Common social hidden rules

1, people are false and lofty, and they are really powerful. When they meet something they like, they dare not show it or take the initiative to ask for it. At this time, we should take the initiative to give, force and force. The other party reluctantly accepted.

2. The boss will also receive many gifts when he goes to the grass-roots level for inspection. Grass-roots leaders say no, public relations staff don't eat for free, and they will habitually reply: the boss has worked hard and the smoke is in the trunk. The boss usually says I have a cigarette. At this time, the public relations staff will habitually reply: it won't happen again, you must accept it this time. Few people can refuse this temptation.

3. When the boss leaves, the public relations staff will habitually say: We have nothing good here either. Let's take some ginseng back and make you a bar. This is not good. "What is this? A few ginseng is worthless, your body is conducive to work, and we are also contributing to the construction of the unit! " Put ginseng on the car seat. It takes practice to please others. Never learned.

4. The boss's children go to school or work, which is an opportunity to curry favor with others. Oh, I went to college. It's in some city, right? It's very cold. Take this Italian blanket and iron it. "Children go to work, it's time to dress up. Put on this necklace and hold this mobile phone. " When giving gifts, the reason must be legalized. If the reason is illegal, people will not accept it. That is to say, you have to ensure that my things will not explode and 100% is safe.

5. Asserting that people do not necessarily have a rate of return, but also belong to venture capital, and all venture capital depends on luck, which is difficult to copy, but you can copy if you buy more. Just like some people curry favor with the nobles around them, you said you bought toys for your children, put them down and you can go. It won't take you a minute. This sentence is also a gamble, but too few people dare to play.

6. Anyone who has helped us, we should now habitually give back and pay wages one day and one month. Everyone likes a day, and 90% people like to pay it back now. Human nature is never used to challenge, but to respect.

7, curry favor with people, absolutely can't leapfrog, who is closest to you, curry favor with who.

8, things haven't been done, things have to be given first, you give others to see your sincerity, and then you will work hard.

9. When asking for help, you must give it first. Others can not accept it, but you can't give it. Kiss up to others all your life, and you won't meet villains and people who embarrass yourself.

10, buttering up people is upward, buttering up downward is not only not worthwhile, but also cheated.

1 1. Don't eat anyone's food empty-handed. Never go to someone's house empty-handed. People will pay more attention to you if you bring some cigarettes and wine.

12, cooperation with others will always make others make a big profit and make a small profit by themselves. No matter how good the relationship is, let the other person benefit, so that friends will respect you more and pay more attention to your affairs. Remember, humanity is profitable.

13, the key figure is locked. If it is not the boss after three years, God forbid. ...

14, Xiao Zhang invited me to dinner, and I paid the bill in advance. I refused what he asked me to do, and he was not angry because I didn't owe him anything. Now whoever invites me to dinner, I will pay the bill in advance. Lao Wang invited me to dinner, never gave me a chance to pay the bill, pulled me in, and never let me lose money. Now I have given him all the lists in my hand. After all, fewer and fewer people are willing to take risks.

15, please don't force it. If the other person doesn't want to, it may be lofty or difficult. Stop when you are ready and don't do bad things with kindness.

16, leaders who don't go into the water don't curry favor. Such people don't like flattery.

17, don't mess around unless you are on the same side. Please look at the object, and don't please anyone who is good for you. In case the other party is ungrateful and the leaders in the same camp think you are a swing, they will kick you out of the circle.

18, open and transparent events are not suitable for flatterers. For some public things in the workplace, such as promotion and competition, the conditions for the general election are open, and it is useless for you to curry favor. Unless you are the leader's choice from the beginning.

19, he asked his relatives to do a small thing, very small. Originally, his relatives did nothing. It's a pity that he is a fool, insincere, and returns empty-handed. Talking is stupid. It's just a small matter for you, and people owe him. Relatives said to him: it's not easy.

20. If you want to get a promotion, you'd better curry favor with others one or two years in advance, and don't cram for it temporarily. Some people are most afraid of waiting for direct mention.

