How to send her a message if you want to save your girlfriend after breaking up?

Couples after breaking up are either in a state of cold war or constantly harassing each other, causing a kind of pressure on each other. No matter what the situation is, as long as you still have feelings for your girlfriend after breaking up, you should treat your breakup recovery actions rationally. Many people, based on the enhancement of their inner needs after breaking up, will continue to send text messages to girls, or wander in the tangled state of whether to send text messages to her. In fact, couples who break up need to be calm most, but after being calm, they can't lose their concern for their girlfriends. Otherwise, freezing at will will inevitably make you hopeless. So, if you want to save your girlfriend after breaking up, how can you send her a text message?

First, reflect on the reasons for breaking up

Love can be simple or complex. Why did you choose to fall in love? Why did you choose to be together? The first is the issue of good feelings. However, if you get along for a long time, it is easy to have conflicts because of lack of freshness. Generally speaking, there are the following main reasons for women to break up.

Too controlling. No one likes being restricted and monitored all the time when they are in love. Even if you have a meal and chat with the opposite sex, you will be suspected and accused by the other party. No couple in the world will like this distrustful love. In the world of love, no one is necessarily whose. Everyone is an independent individual, and has his own favorite things and freedom. Love only brings two people closer, not locked. Therefore, if you always make your girlfriend angry because of your desire for control, at this time, you should learn to be tolerant and trust.

Too picky. True love is based on mutual tolerance, mutual understanding and mutual trust. If you can't do this, in your eyes, only seeing the other person's shortcomings and not seeing her advantages will make the other person's life very tired and full of noise. You know, because everyone's personality, hobbies, values and ways of doing things are different, there will naturally be places that the other party is not used to in the process of getting along. But if you regard these shortcomings as the unique characteristics of the other party and tolerate and understand them with love, you will not only gain a tall image in the other party's mind, but also maintain the long-term stability of your relationship.

Taizi is sick. Every woman wants her man to be attractive, responsible and able to take care of his girlfriend. If you always feel like a "naive girl" in the process of getting along, that is, you have no decision-making ability and always have to accommodate each other in your life.

Your own ideas and ways of doing things, even if you can accept them for a short time, you can't stand them for a long time. At this time, it is not surprising to break up. So, as a man, if you are a prince with pathological personality, if you want to save your girlfriend, get rid of this problem!

Second, the mentality after breaking up

After breaking up, if you want to successfully save love, you must first establish a correct mentality. What kind of mentality should we treat to save love?

Optimistic and positive. When you have a positive attitude, you will remember what you can do and what you need to do. You can expand your social circle and distract yourself by making friends. Slowly, you will find that with more friends, your life is no longer so monotonous. At the same time, you should be more sunny and confident. Sunny and confident people can bring positive emotions to people around them, and everyone likes to get along with such people.

Enjoy life. When you learn to enjoy life, you will find yourself more calm, more broad-minded, no longer haggle over every ounce, and will not argue with others because of good face. At this time, your whole state of life will make people feel that it is the most ideal state. As the love counselor and emotional expert said: "When we can enjoy the most dull day, in fact, our inner self will change accordingly." When you can adjust your mentality to this state, your personal charm will be improved, and your recovery progress will take a big step.

Third, the editing of short messages.

Many people are puzzled by some problems after breaking up. Should I contact him? Should I call him or text him when I contact him? What should I pay attention to if I choose to send him a text message?

The message content is "harmless". The content of the text message sent to her is "harmless", that is, you can't make him feel that you are putting pressure on him. Among them, stress includes exposing your sense of need, forcing, pleading, commitment and other words. Only in this way will she actively reply to your message. If all the messages you send her are "I can't forget you", "I miss you so much" and "I can't live without you, please give me another chance?" Then she will only stay away from you, and even find you annoying. So the message you sent her must be "harmless" and will not put pressure on this relationship.

The content of short messages is sunny and interesting. First of all, you can tell me something interesting that happened recently. For example, where did you travel recently, and introduce the local customs. You can talk about the special restaurants you have been to some time ago and the food there. Can you also talk about the activities you have tried: bungee jumping, diving, rock climbing and skiing? Then, you can talk about something that everyone is interested in. It can be movies, stars and sports. In short, if you like it, the atmosphere of chatting will always be pleasant.

There must be no argument. Never argue with her when you send her a message. If you have different views on one aspect, you should identify with her as much as possible, and don't move out and make a big noise about your breakup. Because once there is an argument, the value of contradiction will rise again. All you have to do is cooperate with each other and agree with each other.

Therefore, on the way to save your girlfriend, it is possible to be reluctant, and timely SMS greetings are also needed. However, it should be noted that the content of the short message cannot have a strong sense of demand, nor can it let the other party know that you still have the meaning of redemption, otherwise it will only cause great psychological pressure to the other party.