Accompany students to the end of the world: advantages and disadvantages of accompanying students to study abroad

In recent years, various problems brought about by the younger age of studying abroad have aroused great repercussions in society. Many educators and media are also calling on children who can't stand on their own feet not to study abroad! However, for various reasons, parents who want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed continue to send their underage children abroad to study.

However, the child was really sent out, and the child was no longer under his nose. Parents are worried that their children will eat well abroad. Can't get used to it? Can you keep up with your studies? Will it get worse ... many problems follow, and many parents feel that instead of sitting at home in a hurry, it is better to study abroad with their children, take care of their diet and daily life, and urge their children to study and live. But "accompanying reading" is like a double-edged sword, which has advantages and disadvantages. The key depends on how parents handle it. ...

Advantages of accompanying students to study abroad

Studying abroad with students is beneficial to children's growth.

Mother-child accompanying visa is a kind of visa that some countries open to underage students, allowing underage children to study in their own country, but considering the life and safety of underage children and for their better study, they are open to their parents. Previously, only Singapore opened a visa for maternal and child escort. Later, with the increase in the number of underage students in China, Australia, New Zealand and Malaysia also allowed mothers and children to accompany their children, so that many parents used business and tourist visas to accompany their children in the United States, Canada and Britain, making mother and child accompanying their children a hot topic in recent years. Whether it is good to study abroad with students has always been a topic of concern to many people.

Generally speaking, it is beneficial for children to accompany their mothers and children. Because children are young and have poor self-control, they need the care of their parents very much in adolescence. Some countries, such as New Zealand, allow very young students, even students under the age of 10, to study abroad. This must be accompanied by their parents, otherwise it is unthinkable. Those children who have just entered junior high school are easily tempted by the outside world, and their emotions may change greatly because of the differences in foreign cultures. Without the timely guidance of their parents, their normal study and life will be affected. In the process of accompanying students, many parents not only take care of their children's daily life, but also study with them, coach their lessons and actively exchange ideas with them, thus making their children's overseas study and life smooth and enjoyable.

A boy of 15 years old studied in New Zealand in 2002 and came to New Zealand with his parents a few months before entering school. Because his parents made plans in advance, he first followed his mother to visit places of interest in New Zealand, which eliminated his fear of New Zealand culture in advance. After settling down, he found a good English tutor under his mother's arrangement to help him improve his English and learn about the learning situation in New Zealand middle schools "one-on-one". When he entered the school, the child had basically eliminated his shyness and fear. After he entered middle school, his mother hired a tutor to help him improve his English after studying. In less than half a year, his children have made rapid progress in English and can communicate with teachers and classmates fluently and freely. Later, according to the requirements of the school and the children's preferences, the mother arranged extracurricular activities such as playing ball games and swimming, which made the children's life in school and family colorful and completely integrated into the life circle of local students. As a result, children become confident and like their school and local environment more and more. Now, this child with excellent learning and wide interests is about to finish his studies in the local high school and prepare for the college entrance examination. Of course, his feelings with his mother are getting closer and closer.

Accompanying students abroad is conducive to timely communication with the school.

If children are far away from home and parents are at home, parents are often worried that they can't really know the students' learning situation in time because of the distant space. If studying abroad, parents can often communicate with teachers in their children's schools, and can understand and guide their children's learning in time. In countries that allow accompanying reading, such as Singapore, New Zealand and Australia, parents can often be seen communicating with teachers in school offices. Communicating with teachers helps parents understand students' learning progress and school performance, and better educate their children; At the same time, it can also strengthen teachers' sense of responsibility for children and help students receive fair education at school.

I have a friend who accompanied me to Sydney. In the past two years, she has been studying with her children in junior high school. Her experience is that she must go to the teacher regularly or even often to learn about her children's learning. Because the child is introverted, just went to school abroad, his language is not good, and he is easily bullied by local classmates; Because the children can't express themselves clearly, the teacher doesn't understand what's wrong with the students. At first, she didn't take it seriously when she saw her child pouting when she came back from school, but she didn't realize the seriousness of the problem until the child was like this for several days in a row.