2 1. No matter who helps you, even if you are a good friend, invite people to dinner, whether you answer or not. This is respect.

22. If you help someone who you don't want to accept in return, you can use flowers instead of trees and buy something for the old people and children. Let you put it here first, be sure to be grateful.

23. I did this thing, and I won't do it without substantial benefits. The other party insisted that I do it, so I put it off for a few days. He asked me, sorry, I'm too busy to do it. In the end, it went away. After that, he left me alone and everyone was happy.

At first, he wanted to change the world. Later, he became realistic. He just wants to buy a house with one room and one living room. Occasionally dreaming, I bought a parking space myself. But life hasn't changed anything, it seems to have changed everything. He never participates in social activities. Tonight, he is wearing a suit and taking two cases of milk out. On Lao Wang's son's birthday, Lao Wang once slapped his two big mouths in full view, and he vowed: I will turn against Lao Wang. Lao Wang helped his parents find a job and cleaned in the community. He almost got on his knees to Lao Wang. Life, life, it is a hammer, it is an egg, it is a Huangshan Luan tree, it is a mirage, it is what some people say. ...

There are many talented losers in the world, and the streets are full of unemployed people with higher education. Why do so many people read so many books, but their talents are hard to pay? Because they don't know how to please others. Why is it so important to please others? Because when people reach middle age, they will find that everything is the product of relationships, they will curry favor with others, divide the money, and earn more than those who have studied hard for many years at a cold window. Society is a relationship, but most people who get along well are good at buttering up people.

Lao Zhang was ill and went to the hospital. But I don't know which doctor has a high level of medical skills, so I called my son to my side, asked him to find a little nurse and gave her 300 yuan. I asked her which doctor had high medical skills and what was the level of that doctor. The little nurse said to my son, "The doctor's medical skill is really not so good, so I just pushed him out for publicity. You'd better go to Dr. xx, who has a good medical skill. "

27. The way to change your destiny is too simple, that is, to please people in the circle. How many people you curry favor with, how high your status is! Lao Wang started with a salary of 4 K. He bought cigarettes for the team leader every day and invited him to eat, drink and have fun. Later, the team leader was promoted, and he was naturally promoted. When I became a team leader, I invited the director to drink regularly. After drinking for more than a year, the director was promoted. Naturally, he was promoted to director. Five years later, he became the top leader of the company. People are in the Jianghu, some of them are hidden and have no hesitation. I can only praise you for your bright future.

28. The highest level of flattery is to establish a similar interest group. If he helps you, he will help himself. Who doesn't want to make more money for themselves? It's useless to ask for help, but it's useful to curry favor with others and divide resources and money. The higher you go, the less moral you are. Only the bottom people need moral paralysis!

29. On my son's teacher's birthday, I charged him 1000, but more people just sent text messages or WeChat wishes. In this world, everything can be copied except generosity.

30. I want to please my boss, but I am worried that the other party will not accept it. It is not convenient to find a middleman. What should I do? Your worry is unnecessary. As long as your things can be realized and he can easily help you get what you want, he won't refuse you. If he refuses you, it won't be more than three times. Human greed is endless.

3 1, trying to give the leader a hundred times, a thousand times the reward? See if your position has risen. Leadership is polite to you, is to draw a line with you, something behind, you curry favor with him, he also draw a line with you, you feel hopeless. They asked me to pay the bill before. As long as a leader comes and knows where they eat, I will buy a bill in advance and leave. Later, the leader gave me hundreds of thousands and millions of "heavy responsibilities" in one sentence, which kept me busy for half a year.

32. Someone asked me how to curry favor with others? If you flatter too much, you know how to flatter.

33. How to ask for help? Ask the little things first, and when the little things are solved, invite him to breakfast, invite him to dinner, and finally give him alcohol and tobacco. I asked for cigarettes and alcohol directly, but people didn't dare to accept it. This boy asked me something, but he didn't want it and didn't do anything. If you really want to cram for the last minute, find a reliable middleman.

