Reprint How to Be an Excellent Teacher (5) Behavior Habits

Behavior habit: Be a tasteful person. Put full energy into people every day: the mental outlook of teachers plays an important role in students. A good mental outlook is a manifestation of being responsible to students. It is a bridge across the "generation gap" between teachers and students, and it is the spiritual adhesive of spiritual communication between teachers and students. Education needs passion. Passion is the most direct expression and the mental outlook of teachers. Teachers with good mental outlook are not necessarily excellent teachers, but excellent teachers must have good mental outlook. Excellent teachers always devote themselves energetically to their daily work. Unlike some teachers, they don't regard their profession as a means of making a living, but as a career they have been fighting for all their lives. This passion is not a hot-headed impulse, but a firm belief hidden in their hearts. The key to a good mental outlook lies in whether teachers have good psychological qualities, such as high professionalism, sense of responsibility and dedication, strong will and good emotional characteristics, cheerful personality and optimistic spirit, open-minded and sincere attitude, extensive interests and firm confidence. With this kind of psychology, teachers' thinking must be open, active, profound and creative; Attitude is bound to tend to the pursuit of soul and personality. Teachers in the new era should advocate beauty, strive to optimize educational wisdom, enrich personality, strive to improve their mental outlook, devote themselves to their daily work with full spirit, and constantly improve their literacy, enrich themselves and improve themselves. 8 1. Learn to listen to yourself: Only a teacher who is good at analyzing and listening to himself can become an effective and experienced teacher (Sukhomlinski). Listening is an art, it is difficult to learn to listen to others, and it is even harder to learn to listen to yourself. However, if you learn to listen to yourself, you will find your true self, make clear the direction of progress, make continuous efforts and progress, and have a wonderful life. Some people are only used to being with others, talking to others and having nothing to say to themselves. Once they are alone, they will feel bad. The spiritual world of such a person is superficial after all. People should learn to listen to their own voices and communicate with themselves, so as to gradually form a deeper inner world and enrich their thoughts. People have a deep desire to be respected by others, and they are more eager to be respected by themselves. Listening is a skill as well as a quality. Learning to listen is the pursuit of everyone who is eager for career success, and it is also an essential skill for excellent teachers. As a teacher, if you learn to listen to yourself, you will learn to reflect on yourself and communicate with your heart, and you will become the master of your emotions. Learn to control your anger when you are angry. When you are worried about pain, you should learn to solve it. When you fail, you should learn to actively encourage yourself and make yourself more courageous. Listening to yourself is a good habit. If you form this good habit, you will benefit for life. 82. Be good at discovering yourself: discovering yourself is not only a kind of ability and wisdom, but also a virtue, a noble personality realm, and the ability to know yourself and give full play to your potential. If a person lacks the ability to present himself, he also lacks the ability to examine, doubt, reflect and repent himself, and the ability to deeply explore the truth and essence of things. He will be blinded by himself, waste and damage his life in a muddled way, and even bring harm to others and society. I can't recognize the true face of Lushan Mountain because I am there. It's hard for us to know ourselves. If you are neither self-aware nor arrogant, just like a well-dressed, polite and gentlemanly person, you can't help laughing with a hairy tail sticking up behind your ass. In fact, such jokes are commonplace. In fact, to find yourself is to find another self, the real self behind a mask, all parts of a divided self, limitations, prejudice, ignorance, ugliness, indifference, fear, enthusiasm, inspiration, courage, creativity, imagination and unique personality. In fact, a person is more or less divided, a process of introspection, and a process of understanding from darkness to light to equality and rationality in a divided self. Just as the truth is becoming clearer and clearer, love, wisdom and sense of justice in our hearts can only surface when we tell, explain, comfort and even have heated arguments among ourselves. Finding yourself is not only a kind of ability and wisdom, but also a virtue, a noble personality realm, and the ability to know yourself and give full play to your potential. 83. Dress should have a sense of the times: for teachers, clothing is a silent language with strong expressive force. Proper dress can help teachers establish a good image, smoothly convey all kinds of information closely related to teaching and educating people, and thus successfully complete the education and teaching tasks. As a guide for students, teachers' manners and clothes have a subtle influence on students. Clothing language is the first message that teachers convey to students when they get along with them. Teachers' dress should be in harmony with the social environment, giving people a sense of the times. While paying attention to teachers' sense of dress times, we should also pay attention to the following three aspects: neatness and hygiene, being suitable for their own physical conditions and being in harmony with the campus environment. While paying attention to teachers' sense of dress times, we should also pay attention to the following three aspects: First, it is neat and hygienic, suitable for their own physical conditions and in harmony with the campus environment. Cleanliness is a general requirement for teachers