My first love divorced and I came to see my husband. What should I do?

In fact, on this issue, you used the wrong method at the beginning.

People are resistant and rebellious. The more you exclude the other party, the more likely the other party will fight you. Everyone has a weakness in their psychology that cannot be touched by others. Even the closest ones. As first lovers, they had the most innocent, green and unforgettable experience. Very few people hate their first love. Some lovers become strangers after separation, while others remain friends. Since your husband and his first love are still friends. So why do you have to destroy their friendship? This makes no sense. Is it because they were in love? If you exclude, suppress and destroy, you will make them stand on the same front and treat you as the opposite. You are bringing them together.

If you and your first love are still friends, does that mean you have a sexual relationship? I think you will deny this too. After all, what is past is past. You will not betray your current husband because of the past. Likewise, I believe your husband will not betray you like this. If you treat his first love with kindness and welcome her to your home. Try to be friends with her, get to know her and care about her. I don’t think she will fight you. She will feel happy that her first love has such a polite and sensible wife. I won't destroy this beauty. Your husband will also be very respectful in front of your first love, and he will not say anything wrong about you.

If you show more trust in your husband, he will naturally use that trust to repay you. If he really cheats, he will be filled with insecurity and guilt. Instead of being filled with the pleasure of revenge and confrontation. And I believe your husband is a kind person. He shouldn't be burdened with insecurity and guilt to cheat.

You are panicking now because you feel that you are excluded by the two of them. So, what you have to do now is to have a good communication with your husband, let him understand and appreciate your inner thoughts, and apologize to him that you used the wrong method because you cared too much. Hope he can forgive. And hopes to work with him to help his first love get through the most frustrating time in life.

Open your mind to accept others, and you will find that many things are not what you imagined.