34. Many exams can only be taken by those people, so only those people can take them. This is the most common test.

35. Love is drunk, the future is buttering up, and the relationship is maintained. If you don't kiss up to others, who knows where you are?

36. The leaders in the unit please whoever they like, invite him to dinner and ask for his advice.

37. 100 people, one person who can curry favor with others is good. A real master is someone who makes others comfortable when dealing with others. For example, ask the other person for directions. When you see the other person running a supermarket, you will buy a box of cigarettes and ask again. When you see others selling food, you will buy some food and ask again. This looks silly, but it is definitely a state of tempering. Give it to others first. With self-cultivation and morality, kidnap people first and then talk about demand.

38. Inviting a man to dinner and chatting with a beautiful woman can easily break the deadlock.

39, learned to socialize, deep feelings, a lot of confusion naturally disappeared.

40. With more respect and less praise among colleagues, you can get a point back.

4 1, chat with colleagues, talk more about what others have, and don't show your cards.

42. As long as he goes up, he is the one above. As long as he comes down, no one is on him.

43. Why is there no way out? Is it getting harder and harder? Because I don't know how to curry favor with others, I won't curry favor with others. Even after eating a meal, I feel distressed for a long time and can't bear to pay the bill.

44. The boss likes to collect inkstones. Is it appropriate for me to send him an inkstone?

Starting today, you should also like the inkstone, appreciate the boss's collection, choose one to put down, and finally the boss reluctantly gives up what he gave up and sells it to you.

45. He said he wouldn't curry favor with others. Well, I've met many people like him. After reading some books, I think I have seen through the world.

46. Don't eat or drink.

47, weak ability, nothing I can cultivate, you don't listen, haha, how can I cultivate you?

48. I went to my father-in-law's house with only alcohol and tobacco. My mother-in-law has never smiled. So I gave her a red envelope of 1 0,000, and I was happy immediately. I also said I wanted to give you something to eat.

49. Why are many people unwilling to hold him up? Because others help him make money, he doesn't want to give it to them. When others saw it, they said, Oh, I don't want to help you in return. How can I help the hammer?

50. Why did we disappear? Don't flatter others, try to improve yourself, Dont Ask For Help.

5 1. What if you don't smoke or drink? I really don't know what to talk to him about. So I asked him to have tea. I didn't expect him to tell a lot of stories about his fortune, as if he were a different person at once. My notebook was quickly filled with 5000 words. What is human society? Human society just asks for directions with alcohol and tobacco. If not, try tea. If tea doesn't work, try mahjong. If mahjong doesn't work, use KTV and bath center.

52. The skill of asking people to do things is called common sense in rich families. In poor families, it is called "compromise", "a scholar can be killed but not humiliated", "crooked ways", "crooked ways" and "villain tricks". There are two rules. Obviously, the seemingly cost-free rules are aimed at the general public. These rules seem to be very easy to use, and only when they are really used can they know that it is more difficult than going to heaven. Invisible and intangible rules are called hidden rules. It's for people who see the essence through phenomena. This hidden rule looks ugly, but you don't know how cool it is until you really use it. Generally speaking, for projects with low investment and very high return, everyone does it quietly, but never makes a sound.

53. The truth always tells the person who pays the bill that any "Bai Piao" whoring is a lie. When I went out and saw the old man asking for directions, the old man said he didn't know, or just had to deal with it. You give him a cigarette, and he says turn left, turn right, and then turn left. There's a commercial street there. Let's do it. All courtesies are always used for filtering, and behind the courtesies are naked transactions.

54. Why do some people live in poverty? It is not that he is not diligent, nor that he has no chance, but that he does not understand this society and the hidden rules. They have formed the habit of obedience since childhood. They listen to their parents when they are young and their bosses when they grow up. They have been living in other people's rules and never thought about how to use these rules to break through and rebuild themselves. People who like to think have long known the hidden rules and quietly make money to eat meat.

55. As long as we don't participate in the leader's hobby and agree with him, he will never promote us. Co-flow can be concentric, and concentric flow can also be co-flow.

