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In any civilized society and civilized nation, people always attach great importance to politeness. Because politeness is one of the moral norms of human society to promote friendly and harmonious interpersonal communication, and it is also a bridge to build harmony with others. It marks the civilized process of a society and reflects the spiritual outlook of a nation. The Chinese nation has always attached great importance to observing etiquette and treating people with courtesy. These interesting experiences, past and present, are very enlightening. Specifically, there are two main points:

(1) Be kind to others. Get along with others, be a good person first. And this "goodness" should be sincere from the heart, sincere in the middle and formal in appearance, not rhetoric and red tape. The Book of Rites says, "Those who treat their husbands with courtesy have an inferiority complex and respect others" (Note: Book of Rites Quli Shang). It is not enough if you are respectful and enthusiastic on the surface, but hypocritical on the inside, or just respectful on the inside, but without expression. Should be consistent in appearance, in order to fundamentally eliminate the barriers and frictions between people, and then respect and care for each other and get along well with each other. To respect others, we must treat others equally, regardless of rank or rank. If you only pay homage to the upper class, take people with financial power and take people with interests, it is actually what villains do. The Analects of Confucius, Zi Han, recorded that Confucius saw people wearing mourning clothes, hats and dresses and blind people. As soon as they met, even if these people were young, Confucius would stand up. When walking in front of others, you must walk very fast to show your respect. The ancients also had some ways to respect others. First of all, we should respect the wishes of others, understand their needs and taboos, and don't force others to do so. Don't ask others to do what they can't do, and don't ask others to accept what they don't like. The ancients said, "Don't blame others for not doing as well as yourself, not being strong for others, and not suffering for being bad for others" (Note: Wen Zi Wei Xiang). "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you (Note: Yan Yuan, Analects of Confucius)" means this. Humor and well-meaning jokes can often bring people relaxed and happy in the communication with people, but never make fun of them. It is very disrespectful to make jokes about other people's names or give them indecent nicknames. In the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Yan Zhitui once commented on this disrespect and resentment: "Fools in this world play with each other. Or those who are called dolphins and calves, knowledgeable, onlookers, and want to cover their ears, the situation is right. "

(2) reciprocity. Politeness is an important criterion for being polite to others. In other words, to accept the kindness of others, we must reciprocate with the same courtesy. In this way, interpersonal communication can go on in a virtuous circle in an equal and friendly way. Therefore, the Book of Rites said: "It is indecent to return the courtesy, but not to come; It is also impolite to come and not go "(Note: On the Book of Rites and Quli). For the benefactor, it should be a drop of water, and the spring will repay each other. In the eyes of the ancients, nothing hurts more than ingratitude. Confucius said: "Good for good, good for people"; "Good for evil, the people will be rewarded." . It can be seen that "repaying kindness with kindness" is the basic moral cultivation of treating people with things. Of course, the politeness of communication should also be moderate. The original intention of giving gifts is to show respect and answer. The so-called gifts are light and heavy, not the more the better. As the article "Zhuangzi Sanmu" said: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as water; A gentleman is indifferent to his relatives, but a villain is willing to give up. Joining for no reason will also leave for no reason. "

Fourth, the instrument has integrity.

A person's appearance and behavior are the expression of his accomplishment and civilization. The ancients believed that solemn etiquette, moderation in advance and retreat, honoring deacons and being gentle and gentle can not only safeguard personal dignity, but also contribute to learning morality. Ancient thinkers once compared the fur of animals with the appearance of people. Animals without fur can't be animals. People lose their manners, that is, they are not people. The ancient people's requirements for musical instruments are inevitably too complicated. The most important of these are the following three aspects.

(1) Dress and appearance: Disciple's rules require: "The crown must be straight, the knot must be tied, and the socks and shoes must be tight." These norms are still necessary for modern people. Proper knotting of hats and strict cutting of shoes and socks are the basic requirements of the concept of musical instrument category. If a person is disheveled and his shoes and socks are not straight, it will often make people feel disgusted or even disgusting. Who will be close to such a person? Of course, the dress must be suitable for your occupation, age, physiological characteristics, living environment and the customs of the people you contact, and make a decent and generous choice. Make-up and affectation will only backfire.

