The text message on New Year's Day was sent late.

Your expression makes me think you are lovers, not husband and wife.

I think you are very dissatisfied with your way of getting along. You have little contact, and he rarely contacts you actively, making you feel that he doesn't care about you and doesn't like you. The following is my personal opinion:

He doesn't care about you as much as you think. He likes you. His attitude towards you is basically a very ordinary friendship. Good friends are not so perfunctory. I think maybe you are too simple together, and he doesn't care about this relationship, so I think you'd better find someone who can fall in love with you again.