So, she took her children to school to find a teacher. After learning the situation, the teacher immediately criticized the students who bullied others. When those students saw their parents come forward, they didn't dare to do anything to their children, and their learning environment was improved immediately. The mother found many advantages in going to the teacher. On the one hand, she can care about students' study, on the other hand, she can cultivate a good relationship with teachers. The teacher also found that the parents attach great importance to their children and pay more attention to educational methods; Children also get more care and training from teachers in the process of learning.

Disadvantages of accompanying students to study abroad

Children feel that their parents are a burden.

However, accompanying students to study abroad also has many disadvantages. In Australia and New Zealand, due to language barriers, a large number of accompanying parents cannot communicate well with the outside world. In fact, they can only stay at home. At the same time, children's language ability has improved rapidly, and the gap between them has gradually widened. Parents don't know how to deal with many problems their children come into contact with, and they can't solve some problems their children encounter.

In a school in Australia, students need their parents to participate in some school activities or speak at them, but a considerable number of accompanying parents can't integrate into the local parents because they don't know English. Even if they take part in activities, they are like deaf people, which makes some children feel bad about themselves. After one or two activities, their feelings with their parents gradually alienated. And because parents can't help, children don't want to communicate with their parents.

Some parents feel particularly sad: they have crossed the ocean and left China to take care of their children. As a result, children are not only ungrateful, but discriminate against themselves and ignore them. Some children don't like their parents around and think they are a burden. Parents can't do anything, which makes them lose face. Parents are afraid that after they return to China, without their parents' supervision, their children will let themselves drift and not study hard. Although their children's performance made them uncomfortable, they had to stay and work hard for their children. Therefore, although parents and children live under the same roof, they could not live in China before.

Sacrifice your parents' career.

Although accompanying reading can make children enjoy deep affection to a certain extent, it at least sacrifices the career of one parent. For the sake of their children, some parents give up their good jobs at home and go abroad to accompany their children. At this time, if everything goes well, but if the children are ungrateful or there are problems in the family, it will not be worth the candle.

I met a mother who accompanied me back from New Zealand. She used to have a good job as a manager in China, but she resigned and went to New Zealand to accompany her daughter in junior high school. Because she doesn't know English, she has no work and life except washing and cooking for her children and occasionally chatting with local Chinese. Children feel that their mother doesn't know English and can't help herself, so they don't report their study to her. Things in life are not discussed with her, and the relationship between mother and daughter is particularly tense. Although the accompanying mother wants to go out to work many times, there are few jobs to choose from because she can't speak English. Jobs that don't require much English are all manual jobs. Feeling lonely in a foreign country, when she thought of her once enviable job and glamorous life in China, and then thought of the embarrassing reality, she felt extremely lost. At the same time, the husband in China listened to her complaints because she had been away for too long, and the relationship between them also broke down.

During the accompanying reading, she was always troubled by family chores, but she couldn't find a suitable way to get rid of it, so that she finally suffered heavy psychological pressure.

Now, when I return to China, I see that my former colleague has been promoted and made a fortune, but she has been abroad for several years and can't go back to the original starting point. I feel particularly sorry. She said that two years of accompanying study life, she completely sacrificed herself, is simply not worth it.

It is easy to influence children's world outlook.

Among the accompanying reading groups, there are also some families who are not rich. They insisted on sending their children abroad, and then their parents came here as accompanying students, but in fact, they worked to earn tuition for their children. In Singapore, Malaysia and Australia, there are many such "working parents".