to dress, and it is also the minimum requirement. Second, it is suitable for one's own physical conditions, that is to say, teachers should dress according to their own conditions, and comprehensively consider their own body shape, skin color, age, family economic situation and other factors to wear their own style and personality. Proper dress will keep teachers in a good mental outlook, affect students' enthusiasm and improve classroom efficiency. Third, coordinate with the campus environment, that is to say, teachers' clothing should change with the specific campus environment. The clothes for classroom teaching should be neat and elegant, and the clothes for work and play should be simple and light. In the same classroom teaching, teachers in different disciplines should also have differences in dress. It is impossible for a PE teacher to go to the outside class in a suit and tie, and the experimental class of a physics and chemistry teacher needs to be convenient and tidy. For example, when teaching a text with a sad tone like "Mourning in January", a Chinese teacher should not wear bright-colored clothes, but should wear cool clothes to conform to the teaching atmosphere; However, if you are teaching a text with a cheerful tone like spring, you can choose clothes with novel styles and bright colors to coordinate with the teaching content. 84. Be a tasteful person: Taste is the essence and connotation of life. A person with taste often has high cultural accomplishment, noble moral sentiment, good living habits, elegant lifestyle and positive working attitude. To be a man, you must have temperament and style. As a teacher, you should also have your own characteristics, shining with brilliant humanistic characteristics, that is, the taste of teachers. A teacher with this unique and elegant taste will make his education and teaching full of elegance and vitality. A teacher with cultural taste can make education achieve the purpose of stimulating students' creativity, tapping students' potential and promoting students' personality. Such a teacher will never be full of sarcasm, but has a gentle manner, exudes bookish and inspiring power. A female teacher with cultural taste is not necessarily beautiful, but she must be full of elegance. A male teacher with cultural taste is not necessarily handsome, but he must have style. Teachers' taste is sincere fraternity and charitable tolerance. A tasteful teacher, with a rational spirit, shines with the brilliance of human kindness, and his broad love benefits every student who comes into contact with him. A tasteful teacher, with a rational spirit, shines with the brilliance of human kindness, and his broad love benefits every student who comes into contact with him. Such a teacher has good living habits and self-cultivation, and shows an educated person in every detail of life, a kind, gentle and elegant person, polite and knows how to take care of others. Such a teacher must have a sense of autonomy, and will use his own mind to judge, think and act, so as to gain a standing personality and maintain inner peace and clarity. 85. Language should have affinity: Teachers' language literacy largely determines the efficiency of students' mental work in class (Suhomlinski). Kiss his teacher and believe in his way. Teachers' affinity can win students' respect and trust, and students' understanding and tolerance. Some teachers' teaching level is average, but they have a strong affinity in front of students, so students will actively and enthusiastically devote themselves to learning, so as to obtain better teaching results. Teaching affinity is an important force to coordinate the relationship between teachers and students, stimulate students' innovative spirit and promote the development of quality education. It runs through the whole teaching process, takes students as the center, runs counter to the traditional teaching dignity, and is an indispensable factor under the new curriculum reform concept; On the other hand, if teachers are self-centered and don't consider students' feelings, it is easy to cause students' rebellious psychology. Even if the class is taught well, it may not have a good teaching effect. Teacher's affinity is largely manifested in his language, because verbal communication is the basic way of teacher-student interaction, and language is the most direct tool to realize this communication. Language with affinity is the door for teachers to open students' hearts and a mirror for students' language training. If the teacher's language is dry and tasteless and lacks emotion and literary talent, students will lose interest and fall asleep in class, which does not meet the requirements of language training. To make language have affinity, it is necessary to make it have a unique charm style. For example, the content should be accurate and scientific, the words and sentences should be concise and clear, the speaking attitude should be cordial and natural, the emotional expression should be simple and moving, the tone should be rhythmic, the speed and rhythm should be moderate in Zhang Chi, the language style should be dignified and decent, and the language should be humorous. In order to make language have affinity, we should pay attention to being amiable at ordinary times, such as spring breeze, rain and dew, moistening things quietly, such as clear springs and streams dripping into our hearts; Communicate knowledge and ideas with students in class, and the language should be natural and cordial, warm and lively, lively but not vulgar, elegant but not obscure; Take pains to ask questions, guide and answer students; After class, you can blend in with the students and talk freely with them. Students who make mistakes or do wrong things in their studies can be persuaded and given positive guidance. Teachers should pay attention to students' distress or pain in their lives. Even a warm word will ignite the warm love in students' hearts. 