Calligraphy, harp and singing, Qingyuan SMS

When I was a child, most idol dramas were about overbearing presidents falling in love with working girls. In recent years, both male and female protagonists are equally excellent, and even love can last for a long time. Just like in To Oak, their backgrounds, abilities, economic conditions and ideological level should be equal. In recent years, young people advocate "matching" more and more. Matching here does not mainly refer to wealth, including family background, work, education, vision, growth experience, ideas and so on. It is said that two people with far different levels may be together because of love, but in the end they may be separated because of disagreement.

When it comes to intimate love, Zhao Mengfu and his wife Guan Daosheng are definitely a typical example.

1. The two great calligraphers are a perfect match.

Zhao Mengfu was a famous calligrapher, painter and poet in the late Southern Song Dynasty and early Yuan Dynasty. He is knowledgeable and versatile, especially good at calligraphy and painting. No widely circulated works have become treasures in the collection world. Calligraphy is also good at many kinds, such as seal script, official script, original script, running script and cursive script, among which regular script and running script are famous all over the world. His calligraphy has both form and spirit, beautiful form, integrity and peace, and he is also called "four masters of regular script" with Ou Yangxun, Yan Zhenqing and Liu Gongquan. In painting, he created a new painting style in Yuan Dynasty, which was called "the crown of Yuan people". After the death of the Song Dynasty, Zhao Meng was recommended to Kublai Khan in the process of "searching for relics in the south of the Yangtze River". According to historical records, Zhao Meng is "gorgeous and radiant, shining on the palace", which shows that his appearance and bearing are also extraordinary.

(Zhao Mengfu bust ▲)

Guan Furen, namely Guan Daosheng, was a famous female calligrapher, painter and poet in Yuan Dynasty. Zhao Mengfu was named Queen Wei by Yuan Renzong, and the pipeline was promoted to Lady Wei. The name "Guan Furen" comes from this, and he is good at drawing Zhu Momeilan with clear brushstrokes. He also created landscapes, Buddha statues, poems and calligraphy.

(Guan Daosheng's "Misty Rain Bamboo" ▲)

Her calligraphy style is similar to that of Zhao Mengfu, and both can be confused with the original. Because of his remarkable achievements in calligraphy, he and Mrs. Wei, the teacher of Wang Xizhi in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, were also called "the second lady of calligraphy".

? (Zhao Mengfu & Guan Daosheng's Late Autumn Sticker ▲)

Zhao Mengfu said of his wife in Epitaph of Mrs. Wei's Guan Family: "He is brilliant and brilliant. Can also write, for the word chapter, for the ink bamboo, clear brushwork. Mrs. Tian Zi is cheerful, virtuous and generous, unprepared, handwritten, and can learn without learning. " You can write poetry without learning to write poetry ",which is really high.

Guan Daosheng married 36-year-old Zhao Mengfu at the age of 28, which can be described as a real late marriage, but the combination of talented people and beautiful women was a brief encounter and hit it off. They live happily after marriage, share the same interests, play the piano and sing harmoniously, and have high attainments in painting and calligraphy. They often sing poems, splash ink, paint, polish and write poems together, and live an elegant and comfortable life.

2. A poem saved a marriage.

It's been almost twenty years, but there is something wrong with the respectful marriage life. During the Dade period, Zhao Mengfu, who was in charge of Zhejiang Confucianism, met the charming singer Cui Yunying. At that time, concubinage became a common practice among celebrities, and Zhao Mengfu had the idea of concubinage. He was embarrassed to say it, so he made a small print and handed it to his wife:

I am a bachelor and you are a wife. Don't you know that Wang has peach leaves and peach roots, and Su has morning clouds and dusk clouds? I want to marry more Wu Ji and Yue Nv. You are over forty years old. Take Yutangchun for example.

It's not my fault. Is there any difference between this and making it clear? Zhao Mengfu took Wang Xianzhi and Su Shi as examples and said that he also wanted to follow their example of concubinage. Guan Furen felt uncomfortable when she saw it, but she didn't let it go or leave angrily. At first, she wrote a poem to influence her husband: "My husband went to Japan to grow bamboo, and bamboo became a forest gentleman in the future." Jade is not as beautiful as jade. "Guan Daosheng wants her husband to think about his previous kindness and think about the benefits of young couples' old companionship.

After careful consideration, I wrote the famous "I Nong Ci". You love me, a lot of feelings, a lot of feelings, hot as fire. Twist a piece of mud to make you and me. Break us together and mix with water. Twist the other you and shape the other me. I got you into the mire, and you got me into the mire. Born like you, died like you.

You have me and I have you. Isn't that what couples do? Run in with each other, support each other, and gradually integrate into each other's lives to become an inseparable whole.

Zhao Mengfu read the mantra written by his wife and was deeply touched. He may have thought of all kinds of deep feelings in the past, or he may have been awakened by a moment of confusion. He regretted it and immediately went to make amends to his wife, never mentioning concubinage again.

A few years later, Guan Daosheng died at the age of 57, and Zhao Mengfu converted to Buddhism. Four years later, he followed his wife and was buried with Guan Furen in Deqing.

It is worth mentioning that Guan Daosheng is a female model of balancing family and career. She is not only brilliant, but also wise in marriage, and her educational achievements are even more remarkable. Her son became a famous calligrapher in the Yuan Dynasty.

Zhao Mengfu himself was quite proud, saying in "Zhai Ji": "Madam (Guan) can write poems without learning. Believing in Buddhism, he wrote dozens of volumes of Diamond Sutra to teach famous monks. The son of heaven ordered his wife to write the book "Thousand Articles", and he ordered the jade worker to grind the jade shaft and send it to the minister to supervise the collection; He also ordered six volumes of Meng Shu and one volume of Yong Shu, and said: In the future, it is well known in the world that there are women who are good at writing, and it is also strange to be able to write. " Even Yuan Renzong put the calligraphy of Zhao Meng, Guan Daosheng and their son Zhao Yong in a scroll, and kept it under the supervision of the secretary to let future generations know that there were also famous female calligraphers in this dynasty.

Even love is beautiful and more realistic. At present, most people can get by economically (of course, I am still poor), so what they pursue is spiritual harmony. All these constitute the conditions of "close competition". Therefore, it is increasingly difficult to cross the class through marriage, and we have to admit that class differentiation is an objective fact.