My son doesn't want to go home after divorce. My ex-mother-in-law came to apologize to her ex-daughter-in-law. What should she do?

After the woman got married, she became a family with her in-laws because of her husband. Because of her husband, she left her parents and came to this strange family, taking her husband's parents as her own.

However, in the real marriage life, some women are afraid of the relationship with their in-laws. Why? Because in-laws are not their own parents after all, they can't do whatever they want, because after losing their temper with their husbands, their mother-in-law will accuse themselves of being ignorant.

In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is similar, and they need mutual respect and understanding. Mother-in-law doesn't respect daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law can't respect mother-in-law. Although filial piety is what a daughter-in-law should do, if her parents-in-law don't take her seriously or even look down on her, then her daughter-in-law will definitely not be filial to them.

However, there is another important figure in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, that is, a man with both a son and a husband. A man's attitude towards his wife in front of his in-laws is very important. However, some in-laws are really unreasonable. Even if the son makes a statement, which proves the importance of the daughter-in-law, the in-laws still don't treat the daughter-in-law as a family, which only shows that the in-laws are really confused.

My friend has been divorced for more than a year, and the reason for the divorce is that her in-laws are not satisfied with her. Especially her mother-in-law's attitude towards her, as if she had done something heinous.

She fell in love with her ex-husband in college. In order to continue their love, after graduation, they worked steadily, so they chose to get married and start a family.

When they got married, the ex-husband had just joined the work, and his money was not plentiful, and his in-laws didn't talk, so there was no bride price and no wedding room when they got married.

My friend's parents are farmers in their hometown. They are honest and will not ask her husband's family for a bride price. They think that as long as their daughter is happily married, nothing else is a problem.

After getting married, the young couple lived with their in-laws. Because their friends come from the countryside, their in-laws may look down on her. Soon after they got married, her mother-in-law ignored her and directed her to work. No matter how busy and tired you are at work, you have to be commanded by your mother-in-law when you come home from work.

This is completely different from what she thought of married life. She thinks her in-laws are very kind, and even if she lives with them, she will get along well as a family. But the reality hit her in the face and it hurt.

However, after marriage, her ex-husband still dotes on her, even better than when she was in love. This made her very gratified. Who says men are different after marriage and when they are in love? She doesn't think so.

Of course, no matter how loving couples are, there are times when they quarrel, and couples are no exception, and occasionally they will cause disputes because of some trivial things in life. But every time she quarrels, her mother-in-law stands up to defend her son and accuses her daughter-in-law of not being sensible.

The ex-husband is fine. Every time his mother defends him, he always tells her to leave her married life alone. But the mother-in-law refused to listen, fearing that her son would be wronged, and kept reminding her daughter-in-law to be good to her son.

Friends are very helpless when they meet such a mother-in-law, but they try their best to be patient for their marriage. Sometimes we can only serve and please our in-laws.

But for her from the countryside, her in-laws don't buy it at all. For example, when she bought clothes for her in-laws, the old couple said that she had no knowledge, and the things she bought could not be placed on the table. When she returned to her hometown, her mother asked her to bring some agricultural products from home. I went back to my mother-in-law's house and was thrown away by her mother-in-law as garbage.

A friend said that her in-laws can look down on her and throw away the clothes she bought, but their mother's mind doesn't allow them to spoil them. Even if you don't eat the agricultural products your mother brought to your in-laws, it's better to put them there than throw the trash can in front of your daughter-in-law.

If the daughter-in-law's parents don't care about her daughter's face, why will they bring you something? Don't go too far in life. Be kind to others when you go uphill, and you will always meet them when you go downhill. I wonder if the in-laws in the city will also use the in-laws in the countryside one day.

My friend was very angry and told her ex-husband that his parents had gone too far. The ex-husband said that he would blame his parents, but his friend wouldn't let him go. After the big deal, she will go back to her parents and never give them anything again. She will recognize their personalities and won't be stupid in the future. It's enough to treat them as a family.

Sometimes, things in the world are just such coincidences. Not long after, my mother-in-law had a sore throat and coughed day and night, which had seriously affected her normal life. After seeing Chinese medicine, the doctor said that there is a kind of herbal medicine in the countryside that can alleviate it. But they are in town. They have never seen anything like it.

At this time, my in-laws thought of my daughter-in-law's house and told her their needs first. Friends actually don't want to take care of it, and they don't want their parents to find it for them. But I thought of my ex-husband. Instead of looking at the monk and the Buddha, I called my parents.

My mother-in-law personally delivered what she wanted in two days, because she needed others and her mother-in-law was very polite. After a period of recovery, I became ungrateful and began to criticize my daughter-in-law.

The last time, a friend and her ex-husband quarreled over work, and her mother-in-law actually slapped her daughter-in-law. There is no doubt that this marriage is doomed to break up.

The next day, my friend and ex-husband went through the divorce formalities. Even if her ex-husband kept apologizing to her, she was not soft-hearted, and the divorce was settled. Nothing can be said.

Mother-in-law's behavior is absolutely unforgivable, let alone a daughter-in-law. Even her own children are adults, so there is no reason to fight. This is not an unforgivable mistake, but a contradiction between the young couple.

After my friend divorced, in addition to working nine to five, I rented a house and lived a single life. But what she didn't know was that her ex-husband had never been home since she divorced her.

The mother-in-law doesn't go back or answer the phone when she sees her son. When she found the company, there was nothing she could do. She also knows that her behavior is too radical. In order to let her son go home, she had to pull a long face and apologize to her former daughter-in-law.

Friends heard that she looked down on herself and beat her mother-in-law to apologize, which was inexplicably moved. But her reason told her that her former mother-in-law never apologized to her because of her guilt.

Sure enough, the next second, the former mother-in-law said that after their divorce, her ex-husband had never been home, hoping that she would persuade her ex-husband. My friend knew that her ex-husband must have feelings for himself, but he didn't expect that he would never go home because of himself.

Needless to say, even if the ex-mother-in-law didn't come to apologize, she knew about her ex-husband and would persuade him. After all, the whole process of marriage is not because of the breakdown of their relationship, but because of the failure of marriage caused by their mother-in-law.

When she tried to persuade her ex-husband, the man's request was to remarry her, but her friend refused. She doesn't want to get involved with such a mother-in-law. Even if she doesn't live together in the future, she will still have a mother-in-law relationship. So she decisively rejected her ex-husband's proposal and only advised him to go home early.

In fact, if the in-laws were nicer to their daughters-in-law, their son's marriage would not be ruined, and his son could not hate them for not going home.

We often say that a good mother-in-law precedes a good daughter-in-law.

Why do you say that? Because the mother-in-law is an elder after all, you should set an example and treat your daughter-in-law well when she first enters your home. Because at that time, the daughter-in-law was lonely in the strange environment of her husband's family. If someone gives her warmth, she will be grateful. Then in the days to come, the daughter-in-law will definitely thank her mother-in-law and be filial to her in-laws.

If, shortly after the daughter-in-law's wedding, her parents-in-law sent her away and told her what to do, don't treat her like a family. Even when their husband and wife quarrel, whether they help relatives or not. This is equivalent to treating the daughter-in-law as an outsider. I'm thinking that an isolated woman, who doesn't feel a trace of warmth at her in-laws' house, will definitely not be close to her mother-in-law and will not treat you as family.

Therefore, as long as the mother-in-law sets an example, there is no need to worry that the daughter-in-law is not filial to you. Even if there are daughters-in-law, they are few. I believe that most daughter-in-law will not refute the good mother-in-law's mind.