The TV series Beijing Youth

How many people are walking but trapped in the same place?

How many people live as if they were dead?

How many people love each other, but seem to be separated?

How many people are smiling with tears in their eyes?

Who knows where we should go?

Who knows what life has become?

Is it an excuse to continue living?

Or fly high and stay angry

How do I exist

How many times have I won the honor and felt humiliated?

How many ecstasies are painful?

How many times happiness has stuck in my heart like a knife?

How many glorious times have you lost your mind?

Who knows where we should dream?

Who knows what dignity has become?

Is there a reason to go with the flow?

Or bravely move forward and break free from the cage.

How do I exist

This is the lyrics of the song Being. Although, after so many years, I can still see my clear life track with this lyric. Experienced all kinds of ups and downs, suffered all kinds of hardships. But it's still moving forward.

Look back at the play. I smiled. It's good to be young. Your thinking and choice are correct. Because young and fearless.

When I opened the video, I saw an earth-shattering sentence from He Dong and his parents: I want to go back to my youth. It seems like a lifetime ago, and it seems to be similar.

Born and raised in old Beijing, four cousins, He Dong, He, He Nan and He Bei, have different family backgrounds, personalities and ambitions.

He Dong is 27 years old this year. He has been a civil servant for five years and has a quiet life. He is about to marry his fiancee. As the eldest grandson, he is deeply loved by his grandfather and the elders at home.

He is 25 years old. He is a young doctor in the hospital and graduated with a master's degree in medicine. Since childhood, I have been a child who listens to his parents and studies hard. He never goes against his parents' wishes. His life track is as simple as his character. The second of four children.

He Nan, aged 23, holds a master's degree in returnees. My father was laid off early and my mother left. Father mortgaged his house and sent him to study in Canada.

He Bei, 2 1 year old, unemployed youth, the youngest of the four brothers. Some are smart, some are idle, and fooling around is a heart disease for rich dad. My father owns a glassware factory and his family is in good condition. Although his education level is not high, he is good at making all kinds of friends in society and leading a colorful life.

Four brothers with different life trajectories have experienced the most important turning point in their adult lives.

The boss, He Dong, is getting more and more tired of the monotonous life of civil servants. After working for five years, he can see himself in the workplace in the next ten years. He Dong feels that the current life of civil servants is a bit monotonous for him, which can no longer meet his requirements of maximizing his energy. He decided to live for himself once. He threw away all his ideological baggage, suddenly went back on his word when he registered for marriage, and broke up with his virtuous girlfriend like lightning. Go to the unit to resign and find your own life direction again. He wants to experience his youth again and find his true self. On the way back to youth, he rediscovered himself, changed his mentality and ushered in a new peak in his life.

He is a young doctor who has just entered the society. Love is the main theme of his life, and he wants to be the master of his own marriage. I fell in love with the psychologist Laila at first sight and despaired of his true love. On the way of looking for youth, he met Ren Zhi, a girl who was insane because of lovelorn love. He saved the girl with his true feelings and gained his love.

In order to realize her dream, He Nan quit her high-paying job in Canada and returned to China to start a business. I felt sorry for my father, but I persisted for my dream. He Nan's road to entrepreneurship is full of twists and turns, and he has experienced many unexpected difficulties. He stopped at the threshold of reality for a long time, and it was difficult to take the first step.

Facing his father's hatred, He Bei has his own ideas. His ideal is to open his own bar, but he is distressed because his father opposes it and has no capital. On the way back to youth, he stumbled and made trouble, but he also gained a lot.

These four young people in Beijing are working hard for their ideals. On the way back to youth, they not only found their own direction in life, but also found their own love and happiness.

It's been many years since the broadcast, and I reviewed it halfway. I read it carefully several times. Personally, I think this film has profound practical significance for our parents and our young people.

Original ecological family

It is said that parents are their children's first teachers, and what He Dong's parents saw when they were young was endless noise. Three days of small trouble, five days of big trouble. There is no warm atmosphere at home, but it is full of gunpowder, just like a time bomb, which may explode at any time. His life was arranged before he was 26. No self.

But as an adult, we have our own thoughts and brains. You can't always listen to your parents. My parents are here and everything is fine. If one day my parents are gone, as he and Quan Zhengzheng said, nothing will happen. How can I live such a long life in the future?

