance and I miss it inexplicably."

On September 5th, 2006, the third day we met, it was clear in Wan Li, and it was breezy in the morning. I walked out of the coffee shop hand in hand with the straw and established a relationship.

Straw said that he liked my bookish face, which made me very literate, but he claimed to be illiterate. His parents didn't read any books and had no requirements for his study, so they let themselves go. He has hardly read many literary works except textbooks, so he admires my reading.

In fact, I should worship him. A senior in Yan 'an Middle School passed the Computer Department of Jiaotong University by three-thirds because of the abnormal college entrance examination, and entered the voluntary school filled out by his parents and the English major of two universities. He wanted to realize his IT dream, taught himself, and obtained the international certification of Cisco. I like that he never gives up for his dreams, that he is optimistic and positive, and that he is simple and willful in his life. No, not hurting others' willfulness should be called chic.

I spent the last two years of my college life with straw, and he taught me a lot. Teach me to play Diablo and WOW, teach me to kill Three Kingdoms and werewolves, teach me to take jumpers to the playground to learn to scream and laugh, and teach me to skip class and hide in the boys' dormitory to cook hot pot, eat meat and drink.

I never knew that life could be so heartless. He always touches my head and teaches me, "Don't be such a heavy psychological burden, stupid turtle. Living happily every day is your parents' greatest happiness. "Come on, the camel told us to eat mutton kebabs. I know that your childhood is incomplete, and you can't let your college life be incomplete. "

In the past two years, I have made many friends with him, eaten a lot of junk food, watched many movies and American dramas, and played many online games. He always said: "If you like it, you will like it desperately, and if you are good at it, you will stick to it desperately." Life is colorful and simple, and happiness is more difficult. "

In June 2008, I really hope that my life can be so carefree, eating, drinking and playing until I am old, but I am going to graduate. Near graduation, my parents suddenly told me that they decided to let me go to America to study for a master's degree. My cousin who lives in America helped me choose a school. A month later, she asked me to live at my cousin's house in the United States to experience life, and then arranged for me to start a preview course.

I have been a good girl in the eyes of my parents since I was a child. I am afraid of my parents' authority. For the first time, I bravely said no to my parents: "No, I don't want to! My boyfriend is in Shanghai and I want us to be together. "

My parents were furious and immediately summoned me for a family meeting. After asking all the background information of Straw during the meeting, they announced that they strongly disagreed with us being together.

The reason is:

1. Straw comes from a poor family, with no house, no car and little savings. If I marry him, I will have a hard time in the future.

2. I studied in Straw University for six years, among which I delayed my graduation for two years, which shows that my attitude towards life is rather lax and not aggressive enough. Although I have an IT-related certificate besides English major, judging from the income level of 3000 yuan per month when I just started working, I may not have much development in the future. If I marry him, I will have a hard time in the future.

He is short, unattractive, and has no money and no face, so he should not have the conditions for me to look at. Therefore, he must be a eloquent and thoughtful person.

He is not really nice to me. If he is really good to me, he should let me go to America for better development. If he doesn't want me to go, he's not really nice to me.

I retorted angrily, "It is a serious prejudice for you to completely deny this person without meeting him!"! You think of me and hope that I can have financial security and food and clothing in the future. I understand, but I believe in his character and I am more responsible for my own happiness. During the two years with him, I had the happiest time every day. You said that money can lead a good life, but when I was a child, I once saw you two tearing RMB together when you were quarreling. I knew that you couldn't do without money, but money doesn't mean happiness! You want to go to America, you go by yourself, I won't go! "

My mother looked at me with surprise and sadness: "Is this the attitude you should have when talking to your parents?" We have been there before. How old are you? You don't know anything. Look at you now, straw has ruined you! It's all his fault! If you want to be with him, then don't recognize me as a mother! "

I don't have the courage to deny my mother. I said to the straw, "Wait for me! When I finish my master's degree, we will get married when I come back. "

Straw said, "You can leave if you want. I will be responsible for making more money and trying to be a person who will not be looked down upon by your parents. "

In July 2008, I reluctantly went to the airport with my parents, passed the security check under their gaze and sat in the waiting hall.

My mind is full of scenes of getting along with straw. Before the exam, I crammed all night. He sat quietly beside me, cut me some plates of fruit, and said that I had to take up the most vitamins in one night. I was sick and went to the hospital to hang water behind my back in the middle of the night. I dozed off on his shoulder. I woke up to see him stay up all night and asked him why. He said that women have something to do, how can men sleep? When it was freezing, I put my cold hand directly on his neck and said that I would warm my baby. Knowing that I especially like sweet and sour pork ribs, he cooked them at home and brought them to me, saying that you love meat and I love cooking. We are a perfect couple. I suddenly feel that I can't bear all the warmth he has brought me, and I can't bear to spend three years fighting for an unknown future without his company.

I got up my courage and impulsively walked out of the airport with my luggage and went back to find my straw. My scarecrow never bowed his head even in the storm and always guarded me.

I know things are unpredictable and the road ahead is long, but I just want to be with you.

Straw was surprised to see me and hugged me tightly and said, "stupid turtle, give me six months to pass the other two international certifications, and my income will at least triple, and then I will marry you."

