Delayed happiness

When I go to work by subway, the carriages are as crowded as sardines. Most people are immersed in their mobile phones, while others are reading the daily subway newspaper. When I stopped at the subway station, I glanced at the mobile phone next to me. I didn't remember the long topic, but only remembered the four words in the topic "delay happiness!" "

Stanford University once did an experiment for a group of four-year-old children: give these children a marshmallow, and if the children didn't finish the marshmallow within 15 minutes, give them a second marshmallow; If children eat the first marshmallow within 15 minutes, they will not get the second marshmallow. In the experiment, some children held back from eating and persisted, while others ate. Ten years later, Stanford University conducted a follow-up survey of these children who participated in the experiment, made a full comparison in their studies, careers and families, and drew some conclusions. Later, scientists named this ability to "hold back eating and wait for more marshmallows" as "happiness delay ability"?

In fact, the so-called "delaying happiness" is actually deliberately delaying the arrival of your own happiness and sticking to your original heart. It says that the advantage is more self-discipline, which can enhance a person's restraint of desire and endurance of pain. For people nowadays, happiness is really a very simple thing. Of course, the happiness I'm talking about is mainly a state of mind, which is different from the happiness of winning 5 million prizes in the lottery. The happiness I say is based on the happiness of ordinary people. This kind of happiness is actually everywhere, and everyone's happiness is different. Just like when we were young, my mother bought us a flowered skirt, and I felt very happy; I will feel happy when my father buys delicious food; With the growth of age, people feel less and less happy. In fact, happiness is also very simple, a warm message from a lover; Children compete to enter a good school, even when the green light is on at the crossroads, all this is happiness. Happiness exists around us every day, but it is often that we lack a pair of eyes to find happiness, just as we lack the discovery of beauty.

Just as people want to drink water when they are thirsty and eat when they are hungry, people's pursuit of happiness is quite deliberate. So when happiness comes, most people hug her for the first time and enjoy her care, but ignore the original intention of realizing this happiness. When they calm down and realize this problem, they often feel childish and ridiculous. This is also a normal psychology of people, and I have had such failures myself. Two summers ago, there was a new air conditioner in my living room, but it had not been installed before. Instead, I installed hanging air conditioners in several bedrooms. I actually bought a cabinet air conditioner online, and the money for buying the air conditioner is the principal of my stock trading. I also regret missing the bull market that year. Even though I didn't buy an air conditioner, I didn't know what delaying happiness was, so I decided to kill the goose that lays the golden egg.

The common fault of modern people is immaturity. Most people want to get a big return at a small cost, or they are eager to get a return as soon as possible after paying. This may kill all the hopes they have built up, and their long-standing wishes are often frustrated by their quick success and instant benefit. Therefore, the establishment of "delayed happiness" can make our work more adequate and make our patience last longer. This result is what we want.