(2) Behavior: Confucius said: "A gentleman is not strong if he is not heavy, and his learning is not solid" (Note: "The Analects of Confucius"). This is because only solemnity has majesty. Otherwise, even if you study, you can't consolidate it. The specific requirements are "stand like a pine, sit like a bell, walk like the wind and lie like a bow", that is, stand straight, sit steady, move neatly and sleep sideways. You should not be frivolous or profane in public, but be solemn, cautious and calm, so that "see no evil, don't listen to indecent assault, don't speak indecent assault, don't move indecent assault" (Note: The Analects of Yan Yuan) conforms to etiquette norms everywhere. (3) Speech rhetoric: Language is a mirror of people's thoughts, emotions and cultural accomplishment. The ancients said that "words are sincere, so they are also useful" (note: text). It makes sense to take sincere revision of words as the foundation of career. And we must "keep our word" (note: The Analects of Confucius Lutz). It is impossible to win the trust of a glib person. The second is to be cautious. The ancients said that man was born for heaven, and his tongue was tightly wrapped with two rows of teeth, and his lips were covered with a thick layer, which means that people must be careful what they say. Of course, the ancients did not ask people to talk less, but to speak according to the specific situation. Speak when you speak, and be silent when you are silent. Confucius said, "Those who can talk without talking will lose others.": Don't talk to it in words, it's rude. He who knows does not lose his person, and he who speaks does not lose his words "(Note: The Analects of Wei Linggong). That's the truth.

The above aspects are the essence of traditional etiquette in China. Although the times have changed, the ancients' attention to gfd and their requirements for neatness and beauty are still worth learning today. External image is a silent language, which reflects a person's moral cultivation and also conveys a person's internal attitude towards the whole life. He has an elegant appearance. Wherever he goes, he brings the spring breeze of civilization there and is respected by people. There is no doubt that traditional etiquette civilization has a positive impact on the social and historical development of our country. Generally speaking, the more civilized and polite people are, the more harmonious and stable society will be. If each of us is well educated, polite and disciplined, our life will be happier, and the country and society will be more orderly and civilized. From this perspective, etiquette has played a role that politics and law can't. For a long time, the essence and dross of a large number of etiquette culture are in a state of mutual penetration and coexistence, and the dross of etiquette culture has a negative effect that cannot be underestimated. We ignore the traditional etiquette and civilization, a precious spiritual wealth. For a long time, society and schools have not paid enough attention to etiquette education, and many uncivilized behaviors have also increased. In today's socialist spiritual civilization construction, we should base ourselves on absorbing the essence of national culture, make the traditional civilized etiquette serve the present and rebuild a set of modern civilized etiquette.

Table manners

Dong Wenshen

The culture on the dining table is commonly known as "drinking culture". In old Beijing, under the influence of society, economy, habits and environment, different families have formed their own dining table culture. Many families have "family banquet", "guest banquet" and "informal banquet" in the way of dining-family banquet refers to the banquet set by families for their own festivals and various festive activities; A guest banquet is a banquet for relatives and friends; It's common to have a common meal. All kinds of etiquette at the dinner table in old Beijing are very particular, which gradually reflects the values of old Beijing in the long years, and consciously or unconsciously constructs a dinner table culture with "courtesy", "filial piety", "virtue" and "teaching" as its contents.

"Li" refers to the etiquette and etiquette of drinking. It reflects the etiquette, ceremony and personal courtesy requirements formed by family moral concepts and customs. Family banquets and informal banquets should be based on "long" (parents and elders), and guest banquets should be based on "guests". So many rules have been formed to bind family members, especially children.

There are formal ceremonies and waiting ceremonies. Formal ceremony refers to the ceremony embodied in the form and atmosphere of etiquette, such as the choice of banquet place, the grade of etiquette, the creation of environment, the preparation of utensils, etc., all of which should reflect a kind of respect for guests. Ceremony refers to the etiquette of entertaining and serving guests. For example, the seating arrangement of banquets is based on the principle of seniority, respect from teachers and respect from afar, that is, the seating is arranged according to seniority, the tutor is given priority, the relatives and friends from afar are given priority, and the relatives and friends from poor families are given special care. The host should spend more time communicating with them, toast more and consciously introduce their "unique skills" to the guests. At the same time, the housekeeper and servants are strictly required not to treat these people ill.