86. Cultivate observation: observation is a teacher's basic ability. Observation is a basic skill for teachers to do a good job and an indispensable psychological quality for teachers to do a good job in education. To impart knowledge, cultivate ability and raise awareness, teachers must first understand students. To understand students, we can't rely on others' introduction or students' own explanation, but mainly on teachers' own observation. Observation is the most effective way to directly understand and study students. Teachers' observation is the basis of teaching in villages. Only through various activities, teachers can carefully observe and deeply understand the complex situation of each student's growth process and analyze the reasons for the formation of their psychological and personality characteristics, can they gradually master each student's unique interests, specialties, personality and temper, and then adopt different guidance methods, so that students can develop from different starting points and make continuous progress and improvement. A person's thoughts and inner activities will always be shown in behavior activities, especially teenagers' emotions are exposed, and they are often not good at hiding themselves. Teachers can capture the changes of students' thoughts and feelings from the various expressions and expressions displayed by students, discover the tiny luminous points hidden in them in time, and discover the wrong signs in the bud, so that good things can be supported and carried forward in time, and bad things can be eliminated in the bud. At the same time, teachers have keen observation, and can timely detect the influence of ideological trends in all aspects of society on students, discover and understand what hidden dangers need to be guarded against in a certain period and stage, so as to grasp the initiative in educating students. 87. Learn to listen: The link and bridge of classroom communication between teachers and students is mutual listening and dialogue between teachers and students, and the key lies in teachers' patient listening (special-grade teachers are consistent every week). In the process of education, teachers' speaking and listening are equally important. In a sense, listening is sometimes more important than speaking, but in reality, the teacher's language is full of the whole classroom, even all the communication spaces between teachers and students. We should learn to be a teacher with listening consciousness and habits, to leave enough time for children to express themselves, and to listen to students warmly and kindly like friends. Good at touching the temperature of children's emotions and listening to hints and implications; If we can find the novelty contained in fallacy, the truth contained in triviality and the rationality contained in absurdity, we will certainly hear the voice of children's ideological course, emotional fission and knowledge jointing. Listening is a kind of waiting, communicating in listening, communicating in listening, and finally realizing teaching and learning. Because the teaching process is an interactive process of communication and development between teachers and students. Whether a teacher can effectively listen to students' speeches is of great significance not only to the communication between teachers and students, but also to the development of students' potential and the creation of a good classroom atmosphere. Listening helps teachers to establish a good relationship between teachers and students, and listening helps to mobilize students' thinking collision. Only when teachers are good at listening to students and adjusting teaching in time can they play their role well; Only by listening well can we correctly judge what the students are thinking and why they think so. Only by listening to students' words, can we correctly judge students' mastery of knowledge and prescribe the right medicine, and the teaching effect can really achieve the expected effect. Only by listening well can we point out and correctly analyze the incorrect answers and unclear language expressions of students in time. 88. Teachers should have a sense of restraint: As teachers, they need a sense of restraint, which is an important symbol to measure a teacher's maturity (Ji Minghai, a special teacher). Although there is only one word difference between constraint and sense of constraint, there is a fundamental difference. The school gives each young teacher a book called IT. If the school organizes a competition for young teachers and you win, the school rewards the winner with a book. There is also a positive emotion behind this acquisition, which is the sense of acquisition. A person who often feels depressed will definitely feel uncomfortable and even painful inside; A person who has a sense of restraint has no such negative complex in the face of things that must be restrained, because it comes entirely from his inner life standards and moral values, and his heart is stable and peaceful. Constraints come from the outside world; The sense of restraint exists in the heart. With a sense of restraint, one knows what can't be done in this society now and when to do it; Things that you don't want to do, but you still have to do well; What is meaningful and needs to be won, and what is meaningless and needs to be rejected; Didn't say anything, where to say it, where not to say it, and what means to say it is not important. A truly mature teacher must be a teacher with a strong sense of restraint. He should not only protect himself at work, but also protect himself at work and become a teacher welcomed by schools and students. As a teacher, you need this sense of restraint. Once young teachers have a laissez-faire and unconstrained free thought, they will have a laissez-faire and unconstrained free behavior. The most common free behaviors are corporal punishment, disguised corporal punishment and mental abuse of students, which violates teachers' professional ethics and even violates the law. As teachers, we need to cultivate and train our sense of restraint. If young teachers do not pay attention to cultivating their sense of restraint, they will do things they should not do in passion and anger. As