A divorced woman said that those who are too busy to run a marriage will be busy with divorce sooner or later. Why?

Is there any difference between marriage and love? Maybe different people have different answers. Some people think there is a big gap, some people think there is no difference, and some people think there is only a little difference.

"Get married? I'm still me. What I insist on is still the standard of the past. Who will not change? "

Xiaolan and Dapeng knew each other before they got married. At that time, both of them were busy with their own development, and neither of them fell in love. Xiaolan was relatively stable, and finally became an employee of a company. Dapeng insisted on his hobby of cooking. They are all in love with each other, but Xiaolan knows that Dapeng's heart is in his career. They agreed to be together if they were still unmarried at the age of 3.

Dapeng likes Xiaolan's tolerance, thoughtfulness and never makes trouble for anything. Xiaolan likes Dapeng's simple and honest, and sometimes she knows how to be romantic.

Later, before they were thirty, they decided to be together. Dapeng said that marriage is just a form, and they can still do their own things after getting married.

Dapeng was still very attentive when he was in love. At that time, although he was only a chef in a hotel, he was also very busy, but he would accompany Xiaolan to watch movies and go shopping when he had time. When I can take a break, I will also take Xiaolan to visit nearby cities.

Dapeng can cook a good dish. Xiaolan already likes to eat his cooking. When in love, as long as Dapeng has time to cook, they will definitely not go out to eat.

Xiaolan is satisfied with such a Dapeng and such a day. They have each other in their hearts and have time to love each other.

After all, two people's lives should care about each other, understand each other and support each other.

after marriage, the first two years are still sweet. Xiaolan's work is relatively easy, and she usually has more rest time than Dapeng, so everything at home is basically Xiaolan's responsibility.

At the beginning, Dapeng cooked Xiaolan's meals every day and put them in the refrigerator. When she comes back, she can eat them after heating them up. Later, Dapeng's parents moved here, Xiaolan also learned to cook, and when someone cooked at home, Dapeng seemed to be more relieved not to go home.

Dapeng and his friends jointly opened a restaurant. At first, when there were not many people, he could take care of his family more and spend more time with Xiaolan. Xiaolan especially likes it. They both sit at the dinner table after work, eating and chatting. She thinks that life is just like this, eating with the people she loves and talking about what she thinks. This is the feeling of home, warm and loving.

This kind of life didn't last long. Dapeng became busier and busier in the shop and went home less and less. In order to support Dapeng's career, Xiaolan resigned and went home. When she was busy, she went to the store to take care of it. When her parents had something to do, she was at home. In this way, Dapeng's business was getting better and better, and the store opened several branches. Every day, he was busy in selecting materials, publicizing, managing employees and traveling.

Xiaolan is happy to see that Dapeng's business is doing well, but not so happy, because when the material is getting richer, the feelings between them are gradually lacking.

Xiaolan has learned to cook for Dapeng to go home for a stable meal for a long time, but what she is looking forward to most is that two people sit down quietly and talk about the day's worries. Such pictures are rare and almost absent. They have a lot of money, but they have no desire to enjoy life together.

Every time I make a phone call, it becomes a busy signal in 1 seconds. Every time Xiaolan is sick alone at night, I miss him, feel lonely and need to rely on him. His WeChat is always quiet and scary, and there is no reply.

Many times in the evening when the sun sets, Xiaolan waited for a short message instead of Dapeng who came in from work. He was so busy that it seemed meaningless for Xiaolan to prepare meals all night.

Running for a living is something that every married person must work hard and devote energy to. It's just that sometimes people easily forget why they are busy when they are busy. If the person they love deeply has been ignored by themselves, no matter how much money they earn, they may not be happy when they spend it.

A marriage with a dead heart feels like two people suddenly become people in two worlds, without intersection and warmth.

Xiaolan didn't think about getting a real divorce. She just wanted to scare Dapeng, to make him beg her not to leave, and to say that he was willing to take some time to go home, spend quiet time with her and talk to himself attentively.

But Dapeng didn't reply to her WeChat message for a long time. Later, she couldn't help calling, but Dapeng told wait for a while that she didn't know what she had said.

Sometimes it's not that he is too busy to read her news, but that it has become a habit in his heart not to read her news. She should be put behind all his things and ignored by him!

Dapeng, who has a successful career, is a successful man in his career. Unfortunately, he is not so successful in life. He is tired of Xiaolan's entanglement in words, and dislikes that she only knows how to be affectionate and doesn't understand that he wants to climb higher, earn more money and earn more money.

their talks broke down. Xiaolan's fake divorce became a real divorce that had to be acted upon.

When she divorced, Xiaolan only wanted a house, and the rest of her property and house were given to Dapeng. Maybe after the divorce, they will meet someone with the same frequency, but they really suffered because of the divorce.

marriage is inseparable from the heart. Give marriage time, marriage will give you time, accompany your lover, and your lover will give you warmth. Marriage needs to be managed with care, not as a form or a task.

it may be right to pay for marriage, but losing marriage because of paying is putting the cart before the horse.

If you are too busy to run a marriage and treat it with care, you may end up busy with divorce. Xiaolan said, just like she and Dapeng, they have been busy all the time, and finally they are too busy to get married, have no feelings and have no reason to stay with each other.

it's really hard for a man to run around for his family. Maybe they will say, a woman who cares too much about her family hates that she is worthless, and when she is too busy, she hates that she doesn't have time to accompany her. What should a man do?

In fact, between busy and home, you will always find a balance point slowly, and you won't even give a care, and you don't even have a night's company. That may not be busy, but you just don't have the heart.

Xiaolan is divorced, and she also uses her marriage experience to give many married men a piece of advice. The harder you work, the better. In this struggle, you have to pay more attention to your lover. Maybe a thoughtful word can melt the ice accumulated in her heart for a long time. Maybe this thoughtful word is what a marriage needs more.

a good relationship between husband and wife, no matter how busy, can't forget the "heart"!