Why are elites forced to send young children abroad?

After several bad child abuse incidents were exposed at the end of 20 17, many parents in China had plans to send their children abroad to study.

Fundamentally speaking, child abuse, smog and gutter oil are the biggest motivation for parents in China to send their children away. Parents' greatest love for their children is probably that they are willing to do everything for their children, no matter how hard or tired they are.

Since 20 13, China has become the first source country for American overseas high school students.

According to the internal statistics of the Canadian Embassy in Beijing, from 2009 to 20 15, the number of small international students (high school and below) from China increased from 30 12 to more than 12000, accounting for 18% to 37% of the total number of international students in China, Canada.

Putting children at a higher starting point is to love children. Faced with institutional problems that cannot be solved in a short period of time, it is difficult for ordinary people to have solutions. However, if children are sent abroad to study as soon as possible, problems such as child abuse, bullying and unfair educational resources can basically be avoided.

My daughter has been to America for half a month. Recalling the turbulent time from making decisions and going through formalities to stepping on the plane really feels like a dream.

Before leaving, my daughter bought carpenter Tan's comb for math and English teachers, and specially wrote a note to the math teacher, which wrote a lot of words to the effect that the teacher is very hard, but he is not yet forty, but he has a lot of white hair. Please use this comb to comb his hair every day.

My daughter is reluctant to part with the English teacher who no longer teaches her. I specially asked my mother to accompany me and rushed to the old campus to give the comb to the teacher face to face.

A cartoon satirizing exam-oriented education

Of course, tears are indispensable. One month before leaving, my daughter refused to walk around the school for fear that she would be too sad.

In fact, not only these two teachers, but also their head teachers, other teachers, classmates and daughters have deep feelings.

Our daughter is so emotional, which makes us feel gratified, but also makes us feel and confused. Because before the visa, I asked her twice: "Do you regret it? It's not too late to regret. " I have threatened her many times. I feel homesick and scratch my heart when I go out. However, every time, she simply replied: "No!"

Why are you so reluctant to part with your teachers and school, but so determined to leave school and go to a foreign country? Until now, we have not fully understood our daughter's own thoughts.

However, 15-year-old daughter has devoted herself to the turbulent tide of small international students.

The fear and pressure of the senior high school entrance examination is the first motivation for her daughter to embark on the road of studying in a foreign country without hesitation.

Although studying in the city's key middle school, since entering the third grade, the pressure and tension have spread horribly. Some parents rented houses near the school and entered a "wartime state". The business of various cram schools is booming day by day.

In the farewell letter to my daughter, a classmate who ranked around 20 or 30 in the whole grade wrote: I am jealous of you, so I don't need the senior high school entrance examination. The students in this ranking are still so nervous that they can want to see others.

My friend's daughter is in the second grade of another top key middle school in the city, and her grades are among the best. Now, she can't go to bed until 12 every night, but the teacher is still reminding: you should cherish the relaxed time now and work hard next semester! The girl said that most of her classmates' grades were piled up by time and money, and some students signed up for three extra-curricular remedial classes only for math!

I remember it was the third day after the visa came down. My daughter told us that she could finally wash her underwear and wash her clothes easily. Before washing, she always wants to finish washing quickly so that she can do exercises. My daughter has never said this to us. We only know that the third grade is a watershed, and the biggest change for our daughter is that we have to bite her from time to time to do more exercise, but then we have to take her out for exercise from time to time, and when we do so, we always face the back of our daughter's nine cows.

The school's monthly mock exam

The senior high school entrance examination is becoming a nightmare for parents and children in China. There is no distinction between north and south, people are old and young, and students are high and low. The happiness of many families and the relationship between parents and children depend largely on the senior high school entrance examination. The daughter said that the classmates in the class generally have dandruff, and many of them have white hair, all because of "Alexander"!

An education system that should educate people equally and openly has evolved into a strong interest in systematically classifying children who are still growing into three, six and nine. From primary school to middle school, red scarves, league members, three good students, experimental classes and key schools create differences, which makes most people feel frustrated and feel poor. It is the tireless game of this education system. This game even started in kindergarten. A colleague's child, who has just turned 3, will be admitted to a kindergarten less than 200 meters away from home. The result of the exam was unqualified. The 3-year-old child absurdly experienced the first failure in his life.

Since childhood, my daughter has shed tears for wearing a red scarf and joining the league. It is difficult for children to resist the evaluation from teachers and schools. In their eyes, the authority of teachers is far greater than that of parents. In fact, how much difference can there be between ordinary children? Why must something be done?

I've always hated these tricks to make a difference. In my opinion, some euphemistic ways to reward children for making progress are just using human fears to control them, which is an isomorphic model with totalitarianism. Human fear is the most willing and effective tool for manipulating and controlling people in this world. I remember in a Dutch movie, a businessman said a very incisive sentence: What is the best thing to sell in this world? Fear. People buy beauty products because they are afraid of aging; I buy TV for fear that I know less than others. So what sells best in the world is fear.