That's why he didn't want to get married the day he got his marriage certificate. He was oppressed because he was afraid. He is worried that he is living the same life as his parents. I'm so tired. Life is a chicken feather, and we have to face all kinds of trivial disputes at home every day. It is better not to have such a marriage.

His parents, he can't choose. This arranged life left him with no hope. He doesn't want to go the way of his parents. He wants to live his own life.

Many audience friends especially don't understand He Dong's resignation. It is said that He Dong is too comfortable and full. For He Dong's resignation, I have to say that it is a kind of courage and courage. Not everyone can be so free and easy. Anyway, it's a decent iron rice bowl.

However, when he is eager to jump out of the cage, even if he sleeps in the street outside, he will feel that his breathing is fresh and comfortable. This is the difference in people's thinking angle.

The problems of the original ecological family are not only superficial. More is the dribs and drabs that have penetrated into our lives, accompanying our lives. Many problems, which often appear, can't get out or recur, are all because of the influence of the original ecological family.

Each of us can't change our family and parents, but we can completely jump out of our family. Change yourself, influence your family and honor your parents.

After he left, He Dong's parents slowly calmed down and thought a lot of questions before they began to look back on their lives. I realized that He Dong's departure was not accidental, but influenced by the growth of his childhood husband and wife. He Dong has a shadow in his heart. If he doesn't come out, he may become depressed.

He Dong is like this. Now many young people have this confusion and problem in their hearts. The unhappiness of the family makes their life particularly gloomy.

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He Dong's father said that marriage is two words, forbearance and forbearance. But he dong does not agree with this statement. He doesn't want to live like this.

The night I finished talking with my father, I ate a certain dose of sleeping pills because I couldn't sleep. I don't know why my parents thought their daughter was depressed and committed suicide. Put all the responsibilities and problems on He Dong. Looking at Quan Zheng lying in the hospital bed, He Dong came out of Quan Zheng's ward, tearing his hair and banging his head, and the whole person almost collapsed. No one can understand his pain, his entanglement and his regret.

Seeing Quan Zheng lying in the hospital bed, seeing the way Quan Zheng's parents looked at him, and seeing his parents quarreling over him, he didn't have the courage to take that step. He chose to compromise and decided to re-register with Quanzheng. Prepare for the "forbearing" marriage that parents had. Because he didn't want to hurt anyone. People on earth are good at living.

But his father said to him at this time: "If marriage makes you so wronged and so painful, I don't think you need to force yourself so much." He said that he admired his son's courage. If he had the courage of his son, he would not have married He Dong's mother or divorced, so now he can only pay the price. He said that He Dong's confusion now is his confusion in the past. I want to ask him what to do, but he really can't give any advice. Love is a responsibility. If you don't love, you should do your duty.

In fact, the marriage that He Dong wants is the same as the marriage that most men want, but he dares to think and do it. He hopes that the person who will accompany him in the future life is a soul mate who loves, knows, cherishes, accompanies and has a tacit understanding. For him, obedient, patient and accommodating women make him feel neither the passion of life nor the passion of love. He hopes that his partner is a new woman with personality, independent thinking, independent survival ability, independent self-control, wisdom and intellectual elegance. This new woman is completely different from the new women after the Republic of China. Independence is not only self-independence, but also ideological independence.

We have been talking about equality between men and women. But after so many years of social development, men and women have evolved to this day. Are men and women equal? No. China is a country with a cultural and historical foundation of 5,000 years. The influence of traditional ideas and original ecology has continued. China men are still one foot in Qing dynasty and one foot in modern times. Many men's and women's social problems have not been solved in a real substantive sense at all.

Otherwise, there would be no current social form, such emotional problems and marriage and family problems.

Everything is that they don't know what marriage is. What is everyone getting married for? Is it a combination of traditional family bloodline and mutual spiritual harmony, or some kind of contractual cooperation? ......

Xinhai is a traditional woman. I still believe in my bones that marriage is sacred, not that children play house. It is different from love, and it is more about taking responsibility and fulfilling obligations. When we can't or can't support ourselves and take responsibility, the door to marriage needs to be cautious. That is responsible for yourself and for others.

Life of square box mode

I didn't understand it before, but only after revisiting it this time did I understand what the square box mode of life is.

People born in the 1980s broke the traditional family structure. One family, one child. A single character relationship, they become the core of the whole family, bearing all the hopes of parents and even families, so from birth to work, they are completely packed in a square box, just like primary schools, middle schools and universities. Only academic performance and scores are the only standards that parents require of their children.