teachers, our responsibility is to teach and educate people. Therefore, with great love, we must combine kindness with responsibility, enhance our legal vision and awareness, devote ourselves to education and teaching with a positive attitude, constantly restrain our behavior, and help ourselves develop in a disciplined, responsible and enterprising direction. What students are required to do is to do it first: the most important thing for teachers is not to tell lies. What students are asked to do, they must do it first (Ye Shengtao). Speaking of today's middle school students, many teachers will shake their heads and sigh: smoking, drinking, fighting, cheating on the Internet and puppy love are really out of control. However, as long as you observe carefully, you will find that some students' problems are precisely the teachers' own problems. Some teachers don't allow students to chat and play games online, but hide in the office and secretly chat, play poker and play games online; Some teachers don't let students wear mobile phones, but send text messages in front of students, with nothing to do. Some teachers don't let students drink, but they stand on the podium with red heads and faces, and even forget to bring books; Educate students to pay attention to hygiene, don't eat snacks casually, don't litter, keep classrooms and dormitories clean and tidy, and never clean their own offices. Seeds and peels were thrown all over the floor, and students from dirty tribes came to clean them up. Educate students to be polite and say hello, but when they are greeted by students, they look numb and serious. Educate students to be sincere and let teachers try their best to cheat in various exams; Educating students should emphasize unity and mutual respect, but teachers are all blushing for Excellence and evaluation of professional titles. There are no small things in schools, education is everywhere, teachers are everywhere, and role models are everywhere. The ancients said, "If you don't order, you can do it." He is not straight, although he can't do it. Teachers take the lead in setting an example, which is more effective than any preaching. Students should do what they are asked to do first, so that silent education is truly effective. 90. Smile is the most beautiful language: people who smile are always welcome (Dale, famous American psychologist and interpersonal relationship scientist? Carnegie). Education is the art of spiritual communication, and smile is the most powerful language in all communication. It shows a kind of mind, expresses a kind of trust, and conveys understanding and care beyond language. Smile is the concentrated expression of people's positive body language. When everything goes well, smiling is an instinct. In the face of difficult tests, smiling is a kind of accomplishment, a kind of perseverance and a kind of spirit. Teachers' smiles can not only adjust students' psychological state, but also cultivate students' healthy and happy psychology. Teachers use smiles to enhance their self-confidence, show the vitality and vigor of youth, adjust the psychological state of teachers and students, coordinate the relationship between teachers and students, change students' bad habits, and make students willing to approach them. Teachers' smiles are not only beneficial to students' education, but also to teachers themselves. Teachers' smiles have infinite educational charm. Teachers smile at students, which can give students a relaxed interpersonal environment for teacher-student communication and make students feel the understanding, care, tolerance and encouragement of teachers. The teacher's smile is a stimulant for shy students, giving them bold encouragement and daring to touch themselves irregularly; The teacher's smile is a sedative for extroverted and active students, so that they can be reminded in time and realize that their words and deeds need control and self-discipline. Teachers' smiles in teaching can enliven the classroom atmosphere, students' thinking and students' emotions; Teachers' smiles in moral education are understanding and tolerating bad behaviors, arousing students' self-reflection and awakening, encouraging and praising good behaviors, and inspiring students to make continuous efforts and progress. Teachers' smiles are as important as strictness, but compared with them, smiles are more peaceful, gentler, more amiable and more lovely. Strict teachers make students awe, smiling teachers make students love, and teachers who are good at infiltrating knowing smiles from time to time in strictness make students love. Praise teachers and leaders with a smile, resolve misunderstandings and contradictions with a smile, seek cooperation and coordination with a smile, and exchange ideas and inspiration with a smile. You will experience great happiness in education, and you will be less anxious, confused and helpless, and more understanding, support and help. 9 1. Pay attention to the beauty of your appearance: teachers' appearance plays a very important role in education and demonstration. Therefore, teachers should pay attention to their appearance beauty. The bounden duty of teachers is to educate the next generation through their own qualities such as morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor, and to carve out works of art that society needs at all times through their own modality, language, clothing and behavior; At the same time, it is an artistic media to spread beauty, which was shaped by the previous generation. Teachers show their beauty to students all the time, thus improving students' aesthetic taste and strength. Students spend more than one-third of their time with their teachers at school every day. They observe each teacher curiously and learn from them consciously or unconsciously. The teacher's appearance has a direct educational effect on students, which is subtle. Teachers' appearance has an important relationship with teachers' prestige and teacher-student relationship. In other words, teachers are concerned about their own beauty, not just personal problems. To