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Being a man, a person's ability to speak and do things often determines the height he can reach.

Modest, gentle as jade, the supreme character is often standing inside rather than outside. Therefore, they are slow and sensitive, don't talk at random, keep quiet, be cautious in everything they say and do, and think twice before you act.

There is a saying in The Analects: "A gentleman should speak slowly but act quickly."

Speaking quickly is the highest state of being a man.

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The more knowledgeable people are, the more reticent they are.

Laozi once said: "It is better to keep the golden mean than to talk big and count the poor."

If you talk too much, you will lose, and if you talk too much, you will easily fall into a disadvantageous position. Ignorant people are always chattering and boasting; On the contrary, he is a knowledgeable person who knows how to remain silent and modest.

Mr. Cai Yuanpei, a literary master, once experienced such an anecdote.

1935, London planned to hold an exhibition of China's famous paintings, so representatives were sent to Nanjing and Shanghai to supervise the selection of famous paintings in the museum. Among them, pelliot, a French sinologist, and Cai Yuanpei, a representative of China, participated in it.

Pelliot thinks that he has made great achievements in this respect, and no one can, so he said in the museum:

"The color of this painting is very good. It is a famous painting at first glance! "

"I knew at a glance that Hui Zong Goose was real, but you may not understand. If you want to identify the authenticity, you must look at the color of the seal and ink! "

"This landscape painting has won my love, so I will choose it!"

For a time, the huge museum was full of pelliot's disrespectful words, while Cai Yuanpei, who stood by, said nothing, didn't argue or say much, but responded politely: "Yes, yes."

Later, as if realizing something, pelliot suddenly stopped talking and looked at Cai Yuanpei with a face of fear, fearing that he had said something wrong.

Pelliot's concern is justified. Cai Yuanpei was a scholar in Qing Dynasty, edited and edited by imperial academy, learning from the past and learning from the present. Is his literary accomplishment comparable to that of foreign scholars?

It is such a respected literary master that he can still be unobtrusive, taciturn, modest and polite.

Lin Yutang later praised Cai Yuanpei on this matter: "This is the accomplishment that a writer should have."

A truly learned man is like a full bottle of water, which won't shake or ring, while a shallow man is like a half bottle of water, which will ring when touched.

There is a saying in The Analects: "A gentleman keeps his word."

The more knowledgeable people are, the more cautious they are, and they never treat them casually. For uncertain things, choose silence; Your mind is quiet, too.

After all, there are people outside, and there are days behind, and modesty and rigor can go further.

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Smart people know how to be careful what they say and do.

Hu Hong, a neo-Confucian, once said: "Honesty can strengthen one's will, and honesty can respect morality."

Speaking carefully and doing things quickly are the top wisdom of being a man.

Wang Lang in The Romance of the Three Kingdoms ended up in an embarrassing situation because he couldn't speak and made rude remarks.

Zhuge Liang led troops to attack Wei, and Wang Lang, the strategist of Cao Wei, wanted to humiliate Zhuge Liang severely to defeat his morale and win the victory.

Without thinking, he said to Zhuge Liang, "You have deviated from heaven, learned from obscurity and helped others abuse it! I have a million soldiers in Dawei. If you don't want to lose too badly, surrender! I can still keep you from losing your title. "

Zhuge Liang laughed in the car after hearing this: "I thought the old minister of the Han Dynasty could have any good ideas, but I didn't expect these rude words. I'm so ashamed of you! "

Zhuge Liang knew that what Wang Lang said was nonsense, so he was merciless and hit the nail on the head. Finally, Wang Lang was so angry that he fell off his horse and died.

There is a saying in the Book of Songs: "Bai Gui's sin is still grindable; You can't feel guilty for what you said. "

The defects of white jade can be worn away, but improper remarks cannot be redeemed. At the juncture of the game between the two armies, Wang Lang blurted out wild words without careful consideration, only to be laughed at by later generations.

If you want to achieve great success, you can't just say it with your mouth, you should also carry it out. Action is always the best language.

Sima Yi was a commoner in the Three Kingdoms period, and finally became a pivotal figure in Wei State, which is recorded in the history books. His success is inseparable from the word "caution".

On one occasion, Sima Yi was unfortunately caught in a snowstorm on his way back with his troops. Several soldiers could not resist the cold and asked him to distribute cotton-padded clothes.

Sima Yi, who has always loved soldiers like children, refused: "The cotton-padded jacket is an official property, and it is expressly stipulated that it cannot be given to soldiers privately."

In fact, it's not that he doesn't want to give it, but once he gives it privately, someone will accuse him of "privately benefiting soldiers and plotting evil." Sima Yi is in a high position, so he should be extra careful in his every move. If he is not careful, he will lose the game.

It is Sima Yi who is cautious everywhere and treads on thin ice, so that he can rise all the way and realize his great achievements.

Smart people know how to say the right thing and do the right thing. They spend more time thinking, studying and constantly improving themselves.

Stupid people, outspoken, reckless, can only speak fast, and will eventually pay for their impulses.

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Keep your word and act quickly, which is the highest state of being a man.

There is a cloud in "The Four Seasons of Fanfan": "One word is enough to call disaster, so the ancients kept their mouths shut, lest the world be chaotic; One line is enough for a lifetime, so the ancients bowed and bowed for fear of mistakes. "

You have learned everything you say and do, so be careful when you speak. The best way to be a man is to talk and do things.

Before the age of 30, Zeng Guofan was always overbearing and outspoken, which offended many people.

One day, there was a happy event at home, and Zeng Guofan invited his friend Zheng Xiaoshan to be a guest.

At that time, Zeng Guofan had just entered the Imperial Academy, and he was proud of himself. He showed off his achievements in front of Zheng Xiaoshan and even looked down on others.

Xiao-shan zheng kindly reminded him a few words, and advised him to put away his sharpness and act cautiously. Who knows that Zeng Guofan suddenly got angry and said many things that were difficult to obey. Xiao-shan zheng ignored and left immediately.

After Zeng Guofan calmed down, he realized that he had made a big mistake. He shouldn't be impulsive and reckless. On the contrary, Zheng Xiaoshan has measured his words and deeds and kept his duty.

The next day, Zeng Guofan personally came to apologize to Zheng Xiaoshan and asked for forgiveness.

In the rest of his life, Zeng Guofan always remained cautious, thought twice and acted calmly, and always regarded "speaking without hesitation" as the basic criterion of human life.

At the end of the Qing Dynasty, the situation was turbulent and many court officials were demoted. Only Zeng Guofan can save himself and is highly valued.

The ancients said: "The water depth is slow, and the people are expensive and the language is late."

Speaking slowly and doing things quickly is the highest realm of being a man.

People with a high realm can assess the situation and seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. They use words carefully, never talk nonsense and speak frankly; Smart and agile, never procrastinating and indecisive.

With "quick action" and "slow speech", the road of life can be broader and longer.

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The best way to be a man is to "be careful what you say and do"

There is a cloud in the Book of Rites: "Great things must be cautious in the end."

People who do great things are careful in their words and deeds.

Silence is not saying nothing, but arguing and being humble and polite; Caution is not timidity, but judgment and resourcefulness. Speaking rashly is not clumsy, but the best way to be a man and the need to be a man.

It is an attitude towards life, a supreme state and an indispensable practice in getting along with others. I hope we can be obedient, gentle, diligent and considerate for the rest of our lives.

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