Don’t panic, sister, I am young Zhang Zhiming! 丨Watch "Chun Jiao Saves Zhiming"

At the end of "Chunjiao Saves Zhiming", Zhang Zhiming joined hands with Yu Chunjiao's parents to stage a marriage proposal battle, which won Yu Chunjiao to tears and nodded her consent to marry. A man who refused to grow up is finally willing to take responsibility. Is it possible to laugh with tears and make everyone happy?

In fact, I think Zhang Zhiming did not say some words.

Because he was forced to grow up, he knew it was better not to say anything, but I felt the need to speak out for him.

In Swiss psychologist Carl Jung’s psychological archetype theory, Zhang Zhiming’s archetype is called the “eternal boy”. The term comes from the Latin Puer Aetemus, the eternally youthful boy in Roman mythology "The Metamorphosis".

Jung pointed out that "eternal boys" are generally more Oedipal, refuse to grow up, and are unwilling to take responsibility; but the positive side is that such people always retain their childlike innocence and seek the interest of life. Be free, be happy.

As a 36-year-old man, Zhang Zhiming still likes to collect all kinds of "toys" for adults, which is a typical behavior.

But why does Yu Chunjiao like Zhang Zhiming? Is it because he is mature, stable and stable?

No. It was because Zhang Zhiming was willing to listen to her ghost story about the "blind mother-in-law" when she was a child, because he was willing to accompany her to the "field holy land" in the suburbs to simply wait for the flying saucer, and because of Zhang Zhiming's implicit confession at the time, "i n 55! W!."

When the two met in the smoking corner in the first movie, Zhiming had a little girl who pursued romance, and Chunjiao had a boyfriend of five years who was so familiar that she felt nothing.

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Two people who are no longer young have probably gone through a lot of emotional experiences before they met each other. But one of them has not grown up, and the other has not grown old at heart. It is a small psychological intersection between the two. So that they can stay in the same bed and not be in a hurry after dawn.

Yu Chunjiao, if you fall in love with an eternal boy because of his sincerity, how can you fall in love with him because you are about to grow old and your hair will turn white. ", and blame him for not being able to grow up?

If a man has the conditions, he can actually play for a long time.

Zhang Zhiming is handsome, he gets a promotion and a salary increase, he can play, and he can talk, so There are always all kinds of women around him.

Maybe he is complacent and even flirts with girls. However, he knows where the bottom line is and will come back to sleep next to Yu Chunjiao. /p>

Chunjiao's father is a heartless old naughty boy. Before getting married, he took his son and "future son-in-law" to saunas and nightclubs.

Zhang Zhiming casually said at the gas station that "it would be nice to have a child" and "or get married." Yu Chunjiao felt very angry because she felt that the other party was not sincere at all.

In fact, she was. I don’t know how long the boy Zhang Zhiming had been brewing before he could say something like this as if nothing had happened.

No one can decide casually whether he wants to get married or have children, whether he is a man or not. Female.

Maybe Zhang Zhiming has been thinking about this matter, but because of his "eternal boy" mental model, making such important decisions is too heavy and too difficult to speak out - even if he makes it

So he let this idea sink deep in his heart, not provoking it, and waited for it to come out casually.

It seemed casual and understated. It is a psychological strategy to resist and escape.

The "eternal boy" is always playful, so he is afraid of being heavy and serious, so he expresses his feelings carelessly and like a game (pronounced backwards).

However, when Yu Chunjiao saw Ben Si, she was filled with fear and doubt. She only saw Zhang Zhiming's "not growing up" weakness. Forgetting the pain of being "forced to grow up"

In fact, Zhang Zhiming's final proposal was still playing, but it was more grand and creative.

A person's psychological prototype cannot be changed. He can only change his strategy to coordinate the psychological dilemma brought to him by the external world.

"Eternal Boy" refuses to be boring, and growing up is the most boring and boring thing. The most heartless thing.

Think about yourself, if you were a child, would you choose your words to flatter a self-righteous boss?

Think about yourself, if you were a child, would you keep an eye on the stock market and housing market every day to calculate your loan repayment?

Think about yourself, if you were still a child, would you consider whether this man/woman would seriously accompany me for life?

The world of adults is very utilitarian, and the world of adults is very cruel. In fact, not many people want to grow up, but most people are forced to give up their childlike innocence, youth, and innocence little by little.

And how can we not envy those few idiots who can still retain the heart of children when they grow up?

Jia Baoyu is the "eternal boy", and his love for the existence of "girls" is pure and sexual;

Zhou Botong is the "eternal boy", only he can control the martial arts Keep learning as a game and eventually become the best in the world;

Van Gogh is the "eternal boy". He does not understand the world and has no choice but to express his feelings in paintings that no one wants:

Bob Dylan is an eternal boy, always questioning and rebellious, always refusing to go along with the world.

These people are geniuses.

You said you don’t love “Eternal Boy”? But how many people in this world try their best to pretend to be "eternal boys"? Pretending to be a "little fresh meat", pretending to be silly and cute, pretending to be youthful, earned the screams of female fans, and earned tens of millions of net worth.

These people are geniuses who pretend to be pure.

In reality, an ordinary "eternal boy" really has a hard time living.

If Yu Chunjiao’s insecurity is “Will I marry a man who is as irresponsible as my father?”, then Zhang Zhiming’s insecurity is “Will I become an adult?” People are as stable and boring as ever."

Zhang Zhiming has actually been working hard to grow up: when faced with the teasing of his colleague "Field Commander", he behaved very calmly; when faced with the hints of all kinds of hot girls around him, he remained close and approachable. No kiss; faced with the ridicule of Yu Chunjiao’s girlfriends who “treat him as invisible”, he did not behave like a child.

Speaking of the scene where two people encountered an earthquake, I think Zhang Zhiming really reacted instinctively.

Chunjiao was scared, and so was he - they were all ordinary men and women.

Zhang Zhiming first tried to pull Chunjiao, but then he kept calling Chunjiao under the table. Chunjiao was only two or three steps away from the table, and there was nothing really stopping her. The only thing stopping her was fear.

I just guessed that if the earthquake did not stop and the roof really fell, Zhiming would rush back to block Chunjiao.

Because Zhang Zhiming really cherishes Chunjiao, because he has been in love, and he has also been hurt. He knows that not all women can tolerate his "eternal boy" for so long.

That’s why Zhang Zhiming is more courageous than Chunjiao’s father. That old naughty boy, at this age, still only dares to say "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" to his children in a trick-like way.

And Zhang Zhiming dares to play the buffoon in public, dares to admit his weakness, and dares to make a promise.

As a boy, Zhang Zhiming is really grateful to Yu Chunjiao,

But the thank you is not for "letting him grow up", but for "accompanying him to grow up";

As a woman, Yu Chunjiao should also thank Zhang Zhiming,

Because thanks to his "not growing up", she will not really grow old.

The true fruit of love is nothing more than mutual fulfillment.

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