I won't encourage or comfort my friend when he fails. I'll invite him to smoke, drink and wash his feet. Everything is in the cigarette, everything is in the wine, everything is in the pedicure shop. Some people have this awareness since they were 20 years old (Du 14 years old), and some people can't understand it until they are 30 years old. Do you understand? Life is a wheel that rolls forward forever. Only some people's wheels are round, some people's wheels are square, and some people's wheels are even triangular.

57. Enlightened people will change their fortunes 30 years in advance. If you die, you will go to heaven. Why do you say that good people don't live long, and bad people live for a thousand years? Being a good person, the cost is too low, don't flatter others, just do what you should do in a down-to-earth manner. Being a bad guy costs too much. Sacrificing face and dignity, habitually making venture capital. Who is the most painful person in the world? A person who is neither good nor bad.

58. What others give us, we will give back to others; What others give me, we will give it. Don't break the rules.

Don't stop buttering up while you still have benefits, or more and more people will embarrass you.

60. Being able to curry favor with others has always been a shortcut for people to get rich. I have never heard of it. Some people will curry favor with others, and the more they curry favor with them, the poorer they become. However, some people are getting poorer and poorer because they don't curry favor with others.

6 1, man, the older, the purer. Everyone is short of money; Everyone lacks flattery, and everyone lacks sexual resources. Flattery and giving sexual resources are actually based on giving money to each other. Without the basis of giving money, all the "sugar-coated shells" behind can't be launched.

62, alive, do not know how to curry favor with others, struggling; Knowing how to curry favor with others is even harder without money.

63. Go to a friend's house for a birthday. I wrapped a red envelope of 1000, and my friend said to me: xx spoke ill of you behind your back today. The leader recently started a xx project and asked me to help find someone. You try.

64. I tried to find him several times for my child to transfer to another school, but he was inconvenient, so I helped pay the property management fee for one year. He asked me to find XX, and I went to find XX. XX said: very simple. Give me your information. I gave him the information. He drew two circles on it with a pencil, saying that all he had to do was follow the normal procedure. Well, it's still "normal procedure" ...

65. Life is an equivalent exchange. What is equivalent exchange? Just don't take advantage of others.

66. When things happen, if we take the initiative to pay, we will meet many good people. If we are reasonable and lie down, it will be over. It was supposed to be done in three hours, but not in 30 hours and 300 hours. Fools like to be reasonable, and cattle people like to be polite. There are two rules. The obvious rules are tailored for fools. The invisible and intangible rules are for cattle people. The rules I wrote are invisible to everyone, or they are kept secret when everyone can see and touch them. There are as many secrets as there is wealth.

67. Some people say that you ask the security guard for help. Do you want to invite you to dinner? A hammer, please. Just give him a pack of cigarettes. He does what he does, or forgets what he does. You invited the security guard to dinner, and he was afraid. I dare not do it. A close call. When you go to the community, ask the security guard to help you inquire about a person and give him a pack of cigarettes. He dares to go. You give him 2000 yuan in cash to hire someone, and he usually dares not go. Small people receive small gifts, and big people receive big gifts. We don't have to touch anything that challenges probability.

68. If you work every day, you won't have time to flatter and ponder people. Remember, the core of making money is to study people, curry favor with others, and those who work in the unit will never be promoted. If you go up, who will work?

As I said, he did it for me, not because I flattered him, but because he should. I curry favor with him, not to beg him to do anything, but to show that I respect him very much and I recognize him very much. I didn't mean anything by it.

70. Being able to curry favor with others is the welfare of the poor at any time, but it is not a dividend for the poor. What's the difference between welfare and bonus? Welfare is stable, and dividends are mostly short-lived.

7 1, everyone was in trouble, either inviting people to dinner or buttering up people everywhere, and the problem was solved. Some people hide in the corner and cry or be sarcastic when they are in trouble. Both Han Han and Jing M.Guo's works were written before the age of 20. Why are some people still trapped in it and still can't get out?

72, don't bother the leader, just contribute to the leader.