Why don't they dare to leave, why don't they dare to change and rush out of themselves? It is because the family environment and the city where they live bring them a sense of security, and the sense of security gives them a sense of belonging.

But people often say, read thousands of books and take Wan Li Road. If you don't go out and have a look, you will never know how short-sighted your eyes are, and you will never know the true meaning of the saying that there are mountains outside the white mountains and there are people outside. Only a true yogi can understand the profound truth.

Nowadays, in many families, parents have done everything for their children, but they have never thought about whether these are what their children want. Is this life still meaningful to children? Is the child's life a child's, or is it a pity that parents have fulfilled their wishes and dreams?

Love without any material interference

I just want to talk about a love without any material interference. When I heard Ye Tan and his father say this in the play, I laughed. I am familiar with it. Twenty years ago, I said so and did the same. The result is a word "destroyed".

Love is full of water. However, no matter how beautiful love is, it also needs to be attached to a certain economic foundation. Just like a beautiful flower, it needs sunshine and dew. People must live, and love is beautiful.

All gorgeous words and beautiful love poems have been changed in the modern material society. Without material conditions as the basis of love, the final outcome will probably be a dream.

Love, beauty, expectation, yearning for these eternal themes, these words have always been said the most by all those who are chasing the road. But with the development of society, these are no longer simple literal meanings, and more extensions and additions can be combined to be perfect.

Like lilacs and Shen Chang in it. Lilac and Shen Chang had a love affair, but Shen Chang chose someone else because money betrayed love, so that Lilac was injured for many years and could not forget Shen Chang and start a new relationship.

So, what I want to say is that love is beautiful, so we must treat it rationally. Those crazy things you do for love can be done, you need to think carefully and be tolerant.

Talking about youth

There are too many topics about youth. The manifestations of youth are also rich and colorful.

What He Dong said about rejuvenation is not the literal meaning we imagined. Didn't say when it must be.

He said that youth will come back, and the first thing he emphasized was the economic foundation. Because he has savings from years of work, he dares to make such a choice. Secondly, his youth is a kind of self-release, a kind of change, and more of a test of self-survival ability and self-life. I hope to go out, broaden my horizons and enlarge the pattern. Hope is completely out of the arms and care of parents. Be a truly valuable person.

The topic of youth mentioned by He Dong is actually faced by many children in modern times. Modern children, China's educational model is forbidden, family environment is forbidden, and social environment affects the psychological quality of many children. For most of them, youth is just a process of life.

Many children are used to it. So after graduation, I rely on my parents and my family. In essence, they envy those who can carry bags outside. They are eager to jump out, but have no courage to jump out. This is their most contradictory place. Especially those children who are imprisoned and have no ability to survive.

This topic is not only for children to think, but also for parents to think deeply.

Xinhai personally believes that this drama, made, still has practical educational significance at present. In addition to the above topics, other topics thrown inside are also worthy of our consideration and discussion.

What is the quality of life of men? He Dong's father said that the quality of a man's life lies in what kind of wife you have found. what do you think?

I supported He Bei when he slapped Tang Jiao in the face in the hospital. "Even if I am an asshole, I am nothing, but at least I know what to touch and what not to touch."

The orientation of new women? Is it wrong to pursue ideals and happiness? What is the best look in love? ......

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Having said that, I think it is undoubtedly very successful to take the theme of this TV series as an example. It at least tells us this truth: "that is, you can't be influenced by the environment and other people's arrangements." You should be brave to do what you want to do, instead of being a procrastinator influenced by others. " There are many tomorrows day after day. When we are old, we can clap our chests and say that my life has never been in vain and there are no regrets. This is a complete life.

We work and live every day, have families and children. Looks like we're busy. The time of the day passes by inadvertently. Simply put, we are the same as all people, just like a screw produced in a field, ordinary and humble. Time goes by like this, and so does life. Looking back suddenly, I found that "Lian Po is old", leaving only a sigh!

So, I told myself. Stop chasing those vain so-called successes. Take every step you have left down to earth. Do what you like, constantly learn to improve yourself and change yourself. Wisdom may be born, but I believe that more creativity depends on accumulation in practice.

Life needs to constantly know yourself and change yourself; Love and marriage are the same. As long as we never give up on ourselves, the beauty of life will depend on our life and death.

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