Although every banquet depends on the identity of the guests and the characteristics of etiquette and customs, there are differences in the choice of dishes, quality grades and restaurants, but guests must never be allowed to pick out "no" Pay attention to etiquette in the whole process of greeting, toasting, talking, dining and farewell.

Before the banquet begins, the host should introduce the important guests to everyone and make a concise and enthusiastic toast; When opening a banquet, the host should personally pour the wine and propose a toast to the elders and guests in order, which cannot be forced; Take the initiative to pour wine for the guests who are not good at drinking and pay tribute to the guests; When providing food to guests, we should pay attention to the eating habits of guests, not many times and not much quantity, otherwise it will embarrass guests; The host should pay attention to the universality of mutual communication during the dinner, not to be hot and cold, and if there are female guests, pay more attention to the content of the conversation and respect for the female guests; The host can't put down the dishes and chopsticks in front of the guests, and can't leave the banquet before the guests say they have a good meal; The host should accompany the guest of honor, rinse his mouth and wash his hands before going to another seat for tea.

In addition, in front of the guests, the host can't reprimand the children and servants; If the host has an argument with the guest's children, the host should take his children away. No matter who is right or wrong, he should apologize to the other party, but he can't teach his children in front of the guests, otherwise the guests will feel uncomfortable.

Children are generally not allowed to attend banquets. I remember when I was a child, I asked my children to be polite, polite and educated. There are three things that are not allowed: no noise and chopsticks knocking on the table, no smacking, no false respect. The second grandma said that it was disgusting to hear squeaking while eating, and it was unbearable to show humility while eating. And let the child who coughs and burps continuously take the initiative to get off the table. Don't drag chairs and stools to avoid making harsh sounds. This is the requirement of silence; Second, it is forbidden to "talk". Children are not allowed to hold food first without their elders moving chopsticks. They are not allowed to put anything in their mouths. They are not allowed to wolf down their food. They are not allowed to stand up and take food that they can't reach. They are not allowed to use chopsticks to pick and rummage things on the plate. They are not allowed to stare at the food on the table while eating. They are not allowed to point at others with chopsticks. They are not allowed to throw things they don't like, and their mouths are dirty. The most taboo is that children directly insert chopsticks into their rice bowls; Third, children are absolutely not allowed to drink. At that time, the two grandmothers liked to play with the children, play some games at the dinner table, and give a performance if they lost. After dinner, they also want to show the children whose rice bowl and desktop are the cleanest, and the warm atmosphere at the dinner is very strong.

The "filial piety" family banquet pays attention to respecting the elderly and loving filial piety.

This kind of "filial piety" is not only the respect and respect of the younger generation to the older generation, but also the care of the older generation to the younger generation. Therefore, the younger generation will respect their elders more, be more filial to the elderly, and cast a sincere filial piety in everyone's heart.

"Virtue" is a kind of conduct, and family drinking requires "concession, moderation and frugality".

"Let" is to ask everyone to be humble to each other, not to rush to eat delicious food, to let others eat first, even if they all eat up, there can be no resentment, to be the first; "Degree" requires eating and drinking moderately, not overeating, and not persuading people to drink too much and get drunk. "Thrift" means to be thrifty and not to waste, especially to ask children not to waste food. The two grandmothers often told the banquet not to be extravagant. After the banquet, everyone should take home the dishes that have not been touched by chopsticks or served on the table.

"Teaching" means family education in drinking. Through example, I inherited the old rules and customs of my family. When having dinner with a tutor, grandma always asks several teachers to "give lectures" to her children and put forward new requirements for them according to social fashion. When I see bad phenomena, I will give them some suggestions to let the children know what to do and what not to do.

Influenced by courtesy, filial piety, morality and teaching, children have developed good eating habits, and then formed a table culture that attaches importance to form, psychology, behavior and inheritance, which is also a microcosm of old Beijing culture.

Campus etiquette

When it comes to caring for public property, some people may think it's a cliche, because I'm afraid even kindergarten children can say a few slogans such as "It's glorious to care for public property, it's shameful to destroy it" and "It's everyone's responsibility to care for public property".

