How to see through other people's scams?

The office is vanity fair, but many newcomers often don't know the depth of white water, and they can't tolerate three good words from others, so they start to talk to each other. As a result, they are often caught off guard, and the boss's impression of you is greatly reduced. How to see through the hypocrites in the office is actually very simple.

The first trick: look at the eyes.

When a person speaks, there is no unnecessary little movement, and the corner of his eye is lifted to the left. If a person can't stop looking to the right when talking to you, then he is probably making up a lie to deceive your trust. In addition, the blink rate is also an important indicator to identify lies. When a person's words don't match his strong inner feelings, the speed of blinking will slow down or speed up. For such people, it is better to stay at a respectful distance from others.

The second trick: look at the smile.

A person's real smile time is about 2-4 seconds. If a person's smile stays on his face for a long time, and there is nothing particularly funny in your conversation, it can be concluded that his smile is just a means of pleasing and unreliable.

The second trick: watch the handshake.

Shaking hands is a symbolic gesture of friendship between people in modern society. If a person only reaches out his finger when shaking hands with you, it shows that he is sophisticated, stingy and greedy, and his heart is full of contempt for others. There is no need to harm people, and there is no need to prevent people. If people you just met behave like this, you should get to know each other better before making friends.

You will often meet some swindlers in your life. On the surface, your neighbor praised the beautiful fence in your garden, but in fact she didn't like it at all. There are also stores that shout for a whole store discount, but in fact only a few goods are reduced in price. P ekman, emeritus professor of psychology at the University of California, San Francisco, said: "Lies will happen between friends, teachers and students, husbands and wives, witnesses and juries, lawyers and clients, businessmen and customers."

Scientists who study lies say that most people tell one or two lies every day. Moreover, we are rarely seen through, because these lies are usually trivial. "I was caught in a traffic jam on the road just now." "You look good in that color." "I was just about to call you." Ekman has studied lies and scams for 40 years and published several monographs. He said: "Lying is an important feature of human society, and people should correctly understand the phenomenon of lying in social activities." For example, it is sometimes necessary to tell a white lie.

How to identify lies in life

How can we see through each other's lies in daily communication? Whether it is a white lie that has nothing to do with the overall situation or a big lie with ulterior motives, do they have something in common? You can try the clever trick developed by experts. Listen to the sound first. Pay attention to whether the speaker's tone has changed than usual. For example, his voice becomes hoarse or rough, which he doesn't usually have. It sounds that all these changes indicate false suspicions.

Ekman tested the ability of 509 subjects to lie at the University of San Francisco. These people include confidential personnel, CIA and FBI agents, and college students. There are ten people talking in the video shown to them. It is necessary to distinguish who is lying and who is telling the truth.

One of the ladies imagined that she was looking at a bunch of flowers and was full of praise for these lovely flowers. Although she smiled when she spoke, several subjects found a strange hesitation in her voice, with dull words and blunt gestures. A security official concluded that the lady was lying. In fact, what the lady saw was not the real flowers, but the slides put by the examiner. People in the security department scored the highest, and the lie recognition rate was 86%.

Although people will change their behavior or expression when lying, the abnormal change of voice is particularly special. Including speaking fast or slow, even the rhythm of breathing has changed.

Another trick put forward by experts is to observe the erratic eyes. Many people understand the inattention of eyes as a typical sign of lying, but it is more important to consider the content related to eyes. Therefore, experienced bridge players will not use their eyes easily.

Experts have found that if someone's eyes wander when thinking about a difficult problem, this is understandable and does not mean lying. However, when answering some easy questions, I was distracted and suspected of lying. Pay attention to the other person's reaction to the main topic in the conversation. If someone comes across a topic that makes him feel ashamed, it is difficult for him to keep his eyes still. But when lying in good faith, people's eyes will be more focused.

You can't judge whether you are lying only by the expression or action of a certain part of your body or face, such as your eyes, nose, mouth and hands. It is necessary to comprehensively consider the speaker's face, figure, voice and speech speed to improve the accuracy of judgment.

In short, we should observe people's performance in all aspects as much as possible. If you are familiar with the speaker's routine behavior, you are bound to find clues about his lying. For example, small changes in hand movements, differences in gesture changes, and inconsistent shrug movements. Also pay attention to the changes in posture and behavior of key points in the conversation. For example, people who usually love to talk are silent when they encounter keywords; Or people who are usually silent become talkative.

Subtle expressions on the face often reveal the speaker's true feelings and thoughts. These feelings and thoughts are completely different from what he pretends. But this kind of instantaneous expression, which is usually only 1/4 seconds, is difficult to capture. Even well-trained polygraph professionals, such as police, judges, lawyers and so on. You can't always confidently agree with this fleeting expression. Experienced speakers always cover up lies with smiles and other expressions.

But the false is always false, and the lie will eventually expose the flaw. What matters is not the quantity of laughter, but the quality of it. Fake smile means that the skin smiles but the flesh doesn't smile. A heartfelt smile requires not only the movement of the lips, but also the cooperation of the muscles around the eyes.

The purpose of smirking is to cover up fear, anger, sadness or disgust. If you are good at observing, you will see the emotions revealed by the speaker. I hope the guidance of experts can help you analyze and see through lies.

Today, our work and social life are largely online, and we are more and more vulnerable to attacks. White-collar criminals, perverts, liars, identity thieves and even terrorists all surf the Internet like us. Researchers in several universities are developing a software that can detect lies in online communication such as text messages, emails and chat rooms.

How to identify network lies

The traditional lie detector looks for physiological signals of anxiety, such as sweating or rapid pulse, but the online system only checks the liar's language. Jeff Hancock, an associate professor of communication in the Department of Computing and Information Science at Cornell University, said: "When we look at language, we are looking at the tools of lies."

Hancock recently received a grant of $680,000 from the National Science Foundation of the United States to study digital deception. He said that more and more evidence shows that the language of dishonest information is different from that of honest information. For example, the research he presided over found that deceptive emails had 28% more words than honest emails, and there were more words related to negative emotions than honest emails.

Hancock found that liars often use the first person less (such as pronouns "I" and "we") and the third person more (such as "he" and "they"). This may be a subconscious way for scammers to keep themselves away from lies.

More surprisingly, Hancock and his colleagues also found that liars also showed unique language patterns. For example, people who are cheated often use shorter sentences and ask more questions. For example, a concise sentence: "The paper I sent yesterday" was written by a liar: "The paper was sent yesterday." Also, liars rarely use exclusive words such as "but", "no" and "except" to avoid complicated wording.

In order to identify the pattern of lies, Hancock developed a short message system at Cornell University, which allows users to rate every fraudulent short message they send. This system collected 10000 short messages, of which about 6% met the standard of lying openly. Finally, the survey results will be compiled into the software used to analyze "received messages".

At present, Cornell University researchers only study the lies of students and faculty. Whether such a system can be upgraded to analyze "big" lies, such as messages sent by scammers and terrorists, is still unknown.

So far, this study shows that there are fewer lies in e-mail than in face-to-face communication or telephone conversation. Hancock suspects that this may be because people don't want to write lies. He said: "E-mail will produce multiple copies, which will last longer than things carved on stones." Therefore, we need to choose words carefully. Perhaps the Internet will soon eliminate not only lies, but also lame excuses.