The reason why the senior high school entrance examination has such magical power that parents and children all over the world can't stop is nothing more than fear-fear has fallen to a lower level in the artificial hierarchy. No matter how tired you are, the rules of the game are like this. As long as you are here, you can't take off your dancing shoes. Only by going out can we break the spell.

Fortunately, my daughter got such an opportunity. On the day of going to school to go through the formalities, the class teacher said to us: It's good to go out early and suffer less!

As parents, it is the direct motivation for us to let our children study abroad to keep them away from the educational environment that suppresses their interest in learning and has a single evaluation scale.

As a consumer of education, I am deeply dissatisfied with the long-term high-quality and low-price educational services. From kindergarten to primary school, daughters go to parks and study near their homes, but without exception, they have to pay sponsorship fees. As far as primary schools are concerned, in addition to the sponsorship fee of 20,000 yuan, the cost of books, tuition and miscellaneous fees, accommodation fees and tuition fees per semester (we are close to home and don't want to live, but we have to pay them because students are not allowed to leave school at noon), there are also some unclear management fees. The so-called compulsory education is not as good as its name. As people say, obligation, obligation, parents' obligation.

What is even more frustrating is that such a cheap education has produced many machines for taking exams. From our observation of our daughter from primary school to junior high school, we deeply feel that today's education has lost its due richness, beauty and humanity. Under this educational logic, the goal of education is not to cultivate creative and cooperative people for the society, and certainly not to cultivate citizens. All it wants is an excellent examination machine. Education has become a long and monotonous race.

Candidates and pick-up vehicles in Maotanchang Town, Lu 'an City, Anhui Province

Some class teachers are unwilling to communicate with their parents. It's not easy to find a teacher by phone in the office. It's rare to answer a phone call and send a text message, which has been the case for many years. Such a neglected consumer is probably rare in any consumption field.

The most intimate and unforgettable communication with the class teacher was in the first day of junior high school. One day, my daughter told us that the class teacher asked parents to go to school to find a teacher. If they don't go before next Monday, they will go to informed criticism within the school year!

What's the serious matter? It turned out that the class teacher criticized her daughter's best friend in class, and her friend cried. The daughter next to her saw it and threw a bag of paper towels to let her friends wipe their tears. The teacher was furious and immediately stopped teaching, criticizing her daughter for "destroying the classroom order and causing potential safety hazards" and ordering her to write a review.

I have written several critical letters, but I can't get past the class teacher because I don't have a thorough understanding. Before the ultimatum came, my stressed-out daughter told us about it. After I heard the news, I went to school to communicate with the teacher.

Actually, this is an in-class interrogation of my daughter. After the meeting, the teacher asked her daughter in front of me: Don't you realize the nature of your problem? Do you still think that your behavior will not bring security risks?

The scene at that time was very funny, and I still remember it vividly. But I saw my daughter blinking, trying to come up with an answer that satisfied the teacher. She said, maybe? If the paper towel touches the classmate's eyes, there will be a safety hazard. I almost laughed when I saw this. Let such a young girl, out of sympathy for herself, go online to find reasons, dig out the essence and do it herself, just like "fighting for a moment"? It happened in China in the 2nd/kloc-0th century, in a key school in the big capital? Those old words and ideas really make people feel back in time.

Maybe I'm too pessimistic. For some time, I always put my dissatisfaction with the current education in a larger background to understand. Against this background, what I see is a sad picture. This picture is composed of smog, gutter oil, water pollution, environmental quality deterioration, corruption and the gap between the rich and the poor. Fundamentally speaking, smog and gutter oil are the biggest motivation for us to send our children away. "Jiang Yang is in Beijing. Isn't he a hundred years old?" My daughter likes reading Jiang Yang's books, and she questions our concerns. Sometimes we tell ourselves. However, we let our daughter go without hesitation. Although some educators have made a mess of American education, this has not stopped people from voting with their feet.

In addition, the unspeakable Gini coefficient, the uncertainty brought by all this, and more importantly, people's sense of powerlessness and helplessness in solving these problems at present have strongly strengthened the centrifugal force of this society and strengthened the determination of parents like us.

In our country, there are too many places that need money. However, the reality is that on the one hand, some people are hungry, on the other hand, some people are extravagant. This bipolar scene is eye-catching and exaggerated. A foreign classmate, but the respect of a section chief, can buy a house in full at the highest price in Beijing. Usually flying around, sometimes just to come to Beijing for a drink, I have to fly over.

After more than 30 years of reform and opening up, the total wealth of China people is not what it used to be, which does not mean that people are happy and satisfied. This is a system that needs to be improved. Many problems make people lack confidence in the future, and may also alienate people's feelings and recognition of the system.

Daughters should at least finish college across the ocean. 1967 years later, when she returns to live and work in the motherland, we hope that there will be no more gutter oil and bad additives, and air will no longer be a weapon to kill people. At that time, I hoped that the sky was blue, the wind was sweet, the people were ashamed and the officials were mean.

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