But what have we done in real life? Careful observation reveals that vandalism can be found everywhere on campus: some students trample on the lawn in order to cut corners; Accidentally damaged the doors and windows of the classroom while playing football; Damaged the desks and chairs, railings and trash cans in the campus during outdoor sports; You often see all kinds of graffiti on desks and chairs ... Have you ever thought that whether intentionally or unintentionally, these behaviors have caused damage to public property, brought unnecessary troubles to other students' study and life, and increased the maintenance cost of school public property, which is not a small expense?

Every time you see these uncivilized behaviors, you may frown and mutter to yourself: wicked! Yes, what these people lack is "public morality", they don't talk about social morality, they don't obey the rules and discipline. They never realize that they are also the "owners" of these public properties, and they don't know that public properties are common items, and everyone has the obligation to take care of them.

"Without virtue, the people will not stand, and without virtue, the country will not prosper." Citizen's moral quality reflects a nation's mental state and affects the rise and fall of a nation's cause. A person's words and deeds often show the level of personal quality, which in turn affects the overall quality of the whole collective. Whether a citizen cares about public facilities can reflect a person's moral quality and school spirit. Generally speaking, it also reflects a country's civilization and national quality. The "Implementation Outline of Citizen's Moral Construction" promulgated by our country puts forward social morality with the main content of "being polite, helping others, caring for public property, protecting the environment and obeying the law". As citizens of China people, we should all regulate our behavior according to this requirement.

The ancients said: "Don't do it with small goodness, don't do it with small evils." In fact, caring for public property is also very simple to do. As long as you have a sense of public morality and abide by the rules and regulations of the school everywhere, you can ensure the integrity and normal use of public facilities.

Student etiquette

1. Students' appearance, appearance and behavior

Dress appropriately: the daily dress of primary and secondary school students should conform to the age characteristics, especially the student status, neat and generous.

Young Pioneers and * * * Communist Youth League members are required to wear red scarves or league chapters. Students don't wear makeup, don't wear makeup, don't perm, and boys don't have long hair.

Sit up straight when attending an assembly or listening to a lecture. Sit up straight: the head is straight and the neck is straight, and the upper body is basically perpendicular to the back of the chair. Upright: Hold your head up and chest out, with your upper body and legs perpendicular to the ground.

Walk steadily: walk with correct posture, moderate stride, steady and powerful. When walking in corridors and classrooms, walk slowly and gently; In the street, walk on the right; Don't shake your shoulders and hips, there are not many people walking side by side.

Civilized manners: it is a comprehensive requirement of appearance. When talking with people, be sincere in attitude and civilized in language. Dealing with people, natural expression, generous action.

2. Students' body language etiquette

Smile: it is a sign of being friendly to others, without showing teeth and slightly upturned corners of the mouth.

Bowing: it is the etiquette of subordinates to superiors, juniors to elders and individuals to groups. When bowing, take off your hat, stand at attention, look at each other, smile, then lean forward, bend naturally and look down. Sometimes in order to express deep gratitude, the upper body can lean forward deeper.

Handshake: It is the most commonly used etiquette when meeting or saying goodbye to people, and it is also the etiquette to express gratitude, sympathy, congratulations or encouragement.

Stand up before shaking hands, take off gloves and shake hands with your right hand.

When shaking hands, look at each other and smile.

Under normal circumstances, you don't have to shake hands hard, just shake them. Old friends can hold hands deeper and longer, or shake hands while greeting.

Many people shake hands at the same time, don't cross, wait for others to shake hands before reaching out and shaking hands in turn.

Wave: Raise your hand and nod when you see an acquaintance or a farewell guest in a public place.

Applause: It is polite to express joy, welcome and thanks. Hands should beat each other rhythmically, and applause should be timely and moderate.

Right salute: Walk on campus, walk on the right when going up and down stairs, corridors or streets. When teachers, guests, elders, children, women, disabled people and soldiers enter and leave the gate, take the initiative to open the door and stand aside and let them go first.

3. Basic etiquette for students to communicate and talk with others.

Honorable address (honorific address): Elders, friends or strangers address you as "you". Teachers and social workers should be addressed by their titles or "teachers", "masters", "uncles" and "aunts", rather than by their first names.

Say "please" when asking others; Say "hello" when greeting people; Say "goodbye" when breaking up with others; Say "I'm sorry" when giving people trouble; When others thank themselves, reply "it doesn't matter"; When you get help from others, say "thank you".

