Psychologically, what happened to a 13-year-old child who was extremely reticent?

Generally speaking, a child who doesn't like to talk is a little lacking in self-confidence, so we should cultivate his self-confidence. Therefore, explore his potential, find his advantages, encourage him, praise him more, and never compare him with other children.

Many parents have said this in the process of their children's growth, such as: don't run around, be careful to pick up garbage and cheat you away; If you don't listen, I'll hand you over to the bad guys. These "wolf" words have invisibly caused certain psychological pressure to children. Children will think that the outside world is dark and there are many bad people, which will naturally lead to the psychology of escape or prevention. There are also some children who have heard some horrible stories or watched some horrible movies, leaving a psychological shadow, thus becoming timid and unconfident.

Parents are too protective of their children, afraid of falling into their hands and putting them in their mouths. They don't let their children touch anything in their daily lives. For example, if a child touches a broom, the parents will say, "Be careful, how dirty it is, put it down quickly"; When the child wants to wash the dishes, the parents shout, "Don't move, it will break." These small details make the child timid, because he has not gained experience in trial and practice. Children are still protected when they grow up. It is this kind of umbrella that leads to children's timidity and inferiority, and they dare not speak more.

Children communicate too little and are not suitable for strangers and groups. Some children seldom interact and play with children of the same age except with their parents and elders, which makes children's communication skills not exercised, and gradually makes them afraid to meet strangers and speak in front of everyone.

You can go to a psychological education institution for teenagers to stimulate your self-growth instinct, hone your will and form good habits through "one-on-one" psychological consultation. The combination of centralized education and individual counseling, through group training mode, promotes children to perceive themselves, understand others and enhance their interpersonal skills in the collective environment.

Provide a comfortable environment for children and improve their self-confidence. We should fully discover their bright spots, fully affirm any positive behavior, avoid using negative sentences frequently, such as "no", "no" and "how can you do this", and be patient when teaching them new knowledge, and make explanations short and clear.

Children are children, and no one is born withdrawn. Not liking to talk is a symptom, and there must be deep-seated reasons. Parents must pay more attention.

The following points can roughly determine the reasons why children don't like to talk, and I hope to adopt them:

First of all, it is often said that at least 70% of children's problems appear in their daily life, including:

1, lifestyle (for example: children do their homework, parents play mobile phones and watch TV, leave their children alone in the room, have no good schedule and so on. ),

2, the feelings of parents (quarrels, fights, all kinds of spit),

3, academic situation (this situation is extremely serious, adults are influenced by people around them, it is inevitable that they will shop around, there will always be other people's children to compare things).

Secondly, pay attention to children's performance on campus and whether they are bullied by other children.

Finally, in order to truly understand this situation and untie the child's heart, the most important thing is that parents should learn to walk into the child's heart, don't look at the child from their own perspective, and learn to put themselves in other's shoes. Look at the problem from the child's point of view, and then guide the child out of the psychological dilemma with love.

It may be related to the family environment or the school environment. First, we should know more about family relationships. The influence of family environment on children is very important. Then we should know about her situation at school, study and make friends. Thirteen-year-olds have a strong self-esteem and don't like to talk. There must be something that makes her feel resistant or afraid. We should pay more attention to her mental health development and communicate with her more. If it's serious, we can take her to see a psychiatrist.

The first is cold personality. Don't like to get along with outsiders. Inner distance from the busy place. She has been independent since she was a child. Very self-disciplined, you don't need the power of your mouth to express yourself. She cares more about inner sublimation and silence. I like solitude and quiet environment.

It is the cerebral cortex that is inactive and can only think deeply.

It should be related to the family environment. If family members are not harmonious or extremely quiet, children should not like to talk. There is also the child's character, extremely inferior, and the child with cold temperament does not like to talk.

First of all, he is cold and doesn't like to get along with outsiders. Inner exclusion of busy places. There is also related to family.

The biggest reason is the growing environment and parental discipline.

There is a relationship with family members since childhood, such as: his (her) parents are not at peace or whether he is wrong, from an early age. Outsiders asked his family that he didn't like to talk, but after a long time, he grew up, and he really didn't like to talk, which may be due to various reasons ... personal opinions.