How to strike up a conversation with a girl you don’t know and have never spoken to before.

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"Shengcai" (Taking up a conversation) in "Men's Needle"

Shengcai is a conversation, a conversation with the purpose of dating. In any situation in life: on the street, bus, subway, bookstore, library, party, restaurant, etc., there may be such a scene - you suddenly see her who makes you excited or even long-awaited. If you don't get it, the opportunity may be gone forever, and you can only pass it by with a sense of loss; if you get it, what should you say if you get it? What should I do if she ignores me? How shameless? Moreover, you will become stammering in front of the beautiful woman you like. This thought will make you even more afraid to have sex.

Why do we need to learn to talk

We must understand that there are not many opportunities in our lives (mainly in young and middle-aged years) to meet women who excite us. Take the chance, the biggest possibility is that we will never meet her again. And the chance that the beautiful woman we want to meet will naturally become our classmate/colleague is extremely low, so don’t wait for fate.

Don’t be misled by society’s wrong ideas and regard eating as something improper. Craving is one of the many ways to socialize, and there is nothing wrong with it. The more civilized and progressive a society is, the more developed the pick-up culture is. People who have been educated in progressive Western countries will not have this wrong idea. Everyone has a love for beauty. Face your thoughts and feelings about wanting to meet the opposite sex honestly. Don't suppress your instincts because of unreasonable restrictions from society. Don't worry about other people's opinions. In fact, although there will be people who don't agree with the behavior of eating, in their hearts they envy you for daring to do what they want to do but don't dare to do. It's natural to talk to people you want to know.

Shengqi can exercise a person's communication skills and hone a man's self-confidence and self-cultivation. Living is a noble art, containing courage and wisdom. After reading this book, when you can interact with people you really want to know, you will live happily and freely, be full of interest in people, and your life will become extremely sunny.

Please refer to "Eye Training" in this book before reading this chapter.

How to overcome psychological pressure

The biggest challenge in life is how to overcome the fear of failure.

When faced with a girl you don’t care about, you can still talk and laugh happily even if it is your first contact. Even if she ignores you, your self-esteem will not be hurt and you won't think it's okay. You may even think that the other person is not "savvy" and has no cultivation.

But when you meet a top-notch beauty who seems to be in good condition, you will hesitate and become stammering. It's the same possibility of rejection, but you have a completely different reaction, just because you're afraid of failure. The fear of failure brings you psychological stress. Psychological stress can make people unable to perform at their normal level, leading to actual failure.

So the root cause is fear of failure. The reasons for fear of failure include: fear of hurting self-esteem, lack of confidence in oneself, and caring too much about results. Please note that these are all feelings you have imposed on your own psychology. They are subjective and have nothing to do with the beautiful woman you want to pick up.

How to overcome this psychological barrier?

A. It is normal for trainees to feel shy and embarrassed when they first start smoking. However, after often referring to this book and practicing more in life, things will gradually get better.

B. The more natural and stress-free you are, the more natural and stress-free you will feel to the other party, so the key is to adjust your mentality. The more confident and self-righteous you are that you talk to her directly as a friend, the more she will follow your words and talk to you.

C. Even for those who are experts in consuming food, the success rate is not high. Some people succeed and some fail. However, the more times you use cigarettes, the more successful cases there will be. But you have to remind yourself that you should remember more about successful experiences to encourage yourself and sum up the experience.

D. Be indifferent to the experience of encountering cold faces, or explain to yourself that the other person may be a girl who lives at the bottom of society, and often comes into contact with messy people, so she is very wary of people; or she may be very wary of people; She comes from a family with feudal and backward educational concepts.

E. Even if the experience of failure brings you temporary fear, after you overcome this psychological barrier, you will have a large forest for you to use, so you have to thank her for this tree. Your chance to practice and grow into a master.

F. Don’t focus on the results, but focus on the habit itself, and aim at whether you develop a habit. The purpose of developing the habit of smoking is to cultivate a positive attitude towards life, so that we can be confident in ourselves in any situation, talk confidently with the people we want to know, and establish friendly relationships with them. relation.