Xiao Li's father is ill. A said something to comfort Xiao Li on WeChat. B took two cigarettes, went to Union Medical College Hospital, held Xiao Li's father's hand and said many warm words. After that, B and Xiao Li talked about everything. Although A slept in a dormitory with Xiao Li University for four years, Xiao Li was habitually called B when he met something good.

74. Relationship is the primary productive force. There are two kinds of relationships, one is blood relationship and the other is flattery.

75. Doing business in a small place depends on contacts. He sells equipment, and you provide equipment. Why you? Will flatter people.

76. Few people are born with backers, and they are all self-employed.

77. Everything is the product of relationships. There is nothing like business relations. Everything related can be solved and linked.

78. unimpeded gifts: name, benefit and color.

79. I can curry favor with people, give gifts and share money, and earn more money than people who have studied hard for N years. This society is worldly-wise, and the relationship is interlinked.

80, go, eat,

Go, sing,

Go, take a shower,

Come on, I'll treat you to dinner.

Come on, I'll ask you to sing,

Come on, I'll invite you to take a bath.

The more vulgar, the happier,

The more vulgar the relationship, the better.

The more vulgar the project, the more suitable for flatterers.

8 1, let the old classmates help his son find a job. The old classmates said it was hard to do. I said yes, it's not easy to do. This is twenty thousand yuan pocket money. I'll leave it to you first. I don't care what you do with it. You have to give me face anyway. The next day, the old classmate said: The work is finished. Life is not complicated, but people are complicated. The relationship between people is still relatively simple: isn't it just sharing money or giving gifts?

82. As long as you don't flatter others, 100% is unlucky.

83. If you are in trouble, if you don't curry favor with the leader, even if you are reasonable, you will suffer a loss of 100%.

84. You can hear the truth by flattery, but you can't hear anything nice without giving gifts.

No one will refuse you as long as you are willing to curry favor with others. The security guard in the community, you give him a pack of cigarettes to try, and he will pick it up soon. I told you, everyone is a snob and everyone wants to sell at a good price. Why do we mix garbage? We thought the whole world was good people.

86, curry favor with people, be rejected. It's not that people are honest, but that we can't curry favor with them at all. Advocating harmony between people and speaking is a "Yijinjing" handed down from generation to generation.

We are polite to others, and others are polite to us. We flatter people directly and be polite to others, and others will be polite to tell the truth. All valuable information is bought with money.

88. Habitually please people, and there are people everywhere. Habitual flattery can meet "living Lei Feng" wherever you go. I'm sorry about the moral kidnapping. Forget it. This is a useless thing. Moral kidnapping is no longer the bait for a white wolf with empty gloves. The premise of an empty-handed white wolf is to defeat the wolf. And I, at the sight of a wolf, will habitually tremble.

89. There is nothing like business relations in business. Business trust is related to this. You won't. Only when you have trust will others be willing to give you a chance. How to quickly build relationships and curry favor with others?

90. If others help us, we are accustomed to please others and give benign feedback (not verbal expression), and we will meet more and more noble people. That everything we do is easy. Habitual flattery has a higher return than habitual resentment.

9 1, this big brother is better than us, he is more capable than us.

I don't understand. I'm a little white and I don't have any skills.

We want our eldest brother to take us, so let's ask him out.

We invited him to the club, invited him to dance in the bar,

Let's arrange some girls for him. Isn't this an opportunity?

92. The rivers and lakes are gray, and they don't even have any positive energy. There is no such thing as propriety, justice and shame. Since I formatted my conscience, all my anxieties have disappeared.

93. Habitually invite people to drink, bathe, sing and take a bath.

94. I took the initiative to help A again, because I knew there would be concrete rewards for helping him. B asked me for help, but I refused, because I knew that even if I tried my best to help, I would get a thank you at most. Some people don't have the concept of value exchange in their minds, which is really fucked up.

95.A always goes to the leader's house with big bags and small bags. B went to the leader's house and prepared many jokes and jokes, which made the leader laugh. This promotion, A went up and B didn't. B very depressed. I said depressed fart ah, jokes can be eaten as food? Can jokes be eaten as meals?

