New slogan of the Civil Affairs Bureau: Marriage does not necessarily mean happiness, and singleness does not necessarily mean unhappy

New slogan of the Civil Affairs Bureau: Marriage is not necessarily happy, and single is not necessarily unhappy. In the past few years, the cover of the divorce certificate was changed from "green" to "red", seeming to express that divorce is also a Something worth celebrating. A recent hot search on Weibo shows a new slogan from a certain local civil affairs bureau: "Marriage is not necessarily happy, and being single is not necessarily unhappy. We are born as one person, and we cannot leave at the same time in the end. Love is a spiritual luxury, and there is no way to live without it." OK." It directly addresses the views on marriage and love of the post-90s generation. Some people say that this is the Civil Affairs Bureau encouraging everyone to be single? Actually, no, I think what the Civil Affairs Bureau wants to convey to everyone is that there are happy people and unhappy people who are married, and there are happy people and unhappy people who are single. Whether you are happy or not depends on your ability to achieve happiness. Whether you get married or not depends on your understanding of marriage! Just recognize your goals and find ways to achieve them! What is the standard of happiness? According to Maslow In terms of the five hierarchy of needs theory, 1. Physiological needs; 2. Safety needs; 3. Social needs; 4. Esteem needs; 5. Self-actualization needs; in increasing order. Everyone grows up in a different environment, and their needs vary widely. Some people think that as long as the most primitive and basic needs can be met, such as food and clothing, they will be happy. Some people think that I want to have more friends because friends can bring me happiness. Some people think that I need to realize myself and contribute to society, so everyone’s feelings are different and there is no unified standard. Some people say that it is good to be single. I can make money to support myself, have my own house and car, go shopping and chat with friends in my free time, etc., and life will not be boring at all. Some people say that it is better to get married. A single person is like a duckweed, floating and uncertain. People still need to belong to someone. After a busy day, seeing children and husband will make you feel very happy. Everyone has his own merits, and no one needs to convince anyone. I often meet many counselors who ask me, "Teacher Yu, should I divorce/get married now?" I want to tell everyone that when you feel that being with them is worse than being single alone, then you should be with them. Get married; when the two of you are together and it makes you feel miserable and not as happy as when you are single, then you should divorce. All decisions should be made with careful consideration, not impulsiveness. Some people also ask: Is marriage a necessity after the age of thirty? The answer may be yes or no. Yes or no, it all depends on your heart! Some people live very well without marriage, while some people live in a mess even if they are married. What is the most important thing for a person? It is to know what he wants. Thirty is established, but it is not a limit, nor does it stipulate that you must get married after the age of thirty. The ancient saying "getting married at thirty" does not mean getting married at the age of thirty, but it allows us to find the direction of life and know what we want. Marriage is not necessarily happy, and being single is not necessarily unhappy. As an independent person, we should dare to face our true selves instead of "following the crowd". When others are married, we should also get married. If you get married for the sake of getting married, then the chances of an unhappy marriage will be greater. Emotion is the foundation of marriage, and management is the key to a happy marriage. Only when two people pity and love each other can they know each other and stay together for a lifetime.