G. When you are addicted, don't approach her with the intention of "wanting to have sex with her". You should be like an emperor selecting a concubine, and only consider it after screening. Even if you don't actually have such courage, you still have to have such a condescending mentality. Such a mentality can help you overcome your fear of food cravings and face food cravings with ease.

In short, don’t be discouraged and lose your confidence, so that you can maintain the motivation to continue eating. If one day you become a master, you will realize that the other person's reaction no longer has an important impact on you. What a real man values ??is whether he is worthy of your thoughts and sincerity in wanting to know the other person.

Women’s psychology towards raw food

Usually women don’t dislike the raw food of strange men, because they subconsciously think that this is proof of their charm. They remember the experience of being eaten alive in their lives. Such experiences are often talked about by them, which greatly satisfies their vanity. Therefore, whether she accepts you or not, you are doing a charity to satisfy her vanity and protect her self-confidence. In order to give women more experiences that bring them a sense of pride, we have to work hard on ourselves and work hard!

Opening remarks

Don't ask her an opening statement that can only answer "yes or no" or "good or bad". This will easily make the topic get stuck and not continue. Such questions include "Can we get to know each other?" "Can we make friends?" "Are you a student?" "Let's chat, okay?" "Can we go to dinner together?"

So what should you say as the first thing you say when you take a cigarette? The best is the "compliments + questions" routine, please refer to the "compliments" in "How to Talk to Make a Woman Like You" in this book.

When you first meet her, try to avoid complimenting her appearance. Even if you are attracted by her appearance, you should express that you are not only attracted by her appearance, but focus on her special features. , no matter how insignificant this "special" actually is. For example, "How high are the heels of your shoes? ... You are not like other girls who rock like a tumbler in such high shoes."

The compliment in the opening line should be subtle and subtle.

When you praise her, don't consciously wait for her reaction. Even if you have this consciousness, you can't let her notice it. For example, after complimenting her, you should not just smile and wait for her to reply, but continue talking. Another example is in a bar, first compliment her "Your earrings are very beautiful!", then turn around and chat with your friends without looking at her; or immediately ask the bartender for a drink after complimenting her. If she doesn't talk to you backwards, later on you just start with "Hey, 'Earring Girl'..." or something like that.

If the situation is that you directly express your desire to get to know the other person, after you express this desire, do not look at her and wait for her to say whether she is willing, but immediately go on to talk about your own situation, such as your work. class.

A good opening line is like:

A. "Where are your parents from and why are you so fair/tall?".

B. "Are you Japanese/Korean?"

C. "My watch is broken, what time is it?" (Set your watch slowly or quickly first. )

D. "The people in my dormitory say that you are a hottie in X department. With so many boys pursuing you, you will be too busy every day, right?" (Whether she is a hottie or not, She will definitely come to deny it, and she will have a good first impression of you having the confidence to talk to her even though she knows she has many suitors).

It is recommended to understand what is said above and practice and practice your own opening remarks according to different situations.

Body Language

When approaching a girl, walk steadily, not too fast, and don’t think that showing an anxious look will give her the impression that you care about her. This is absolutely true for your first contact. This is not the time for you to prove that you care about her.

When you say your opening remarks, you should not be behind her, let alone block her way. If you are approaching her from behind, walk steadily to her left or right front without blocking her path. Consider adding gestures, such as extending your hand toward her at waist height, palm down. This is where your opening remarks begin.

It is best if you can get her to stop and talk to you; moreover, it is best if you can get her to turn away from her original direction at some angle (a larger angle is better), for example, you can introduce yourself while going around. Take a step or two with her and let her naturally turn around to face you. The change in body language helps her change her role: from rushing to "do thing A" in her heart to a new thing like "doing thing B" (getting to know you). Otherwise, even if she is not disgusted with you, she originally planned to do something. When you show up, her train of thought has not changed and she has already taken a few steps away from you.

If you are facing each other, don't walk towards her facing her completely, instead face her diagonally, probably with your shoulders facing her, and walk slowly towards her. Everything else is the same as above.