some extent, it reflects teachers' respect for others and society, and it is a manifestation of self-love, love for others and love for life. Instruments make education and teaching more infectious. Students grow up in a beautiful environment and in a beautiful atmosphere. They want to be beautiful at the same time, and the teacher should meet their requirements. Aesthetic education is a process, with emotional infection as its characteristic and infiltration as its law. Without emotional infection and infiltration, there would be no aesthetic education. If people live in a beautiful environment for a long time and constantly accept the edification and nourishment of beauty, they will unconsciously form a perfect advanced psychological structure and psychological orientation, which will have an impact on the whole spiritual world of people. Teachers' appearance includes mental outlook, appearance and behavior. Mental outlook is the soul of teachers' image and the psychological basis of teachers' words and deeds. Appearance refers to people's manners and characteristics, that is, the modification of people's appearance and clothes. The beauty of a teacher's image lies in filling the inside with the outside, which has both internal beauty and external beauty. The image of a teacher is not only reflected in his appearance and clothes, but also in his manners, speech, expression and attitude. These etiquette reflect a teacher's ideological sentiment, will, morality, personality, knowledge level and so on. It is also the main symbol of teachers' spiritual beauty. 92. Dare to admit mistakes is a virtue: If you make mistakes, you should dare to admit mistakes and apologize in front of the whole class, and mistakes will become an educational resource (Yu Yongzheng, a special teacher). It is human nature to make mistakes. It is impossible not to make mistakes in one's life. You can treat your mistakes, but different people have different performances. Some people hide and refuse to admit their mistakes, while others admit their mistakes frankly and correct them when they know their mistakes. Some teachers often pretend to be intellectuals, and they often have the habit of arrogance and superciliousness, which is manifested in self-centeredness and supremacy in front of students. So after criticizing the students, I found that I had wronged them and dared not admit my mistakes to them. I'm afraid that I'm sorry, and I'm afraid that I won't admit my mistakes to my students in teaching, which naturally damages my personal status and dignity, and the result is counterproductive. In fact, your mistakes are clearly seen by others. No matter how you hide it, it is in vain. It's better to be frank and admit your mistakes. Correct mistakes when you know them. 93. Never go back on your word: a car can't go without a shaft, and a man can't stand without faith (Confucius). Keeping promises is a rule that everyone should abide by, especially teachers who teach and educate people. Communication between people needs to be honest with others, and keeping promises is the basic principle of being a man. Only in this way can we get true friendship. Although people can use the same interests, emotions and thoughts to attract each other in communication, they can't establish good interpersonal relationships because interpersonal relationships need credit to maintain. People who can do what they say can give people a sense of trust and make people feel that you are trustworthy. A person can be without excellent appearance and excellent speech, but he can never be without integrity. Honesty will make you one of the most popular communication objects. When a teacher says a word, it must be implemented layer by layer. Saying one thing and doing another will not only damage the teacher's prestige, but also make students ignore the teacher's words. On the other hand, teachers' words and deeds have a subtle influence on students. Teachers must keep their words and keep their promises to students, so that students can have a sense of trust. With trust, they can have affinity and cohesion. If students are required to be punctual, but they arrive late and leave early, they will make it clear in class, but in the office or outdoors, they will do the opposite. They are required to respect teachers and be polite, but not to respect students' personality and labor. They are required to pay attention to dedication, while they try their best to engage in paid tutoring, which will not only affect their own image, but also damage the image of the whole teaching team. Therefore, teachers must keep their promises and be responsible for their own words. A giant who can't speak, a dwarf who acts. 94. Learn to respect: Respect for people is the focus of all education. People, to live with dignity, must first learn to respect, respect themselves and respect others. Respect is a kind of cultivation, a kind of character and a kind of humility. People should learn to respect. As teachers, we should learn to respect. Because respect is the premise of education and the basis of all teachers' educational activities. Respecting students is a basic teacher's morality. We know that only those who can respect others will be respected by others. Therefore, only by respecting students' teachers will students respect you from the heart and accept your education, and your education will be effective. Besides students, teachers should also respect their colleagues and leaders. Respect is a kind of cultivation, a kind of character, an equal treatment of others, and a full affirmation of one's personality and value. No one can be perfect. We don't have to stare at others, and we are not qualified to laugh at others with a dismissive spirit. If others are inferior to ourselves in some way, we can't hurt others' self-esteem with arrogance and disrespect; If we are inferior to others in some way, we don't have to replace our due respect with inferiority or jealousy. A person who truly knows how to respect others will inevitably face all kinds of storms in his career and life with a normal heart.