Fragmentary reflections on the cloud accompanying my “big baby” in the senior year of high school

I just checked Weibo and saw the notice from the Ministry of Education: "In principle, the third grade of high school will start at the same time in the provinces." Then I took a screenshot and gave it to my sister and told her: "It's really super fair. At this time What I can do is overtake in corners.”

According to my past month of cloud companionship (remote companionship, I have returned to work, crying~~~)

1. I actually passed the college entrance examination. It's not a score, it's a ranking.

No matter how the college entrance examination question types change, it is actually the first time for everyone to encounter new question types. All we can do is to learn the basic knowledge solidly, because I feel that the questions remain true to their original principles. The annual enrollment of Peking University and Tsinghua University in Shandong will not change significantly. To put it bluntly, the enrollment numbers are ranked from the first in the province to the bottom. If you are ranked, you will be admitted. If you are not ranked, you will choose other colleges and universities.

But in fact, I also care about my sister’s grades, such as test scores, class ranking, school ranking, etc. After all, when I really transition from a student to a sister who gives advice to my sister, as a parent, I don’t have to worry about it. It's impossible to care.

I think the most important thing is that the eldest child in the family must understand clearly: the higher the ranking in the college entrance examination (in fact, the higher the score!), the more choices there are.

When they reach the age of 17 or 18, choosing a school after the college entrance examination is really the first major choice in their lives. This means that the direction of their future life path is a first-tier city. The world I saw when I was a junior college student was definitely different from that of a junior college student in my small hometown. Because as darlings who were born and raised in Pingyi, their concepts of Tsinghua University, Peking University, Fudan University and even Shanghai Jiaotong University are definitely different from the actual ones. Even if you can't go to these schools, the new ideas and concepts you come into contact with in the same city are different from those in a small town. This seems to be a bit off track.

In my humble opinion, life has always been a process of constant choices, and different options mean different life trajectories. Opportunities for major choices are rare, and the number of times you can encounter them in your life is also limited to a handful. All you can do is be fully prepared before this opportunity comes.

What is adequate preparation for the darlings in their senior year of high school? Just try your best to give yourself more choices. (That is, try your best to rank high in the college entrance examination.)

But! Regardless of whether you do well in the exam or not, this is just an important choice in life for your brothers and sisters aged 17 or 18. It does not mean that your life will be over if you fail in the exam. It would be great if you can learn from your failure in the college entrance examination, work hard, and be fully prepared before the next choice comes!

2. During this special period, when schools are unable to reopen, what parents can do for their big baby, who is in his third year of high school, is certainly not only to provide the big baby with good food and drink, but also to provide a good learning environment. I think And some company.

In fact, I have just graduated from school less than a year ago. I know that learning is not an easy task. In addition, society is developing so fast now. Tablets, smart phones, short videos, and various entertainment methods will definitely provide endless temptations to these big babies in adolescence. Studying is hard and tiring. Not only do they think it, but I feel the same now that I am working. Even many times I cannot resist the temptation of mobile phones, so studying itself is a very hard thing. Some older babies may be in a bad mood at home during this period, and may even be resistant to learning. At this time, we as parents need to help the big babies resolve their confusion. For example, ask him/her why he/she feels annoyed, and then talk to them about the importance of studying hard at home in special times based on his/her own life experience.

But sometimes forcing yourself to do so may be counterproductive!

Sometimes my sister will be depressed and complain to me. At this time, I will usually endure a very "hating iron cannot become steel" temper and ask her why she feels decadent and why she doesn't want to study, and then I suggest she change her learning ideas (after all, no matter what method she uses, as long as she is willing to learn and her knowledge accumulation is improving, the general direction must be good).

For example, recently my sister feels that the plan cannot adapt to her teaching progress. She feels sad and cannot control her own learning progress.

Then the method I gave is to try to arrange your own study plan according to the teaching progress, and agree to summarize with her every night, "After today, tell each other one thing that makes you feel most satisfied." This method I The original intention is to let my sister find fun in her study plan, even just a little bit.

The last less than 100 days will definitely be the hardest, most tiring and most unsustainable time. If you can’t enjoy the hardships and persevere at this time, then the past ten years of hard study will be lost. What's the point? It is also important to give your eldest baby some companionship every day and give them some chicken blood when appropriate!

3. Finally, let me give you some advice after going to college. This is something I have learned deeply recently: learning is lifelong. Don’t think that you can let yourself go after going to college. Otherwise, you will only make the first choice, and you may miss the second or even third choice!

Finally, I wish all the parents present here that their eldest children can seize this opportunity, overtake in corners, and be named on the gold list!