These body language treatments are all intended to reduce a woman’s fear of unfamiliar men and make her feel more secure. You'd better make her feel that you may leave at any time, so that she will be more convinced that you have no other intentions.

When talking, if she leans back or even steps back, don't push forward. Stay still or slowly lean your upper body back a little while talking. Only when she leans back, You just approached her. If she is obviously unwilling to listen to you, or even waves her hands and turns around to leave, you should give up, or explain to yourself that she may be a girl at the bottom of society, who often comes into contact with messy people and is therefore very wary of others; Maybe she comes from a family with feudal and backward educational concepts.

Don’t touch her anywhere on her body when she is eating.

How to judge whether she is interested in you during sex

A. Eyes

Judging from her eyes and your eye contact, please Refer to "Eye Training" in this book.

B. Her questions

Generally speaking, you need to get to know her. Of course, most of your conversations will consist of you asking her questions and answering them. If she asks you questions back, that's good information and shows that she has some interest in you. The more she answers questions such as "What do you do/What is your major?" "Where are you from?" "How long have you been graduating/How old are you?", the better the sign. .

C. The level of detail in her answers

For example, if you ask her what her major is, she will even tell you which department she majors in. That is of course a positive response.

D. If she is willing to continue the conversation no matter what you talk about, it is a good sign.

E. The following are the discharge signals commonly used by women:

a) Hair: Fidgeting with your hair.

b) Lips: Apply lipstick towards you.

c) Chin: Hold your chin with your hand and look at you with a smile.

d) Neck: Gently caress the neck.

e) Body: Keep your chest up, your abdomen up, your buttocks raised, and your body lines exposed.

f) Eyes: Bright and affectionate eyes, wide open and staring.

How to ask for her name and contact information

When you ask her for her contact information, do not use a "asking" tone, but a "command/state" tone. For example,

Don't ask "Can I leave your phone number?"

You should say "What's your phone number?/I'll ??take note of your phone number."

A good example: "I'll write down your contact information. I'll call you when there are events in the future, and also call your friends, and we can all play together." The reason why I added that I can bring friends is to let her let down her guard. , feel more at ease.

Note that many experts have proven that writing her a simple email is a more effective way to start than making a phone call first. Moreover, email is less likely to involve harassment issues. Compared with a phone number, she will feel more comfortable giving it to you who is not familiar with it.

There is a trick. If the situation allows and the atmosphere of the chat is good, after you ask for her phone number, tell her that you want to play a phone game with her. Call her on the spot and ask her to pretend to be excited to answer your call. For example, ask her to say: "Wow, so-and-so (you), I'm so happy you called me!" It's best to ask her to make some exaggerated gestures. expression. This will give you an unexpectedly good start.

Scenario Mode 1

Pretend to leave after chatting (make body language to leave, such as turning around and nodding goodbye), take a few steps away from her, and then come back naturally Ask for contact information, for example: "Oh, by the way, do you have Email/QQ?"

Usually she will say yes, and you just take out a pen and a random piece of paper (can't be prepared) You can only bring your own paper and pen), take her answer as her promise to give you her contact information, and say in that tone: "Okay, write it here." When she is writing , you can add: "Write your phone number also.".

You can also take out your mobile phone and ask her to type it down. When she is writing, you add: "Write down your phone number too.".

If she answers no, it may be that she really doesn’t use Email/QQ, or she may not have decided to give her contact information yet. At this time, it is not easy to directly ask for the phone number. It is recommended to use humor to twist it. atmosphere. For example: "It's the 21st century. Someone should invent something that can keep us connected?"... Then take out your phone and say: "Oh, it seems that this device has this function?!". Another example: "Aren't you forcing me to get your phone number?".

Scenario 2

"You are so kind... (the suggestion here is a compliment other than her appearance), I really wish we had more time to chat. But I have to rush do...(something)". If you stop talking at this time, she may take the initiative to give you her contact information, but if not, then continue: "Well, I will take note of your phone number or email, and we will contact you later."