96. Many things can be accomplished by buttering up people. Willing to curry favor with others, there will always be opportunities. No, I have to go through the procedure. ...

97. 10% of daily income is used to curry favor with people. Just try it. Whether the difficulties will disappear soon. Money is given to us by society, and we should try to repay it.

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99. Why do I like to curry favor with people more and more? That is, I have held positive energy for more than 30 years, and I am still poor and desperate. When I formatted my conscience, my morality, my dignity, my habitual wagging of my tail and my habitual barking, I finally saw the so-called spring. Spring is not green, it is gray. ...

100, learned to curry favor with people, no matter what kind of difficulties you encounter, you will reasonably "hide" from the past.

10 1, what's the matter, you flatter the leaders so many times, but you still feel unable to integrate into the leadership circle? Excuse me, did you attend the leader's spare time? The so-called relationship is collusion, which means eating, drinking and having fun together. Only if you collude with your superiors will they dare to use you and trust you. You don't smoke, drink, play mahjong, and participate in the bad habits of leaders, which is related to the hammer.

102, fawning on people is to ask for someone once every few years. You see, fawning on people used to be raising. If something goes wrong, find someone to do it. That's a deal. However, many of us don't want to spend time on feelings. I want to buy and trade when I come up, but without trust, the transaction cost is very high.

103, flattery is an investment. This is a game for the rich. Investors need to have an investment vision, be able to take risks, have bullets ... no money to talk about flattering people = no guns and cannon fodder on the battlefield.

104, Zeng Guofan, 70% of his income is spent on gifts, and everyone knows that money is spent on him. So everyone supported him and wouldn't let him fall.

105. From my point of view, I think Xiao Shenyang is very worth communicating with:

1, very capable.

2. Take money to do things.

Don't touch anything that shouldn't be collected.

Step 4 stand firm and be loyal

5, greedy for money, lustful and tasteful

106, 70% of the annual income is used for paving roads. Simply summed up as "seven sons": tickets, women, seats, rooms, cars, notebooks (passports) and children. Nothing is impossible to take care of this "seven sons" in all directions, just like a spider's web. It comes from two sides and finally forms a complex, practical and solid web.

107, if you make money, as long as you are willing to share it, it will last forever. The more points you get, the more you have. After making money, as long as you are penniless, you will soon run new businesses everywhere.

108, business ability is not strong, but you can make contacts, know how to curry favor with people, and have the support of big leaders, you can still rise rapidly. ...

109, I asked him to curry favor with others, and he said that I don't believe in hard work, and the leaders can't see it? He said he wouldn't take crooked ways, and then he worked at the grassroots level for ten years ... and then he was the first to be optimized by the unit. ...

1 10, curry favor with people, you must find key people, it is easy to get results at once, curry favor with people, and never point to non-strategic opportunities and consume strategic resources.

1 1 1, in society, no matter what you do, it's a fucking connection. It's okay. It's hard to move. It is not enough to have a relationship. You must make money.

1 12, learn to curry favor with others and change your destiny 30 years in advance.

He never fawns on the leaders. I have never seen him since. I heard that he went to the grassroots, where there is a vast world and can do a lot.

1 14. When I ask for help, I usually send a red envelope from 200 yuan first. As long as this 200-yuan red envelope is issued, he will accept the second and third red envelopes I send. ...

1 15, he will do whatever the leader says and writes. He really doesn't want to "play freely". I used to like to play freely, but later I became a full member three years later than others. ...

1 16. No matter how difficult it is, as long as you can hire the right person, this matter will be solved soon.

1 17, flattery is doing business, and the most powerful rule of doing business is to make only limited profits, so be bold and divide the money! There are more and more talents ... but many people will never understand, so the place where there is wine and meat disappears. ...

1 18, you must have such a thinking in doing business: constantly flattering people and constantly dividing money! Because you are buttering up the stumbling block, you will disappear, and you will appear when you share the noble people! The essence of social interaction is interest relationship, and giving gifts is the quickest way for ordinary people to succeed!