Nothing But Thirty: Why is failure just an opportunity for me? Let me put it another way.

In our China people's mind, failure is very bad, but in fact, to succeed, failure is often our best help.

how to do it? This paper gives four concrete action suggestions, through which we can have a more objective understanding of failure. I believe that after reading it, you can have different methods and attitudes when facing failure, just like Gu Jia in the play. First, the concept-understand the plasticity of the brain

build the concept that the ability is plastic.

The traditional idea is that people's ability is fixed, and they pay attention to personal talent, IQ and so on.

People's knowledge and ability are essentially specific combinations and connections of neurons in the brain. Now the research of brain neuroscience proves that the human brain is highly plastic. Whether learning knowledge or training skills will cause the reorganization of neurons and change the structure of the brain, thus changing our abilities.

Scientists have done a study on drivers in London. Because the traffic in London is very complicated, taxi drivers need to remember a lot of information about the road sections. Scientists have found that the hippocampus that taxi drivers are responsible for memorizing is larger than the average person. That is to say, through constant memory, the part of the brain responsible for memory will change, which will further strengthen people's memory ability.

In essence, every learning process is like this. Repeated learning will strengthen specific neural links in the brain and eventually become familiar skills.

The plasticity of the brain tells us that a person's abilities and skills can be acquired by learning the day after tomorrow. What we can't learn today doesn't mean that we can't learn in the future. Basically, almost all our skills in work and life can be acquired through deliberate practice.

This is true whether it is a new language, a musical instrument or a new method.

So, if you are lacking in some skills or want to learn something new, you can definitely reach the professional level only if you use the right methods and invest time and energy. Second, cognition-give up the obsession with absolute correctness

One reason why most people dare not act is that they are afraid that their ideas are wrong and always want to make sure they are correct.

The modern society is so complicated and changeable that no one can guarantee that his ideas will always be correct.

Take Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, as an example. He invented the iPhone that changed the world, but do you remember what Steve Jobs said about the classic iPhone at that time?

First, the iPhone does not need 3G network, because Wi-Fi is everywhere in the United States, and 3G modules are dispensable;

second, the IPhone doesn't need an App, which means it doesn't need a mobile app. Because the iPhone has made the experience of browsing the web very good for the first time, everyone can just use the application on the web page directly;

Third, Jobs always said that the iPhone doesn't need a big screen, because the mobile phone that can be controlled with one hand is the most elegant.

Let's look at these three predictions now. One of the greatest entrepreneurs of our time, sometimes he predicted the future very wildly.

So we can't get everything right, and we can't get all the knowledge at the beginning. Many people know many things through practice and trial and error step by step, and then we slowly find the correct answer.

For example, in the history of science, the earliest geocentric theory, the cosmology from Heliocentrism to the present; From Newton's universal gravitation to Einstein's general theory of relativity, and finally to the present quantum mechanics, all these have evolved step by step. From the present point of view, it was wrong before, but can we deny the value of previous scientific research results?

Teacher Wu Bofan calls this evolutionary cognitive process "searchlight-style cognition". Every step we take, we will see more scenery and know things more clearly. Third, action-give up perfectionism and refuse to procrastinate

Many people dare not take risks, largely because they are worried that they will not do well at first, and gradually become procrastination.

it is impossible for anyone to do something well at once.

Learning new things, mastering new skills, and starting new projects all need a process from entry to mastery, and no one can easily be perfect at the beginning.

Liu Qiangdong didn't understand many things when he founded JD.COM. The earliest website was made by himself and didn't even have a webmaster. As a result, the website was destroyed by hackers only a few days later. When the company started to invest, Liu Qiangdong knew nothing about financing. Today, Xin Xu of Capital asked Liu Qiangdong about the company's valuation. As a result, Liu Qiangdong asked Finance to calculate the company's net assets to the other party, but these did not prevent Liu Qiangdong from making JD.COM one of the most successful e-commerce companies.

at the beginning of doing something, we should accept our ignorance and clumsiness, because all people who do it have to go through this process just like you.

The well-known theorem of "1, hours for geniuses" tells us that it takes 1, hours to master any skill, even for geniuses like Bill Gates and Mozart.

those seemingly effortless operations actually put a lot of hard work and sweat behind them.

As the saying goes, "Ten minutes on stage, ten years off stage."

because of this, those successful people who have experienced these things will never laugh at others, on the contrary, they will encourage you to support you.

Only those bystanders who do nothing will laugh at others. These people are losers themselves, so ignore them.

at the beginning of Zuckerberg's business, he posted a slogan on the office wall of Facebook: completion is more important than perfection. This code of conduct is to motivate employees to act quickly.

if you have any ideas, then act as soon as possible! Fourth, the result-understand the value of failure

Even if you are really wrong and you fail, there is nothing to be afraid of.

failure is not terrible, and every successful person will encounter failure. We need to correctly understand the value of failure. Failure just tells us that the current method doesn't work, and we can learn from it, which will become the ladder of our success.

Duan Yongji said: "The experience summarized when a person succeeds is often distorted, and the experience and lessons summarized when he fails are the most real."

Successful people can sum up experiences and lessons from their own failures and improve their ability to do things.

after the failure of the first venture, Shi Yuzhu comprehensively reflected on his previous problems, such as self-expansion, blind expansion, diversification, fund management and so on. When starting a second venture, Shi Yuzhu avoided all his previous mistakes and never made the same mistakes again, so Shi Yuzhu's career was smooth sailing.

For example, before the Giant Group, there were up to 3 million bad debts, and more than 2 million were sold on credit. Later, Shi Yuzhu paid special attention to cash flow, and all the products were cash-settled. If you didn't want to, you wouldn't cooperate. Melatonin sold several billion dollars, but there was not a penny.

Shi Yuzhu said: "When a person grows fastest, it is often in adversity."

Those successful people will gain valuable knowledge and experience from it, and every setback is a ladder for their growth.

Wang Xing of Meituan constantly summed up his experience from the failures of intranet (later Renren) and Fanfan, and then created the later Meituan, and achieved the final success.

Mei Tuan Wang Xing

The opposite of success is not failure, but mediocrity. The saddest thing in life is not failure. The terrible thing is that you have never worked hard for your dreams.