A. If she doesn't give her contact information, but asks you to leave her yours, the likelihood that she will actually contact you proactively is very low. You can say: "Because the main thing is that I am here to get to know you, not that you are here to get to know me, but I am here to send you an email." Of course, give her your contact information at the same time.

B. If she still doesn’t give, you can ask her again: “Do you think this way of meeting people is not good?” If she means it is not good, then you can analyze: “I don’t either. The way is, this is the only way I can get to know you."

C. If she says: "It's nothing wrong, but I have a boyfriend," then quickly say: "Let's all be normal. Friends, it’s good to have more friends. Let’s play together in future activities.” Your answer doesn’t sound strong, but girls need such excuses.

D. If she doesn’t give any contact information in the end, we still have to be polite and say goodbye politely. You have nothing to lose, and if you meet her next time, the situation may be very different.

The right place at the right time

The more civilized and progressive the society, the more developed the food and drink culture. In Western countries, greeting strangers is even considered polite in many situations. In China, eating raw food is not very common. Because Chinese women are always in a state of protecting themselves and being wary of men, they do not intend to exert their sexual charm everywhere in their daily lives, and they do not expect the opportunity to have contact with strangers.

In places such as bars, discos and ballrooms, before women come to such places, they are subconsciously prepared to display their sexual charms, and they become easily sexually attracted. Therefore, this kind of place is your starting practice ground.

Generally speaking, it is not suitable to have sex in places where women feel insecure, such as on the road at night.

In the bank, if you really don't want to miss her, don't wait until she leaves the bank before exiting. She will feel more secure in the bank. And it's best to take the initiative to show her that you know the bank is not a very convenient place to meet people, but please rest assured that there is nothing you can do to analyze her. This is the only way you can get to know her.

At night, when you can’t see the other person clearly, it’s not a good time to identify beautiful women. In addition, beauties like to go out for activities in the evening, so evening is a good time to meet and eat beauties.

Tips

A. Consciously cultivate keen observation skills. Not only should you observe her dress, backpack, jewelry, and temperament without any trace, but you should also pay attention to the things she is carrying and the books and newspapers she is reading. Mention these if you can bring them up when you are mad at her, and the effect will be good.

B. If you want to look at her whole body from top to bottom, you can only do it from behind her. Otherwise, if you are within her sight, she may notice it no matter how cautious you are and even if she is not looking at you.

C. Know how to end your life at the right time. Generally speaking, it takes a few minutes to 10 minutes to say goodbye. But if she responds enthusiastically, you don't need to adhere to various social rules, don't overthink it, and just keep talking as long as she wants.

D. Even if there is no contact after the drug addiction, if you are lucky enough to meet her again, the success rate of dating her will be very high.

E. When meeting a mature woman, you can directly state your intention and honestly state your intention to get to know her.

After Sang Ke, she ran away with a smile

A shy and angry girl might smile and run away when Sang Ke was met. This is not bad news, but it does show that she has a good impression of you. When we meet again next time, let’s not mention the incident last time. Anyway, don’t regard the last experience as a setback. Say hi to her directly, and if she asks who you are (it's possible she vaguely remembers you, but she'll still pretend not to remember), tell her you said hi and it's nice to see her again, and then move on Keep chatting. The more natural and stress-free you are, the more natural and stress-free you will feel to the other person, so the key is to adjust your mentality. The more confident and self-righteous you are that you talk to her directly as a friend, the more she will follow your words and talk to you.

How to get angry with her when she has female friends?

Inexperienced people often hope that the girl will be alone before they get angry, thinking that they will not be rejected in front of too many people. Shame on you. In fact, being alone is not necessarily the easiest situation for a girl to succeed. She is at her best when she has a female friend by her side.

When she has friends by her side, she feels more psychologically secure and dares to face strange men. Moreover, when girls go shopping together, they are psychologically prepared to show off their sexual charms. At this time, if you bite her in front of her friends, she will gain a greater sense of vanity than if she is eaten alone. If her friend doesn't push her, she will even deliberately talk to you more just to show off to her beautiful friend. In order not to let her friends rush or pull her away, don't forget to take care of her friends as well, such as nodding politely and saying hello.