4. Ways to raise the national flag and sing the national anthem

Students attending the ceremony should dress neatly, button their clothes and trousers, put on red scarves, take off their hats and stand at attention facing the flagpole. Don't talk, walk or do anything else. When raising the national flag and playing the national anthem, greet the national flag with a team ceremony or an eye-catching ceremony until it reaches the top of the pole.

Young Pioneers' joining ceremony: stand at attention, put your right hand and fingers together, hold your head up and hold your chest high, and stare at the recipient, indicating that the interests of the people are above everything else.

The national anthem is the national symbol of music. When singing the national anthem, you should stand at attention, look straight ahead, look solemn, have correct lyrics, accurate tone and loud voice.

5. Students' etiquette at school

When you see a teacher for the first time when you enter school, you should stop, bow to attention and say hello: "Hello, teacher!" " ""hello, headmaster! "When there are many people, you can nod and say hello; When you meet your classmates, you can nod and wave.

Stand up after class. Stand on one side of the seat, hands droop naturally, and pay attention to the teacher.

Please raise your hand before you prepare to ask or answer questions in class. The correct action is: sit on the seat, put your right elbow on the table, raise your upper arm, put your right fingers together, and put your fingertips up. Wait until the teacher allows you to stand up and speak.

Go into the teacher's office or dormitory, shout "report" or knock at the door. The people in the room heard it in a moderate voice. In social intercourse, you must knock before entering other people's rooms. You are not allowed in without permission.

6. Students welcome etiquette

When guests visit, they should stand up and greet with a smile, and take the initiative to say "hello!" " ""welcome! "Stand up when answering questions from guests. Offer seats and deliver water for guests; Guests should avoid talking to their parents; The guest left, got up and walked to the door.

7. Students' etiquette at home

Please sit down before taking your place, and be polite to others when eating.

Before leaving home, say hello to your parents: "I'm leaving, goodbye!" " "Go home and say, I'm back! " "

When parents leave home or return home, take the initiative to greet and hand over items.

Instrument etiquette

Makeup etiquette

1. The strength of makeup depends on the time and occasion.

2. Don't make up in public places.

Don't make up in front of men.

4. Don't criticize other people's makeup.

5. Don't borrow other people's cosmetics.

6. Men should not wear too much makeup.

Clothing and its etiquette

1. Pay attention to the characteristics of the times and embody the spirit of the times;

2. Pay attention to personal personality characteristics

It should conform to your figure.

Three taboos of white-collar women

1. Hairstyles are too trendy and taboo.

2. Hair is taboo.

3. make-up is too exaggerated and taboo

4. Taboo of green face and white lips

5. Clothes are too fashionable and taboo

6. Dressing up is too sexy and taboo

7. Play the "black woman" taboo every day

Step on "platform shoes"

Four Taboos of Chopsticks

Generally, when we use chopsticks, the correct way to use chopsticks is to hold chopsticks with the right hand, hold the upper end of chopsticks with the thumb and forefinger, and hold chopsticks with the other three fingers naturally bent, and the two ends of chopsticks must be aligned. In the use process, chopsticks must be placed neatly on the right side of the rice bowl before eating, and must be placed neatly in the middle of the rice bowl after eating. But it is absolutely forbidden to use the following twelve kinds of chopsticks.

1, three long and two short:

This means putting chopsticks on tables of different lengths before or during meals. This is unlucky. Usually we call it "three long and two short". It means "death". Because people in China used to think that people should be put into coffins after death, and people put them into coffins before they cover coffins. Coffins are made up of two short boards, with three long boards at the bottom of both sides. The coffins made of five boards together just happened to have any accident, so it is extremely unlucky.

2. The fairy guide way:

This practice is also extremely unacceptable. This method of holding chopsticks is to hold chopsticks with thumb and middle finger, ring finger and little finger, and the index finger is extended. This is called "cursing the street" in the eyes of Beijingers. Because when you eat, your index finger sticks out and always points at others. When Beijingers generally extend their index fingers to each other, most of them have the meaning of accusation. Therefore, pointing at people while eating with chopsticks is tantamount to accusing others, just like swearing, which is not allowed. There is another situation that means the same thing, that is, talking to others and pointing at people with chopsticks while eating.

