Civil Affairs Bureau slogan Marriage is not equal to happiness.

A few years ago, the cover of the divorce certificate was changed from "green" to "red", which seemed to show that divorce was also something to celebrate.

Recently, Weibo hot search, a civil affairs bureau's new advertising language "marriage is not necessarily happy, single is not necessarily unhappy. We were born lonely and could not leave at the same time. Love is a spiritual luxury, and we can live without it. " Directly hit the concept of marriage and love after 90.

Some people say that this is the Civil Affairs Bureau encouraging everyone to be single?

Actually, it's not. I think what the Civil Affairs Bureau wants to convey to everyone is that there are happy people, unhappy people, single people, happy people and unhappy people when they get married.

Happiness or not depends on your ability to get happiness. Getting married or not depends on your understanding of marriage! Recognize your goals and find ways to achieve them!

What is the standard of happiness?

According to Maslow's five-level theory of needs, 1, physiological needs; 2. Safety requirements; 3. Social needs; 4. Respect for needs; 5. Self-realization needs; In ascending order.

Everyone grows up in different environments, and their needs are also very different. Some people think that as long as they can meet the most primitive and basic needs, they will be happy if they have no worries about food and clothing. Some people will think that I want to make more friends, and friends can bring me happiness. Others think that I need to realize myself and make contributions to society, so everyone feels differently and there is no uniform standard.

Some people say that being single is good, you can earn money to support yourself, have your own house and car, go shopping and chat with friends in your spare time, and life will not be boring at all.

Some people say that marriage is good, and single people are duckweeds, floating and uncertain. People still have to belong, and they will feel very happy to see their children and husbands after a busy day. Each has its own advantages, and no one has to convince anyone.

I often meet many consultants who ask me, "Teacher Yu, should I divorce/get married now?" I want to tell you that when you think being with TA is better than being single, you should marry TA. When you two are together, it makes you feel very painful. It's not as happy as when you were single. Then you should divorce. All decisions should be made after careful consideration, not on impulse.

Some people also ask: Is it necessary to get married after the age of 30? The answer can be yes or no.

Yes or no, it all depends on your heart! Some people have a good life without marriage, while others have a messy marriage. What is the most important thing for a person? Know what you want. Standing at the age of 30 is not a boundary, nor does it stipulate that you must get married after 30. The old saying "standing at 30" does not mean getting married at 30, but letting us find the direction of life and know what we want.

Marriage is not necessarily happy, and being single is not necessarily unhappy. As an independent person, you should dare to face your true self instead of "following the crowd". Everyone else is married, so should we.

If you get married for the sake of marriage, the chances of unhappy marriage will be greater. Emotion is the foundation of marriage, and management is the way to a happy marriage. Only when two people cherish and love each other can they know each other for life.