"How did you meet?" This question must be asked as much as possible, it can bring you a lot of information, and it can also take care of her friends.

How to get angry with her when she is shopping

When you see a beautiful girl from Italy who is shopping, it is recommended to create opportunities for eye contact. Please refer to "Eye Training" in this book. If she is not a little girl, you can use your opening remarks. Also, if you are eating on a crowded street, you will be easily disturbed by passers-by, so it will be better to wait until she is standing still and looking at something before you start your first conversation.

If you are in a mall, you can pretend to bump into her(ren) accidentally and choose something in front of the same stall. Then, for example, you can say that you are considering buying something for your sister. , and asked her for advice.

How could she be born with her parents around?

This is the most challenging situation that tests confidence and courage. If you have a good background, you can try greeting your parents first. First introduce yourself about your professional background and educational background. After saying that you want to get to know their daughter, it is recommended that you immediately turn around and talk to your target without waiting for the other person to say yes or no.

When a woman is around you, how do you get mad at another woman who appears halfway?

If you are dating a girl, it is best to take her away from the third one. The beauty looked away and said in a tone that suddenly came to mind: "Oh, I seemed to have met an acquaintance just now. Please wait for me and I'll say hello." If the original girl sees the process of eating, explain to you that you We met somewhere, whether that was actually the case or not. After explaining, quickly change the topic to her, for example, you can praise her. This can disrupt her train of thought and move her to another topic.

How to smoke in a bookstore

The environment of a bookstore gives women a sense of security, and men who love reading make people feel good, so the bookstore is actually a good place to smoke. When you go to a bookstore, take a quick tour of the entire bookstore. If you find a target, pick out a book near her and carefully confirm whether she is your type (this is also the advantage of the bookstore, giving you enough time), such as checking whether her skin is good or not. If the target is confirmed, you also find a book, read near her, and find opportunities to observe what book she is reading. You can directly chat with the author about the content and title of the book. You can even skip the opening remarks and start your conversation just like two book friends exchanging ideas. If you have also read related books, you can also recommend a few to her. Or you can say that you are interested in the topic she is reading and ask her to recommend a few books to you. If you can exchange reading experiences with her and make her feel that you have the same topics and interests, that would be perfect.

How do students smoke in libraries and study rooms?

Campus is a relatively simple environment, so girls feel more at ease with students of the opposite sex. The library/study room is a place where students gather and is not very mobile, allowing you to seize the opportunity. It is best not to disturb her when she is reading. It is recommended to wait until she is looking for books on the bookshelf, or create opportunities to bump into her by chance at the water dispenser, toilet, etc.

First find a seat near the target, sit down, read a book for a while, and then ask her to borrow a pen or paper. Continue reading your book, and when she gets up and goes out, you find an opportunity to meet her outside the classroom and thank her, so that you can start your life naturally.

You can also put a piece of paper on her seat when she leaves her seat and write something like: Your hair is well taken care of! I would like to ask about my hair care experience. Attach your contact information. It is recommended to include your mobile phone number. She will often text you back.

How to get drunk on buses, trains, and planes

Most people on the road are lonely. On trains and planes, as long as you take the initiative to talk to them, they are usually happy to have someone to talk to. Chat with her. For the content of the chat, please refer to "How to Chat to Make a Woman Fall in Love with You" in this book.

A master of picking up girls said that when he gets a boarding pass at the airport, he never rushes to queue. He first sat down in the rest area, and when he saw a beautiful woman, he quickly walked over and lined up behind her. In this way, it is very likely that he and the beauty are seated next to each other.

Having sex on the bus requires the most courage, because women are very vigilant when on the bus. It is recommended that you try consuming cigarettes on the bus only after you are familiar with the techniques of consuming cigarettes.

There is one problem that you should pay attention to when taking a bus, that is, you don’t have much time, and she may get off at any time. It is recommended that you first tell her which stop you are getting off at while chatting, and then ask her which stop she is getting off at. This way you can effectively control the progress of the food in this limited time, and get to her before she gets off the bus. Contact details.