In Singapore, some accompanying parents have to work in restaurants or supermarkets every day because of their poor family circumstances, just like going to the market, and they have to go to several places a day. In Canada, some parents who hold "visiting visas" but are "accompanying students" even work more than 12 hours a day. Although this can ease the pressure on the cost of studying abroad, it is actually difficult to take care of and help children. After a day's work, parents are often very tired, have little communication with their children, and have no effect on the supervision of their children's learning. And this kind of place that earns tuition by working and works with parents is often a noisy circulation place, and they are exposed to more dark sides of society. Therefore, when they communicate with their children, they will unconsciously bring out some very realistic ideas, which will easily affect their worldview. Some enterprising children will study hard and get good grades when they see that their parents are hard. Moreover, many children see that their parents are working to earn money every day, and they are talking about how much money is good and how expensive the tuition is, but they will have the idea of being tired of learning. On the other hand, parents are under great pressure at work. When they see their children's academic performance is slightly worse, they will be furious. Over time, children will become rebellious, which will increase their psychological pressure, lack self-motivation and fail to achieve the purpose of studying abroad.

Solve the negative problems of accompanying reading

These negative problems brought by accompanying students can be solved, and the key depends on what parents do.

First of all, parents should let go of the burden of "overseas cultural differences". Many parents feel that they are too old to learn the language, and they don't want to get in touch with the local society at all. The longer this situation lasts, the greater the gap between yourself and the local society, and the narrower the information channel, which creates obstacles to communication with children. However, some parents are very liberal. When they are in their forties, they still carry schoolbags to learn foreign languages, take an active part in local social activities and learn about local folk customs, which is very helpful for educating children.

Some parents who left their jobs and went abroad to accompany them planned in advance what they would do during their accompanying study. For example, during the accompanying reading period, I will give full play to my specialty and write some quality research articles and projects; You can also contact some domestic newspapers and become an overseas writer. There are also some parents who set a goal for themselves and must learn something that they think is important or interesting, such as English, elementary accounting, music or calligraphy. These are all very beneficial ways to relieve inner loneliness and maintain physical and mental health.

Many accompanying parents who work to earn tuition fees are also very concerned about their children's emotions. When conditions permit, they try to arrange their working hours during the children's classes. Even if they earn less money, they want to exchange more learning experiences with their children. Therefore, the quality of accompanying reading depends largely on parents themselves.

Experts remind: you should carefully consider whether to accompany you.

Understand the supporting reading policies of various countries

Before going abroad to accompany students, you must know the policies of accompanying students in various countries in detail. There are two main types of accompanying visas for studying abroad: one is the accompanying visa for husband and wife, which exists in most countries studying abroad. The qualification for applying is mainly formal spouse, but boyfriends and unmarried couples are not recognized. The other is a visa for parents to accompany them, which only exists in some countries, such as Australia and Singapore. According to the relevant policies of Singapore, spouses and parents can be accompanied, but the latter must be maternal relatives of children under 16.

Many countries are not allowed to work with students.

Although it is difficult to find opportunities to cooperate with readers, Singapore is still the easiest one among many popular countries to study abroad. The accompanying reading policies in other countries are often very harsh. In Germany, France, New Zealand, Canada, Britain and other countries, there is no clear visa for accompanying students, but parents and relatives can accompany students abroad by applying for a visit visa, which usually lasts for three months. Some countries stipulate that people with multiple entry and exit records can be relaxed to half a year, but these countries are not allowed to accompany readers to work.

Most countries stipulate that the application for accompanying readers must have a certain amount of bank deposits as a deposit to ensure the safety of funds during the accompanying reading period.

You should be fully prepared to accompany students studying abroad.

Before studying abroad, you must make full psychological preparations. Although some parents have good jobs and high academic qualifications in China, once they go abroad, they can only work as waiters and cashiers. And even become a full-time housewife. This huge psychological gap, not everyone can bear; If the family's financial situation is not good, the accompanying mother will also bear greater pressure.

Nevertheless, the benefits of accompanying students should not be concealed. Many people in the field of studying abroad say that accompanying parents is beneficial to the care of underage international students and their children's daily lives, and can also eliminate the loneliness of young international students and avoid the lack of family ties. The most important thing is that parents can guide their children in study and psychology. Some young international students are in adolescence, and their rebellious psychology is relatively heavy. If parents are around, they can be guided accordingly so as not to lead their children astray.