Later, the straw didn't break his word. He has just worked for two years, and his monthly salary is 1 10,000 yuan. Later, my parents let go, just sighed and said that he was an enterprising young man, but unfortunately the conditions at home were not so good. And I, find an ordinary job, start from scratch and live a happy life.

20 10 began to discuss marriage with straw. At the end of 2008, Straw's parents bought him a small two-bedroom wedding room in Jiuting, with a total price of 6.5438+0.3 million. His parents took out all their savings, borrowed money from relatives and made a down payment of 300,000. Straw paid off the loan for more than 654.38+0 years, and the remaining loan was more than 950,000 yuan.

Although my parents are not satisfied with the straw, they hurt me after all. They are afraid that I will bear too much pressure for a large loan as soon as I get married. They offered to give me 500,000 dowry to repay the loan to reduce the burden, and we will slowly repay the rest of the loan ourselves. If you don't help us repay the loan, we think young people need a little pressure and work more actively.

I discussed with straw: "Well, the marriage room is not a problem now. When to discuss with my parents to remove the original name from the real estate license and add my name, this house is our first asset after marriage. My parents gave us a lot of help. Let's save our own wedding expenses. I want to live our own little life happily and comfortably after marriage. Without the influence and interference of parents, we will no longer rely on our parents and only live our own lives, okay? "

The straw was also excited: "OK, listen to you!" " I have a wife and a house. This is a life event! Let's go Little turtle, let's eat delicious food! Eat and live a new life! "

But the feedback from straw's parents is that my name can be added to the birth certificate, but their names can't be removed.

Hearing the news, I was stunned and asked the straw inexplicably: "Why? Your parents paid the down payment, but my parents also helped us pay back the loan. This house belongs to the support and blessing of two old people to their children. What are their names doing on it! "

Straw explained: "My parents took out their life savings for this down payment, and some of them borrowed money from relatives. Maybe they think that this house is the result of their hard work in this life and they are not willing to let go. "

"But it's not fair! This is not fair to my parents! I can't let my parents think that they are married to their daughters and flatter my in-laws. They will worry that their daughter will have no position in her husband's family in the future and will be bullied! The most important thing is that your mother won't let go of the wedding room. Is she ready to interfere in our married life in the future? "

Straw comforted me: "No, don't worry, I will persuade my mother when I go back, and my mother will listen to me."

The next day, I received a short message from Mother Straw, which read: "The name on our production certificate can't be removed! You're here to rob our house! So what if your family has money? You came to rob our house! Our family wants family, no money! "

I suddenly feel that almost all the mother-in-law in the original TV series are biased and disgusted with their daughter-in-law, which is actually true. Maybe what she thinks is not that I want to rob her house, but that she is more afraid that I will rob her son. I called Straw and told him that his mother sent me a message. Straw told me to wait for him and he would come to see me right away.

Straw came to see me with a suitcase. He said, "Little turtle, my mother is unreasonable, and I can't explain it clearly." Since they can't afford the house, let them have it. We can't afford the loan. But I belong to you. Look, all my luggage is out. I have no house. Don't you like me? Would you like to rent a house and marry me first? Believe me, I will be able to save money to buy you a house that belongs only to us in the future. "

I smiled and took his hand: "I was angry just now." I was just about to spit out the text message your mother sent me when you came. Now I am not angry at all, because you are sincere and don't help your parents. " When I first met you, you had nothing. Didn't I always dislike it? It is said that my family has a house. Why don't I talk to my parents and give us a wedding room? "

"Don't! Please don't! In this way, I am even more ashamed to see your parents. I've made you feel bad, and I have to trouble them to end it. I will blame myself. "

"Well, then, let's go to the agency to see the house! We have a home, so we have to decorate our nest. "

What are you afraid of naked marriage? What people are often afraid of is not naked marriage itself, but false love that is not reliable enough.

Six months after we rented a house and got married, Straw's parents came to us and said that they were distressed by the unstable rental life of their two children and were willing to accept my original proposal. I moved into Jiuting's house with straw.

2012121,Straw and I took out all our savings from graduation for a small wedding, which was not grand but very warm. I wore a pure white holy wedding dress and cried at the wedding and said to the straw, "I am not gentle and beautiful enough. I lack strength and courage. I can't cook and wash clothes, but I am stubborn and irritable." Thank you for your support, understanding and love. "

Straw gently kissed my forehead. "Silly turtle, I thank you, you never give up on me, and your love of reading and introspection gives me the motivation to constantly improve myself so many shortcomings."

In six years, I learned not to question that there is warmth everywhere in the world, and it is returned to me because I believe I can have it.

20 17 On the evening of May 29th, I was chatting with straw, and our baby daughter was already sucking her fingers and sleeping beside us.

Straw: "Do you know what I like most about you?"

"What?"

"You told me that a writer said that if the relationship between two lovers can be stable for a long time, it must be that one party has advantages that the other party can't achieve in this life. For me, you love books, and the books you have read are my unparalleled advantages in this life. I forgot the name of this writer. "

"I forgot, too."

"ah? You forgot, too? "

"Why? My brain is not a library book retrieval computer. "

"It doesn't matter. I don't like the retrieval computer in the library. I only like the number of books in the library. "

"I only like my scarecrow. You and your daughter are the brightest sunshine in my life. "

20 17, together.