3, pin sound:

This practice is not good either. The practice is to put one end of chopsticks in your mouth, carry it with your mouth, and hiss from time to time. This kind of behavior is considered a despicable trick. Because it is impolite to eat chopsticks with your mouth, and it is even more annoying when accompanied by sound. Therefore, this practice is generally considered to be the lack of family education and is not allowed.

4. Knock on the cup:

This kind of behavior is considered as a beggar begging, and its practice is to knock on vegetables with chopsticks while eating. Because in the past, only beggars hit the begging bowl with chopsticks, and the sound was accompanied by crying in their mouths, which would attract the attention of pedestrians and give alms. This practice is considered extremely contemptible and contemptuous by others.

5. Hold a city tour:

This practice is to do it with chopsticks in hand, and patrol the dishes on the table with chopsticks. I don't know where to buy chopsticks. This kind of behavior is a typical lack of self-cultivation, and arrogance is extremely disgusting.

6. Dig a grave:

This refers to holding chopsticks in a dish in order to find prey, just like a grave robber. This practice is similar to "visiting the city", which is both uneducated and boring.

7. Tears and beads:

In fact, this is when you pick up the dishes on your plate with chopsticks, your hands are clumsy, and the soup spills into other dishes or on the table. This practice is considered to be a serious faux pas, and it is also undesirable.

8. Reverse dry Kun:

That is to say, it is very despised to use chopsticks upside down when eating. Never knock chopsticks down because you are so hungry that you don't care about your face.

9. Shenzhen Dinghai:

It is not good to hold the dishes on the plate with chopsticks when eating, which is a shame to the diners at the same table. Making such a move while eating is tantamount to putting up the middle finger in public in Europe, which means the same thing, and this is unacceptable.

10, burning incense in public:

Often out of kindness, when helping others to fill their meals, it is convenient to put a pair of chopsticks in their meals and hand them to each other. It is regarded as disrespectful by people, because the tradition in Beijing is to do this when offering incense to the dead. If you insert a pair of chopsticks into your rice, it will be regarded as the same as offering incense to the dead. Therefore, it is absolutely unacceptable to put chopsticks in a bowl.

1 1, cross:

This is often overlooked, and chopsticks are casually crossed on the table when eating. This is not right, because Beijingers think that ten marks at the dinner table are a total denial of others at the same table, just like the nature of the book in which students write wrong homework and are beaten by teachers is unacceptable to others. In addition, this practice is also disrespectful to oneself, because in the past, only ten sons were beaten when making a confession in a lawsuit, which is undoubtedly denying oneself, which is also unacceptable.

12, landing surprised God:

The so-called "landing" means accidentally dropping chopsticks on the ground, which is a serious rude performance. Because Beijingers think that all ancestors are buried underground and should not be disturbed, it is a great unfilial act to disturb the ancestors underground when chopsticks fall on the ground, so this kind of behavior is not allowed. But there is a way to break it. As soon as the chopsticks land, you should quickly draw a cross on the ground with the chopsticks that have landed according to the direction in which you sit. Its direction is east and west first, then north and south. It means that I am not a thing, I should not disturb my ancestors, and then I will pick up chopsticks and say that I should die at the same time.

Sitting etiquette

For ordinary people, they will pay more attention to the basic etiquette in life, and people will exercise restraint in public out of politeness to prevent themselves from showing impoliteness. Then in fact, the static beauty of public places-sitting etiquette is the most test of people, and it can also best reflect temperament and beauty.

Correct and standardized etiquette sitting posture requires dignity and elegance, giving people an elegant, steady and natural aesthetic feeling. Sitting, as a kind of etiquette, is divided into beauty, ugliness and elegance. The correct etiquette sitting posture requires "sitting like a clock", which means that people sit as straight as a clock, of course, the end here is up to the upper body.

(1) Sit gently, steadily and slowly. Go to your seat, turn around and sit down gently. If the chair is in the wrong position and needs to be moved, you should first move the chair to where you want to sit, and then sit down. It's against social etiquette to move around in a chair.

(2) The expression is calm and comfortable (lips are slightly closed, the jaw is miniature, and the face is calm and natural).

(3) The shoulders should be flat and relaxed, and the arms should be naturally bent on the legs, or placed on the armchair or sofa armrest, with the palms down.

(4) When sitting in a chair, stand up straight and chest out, and the upper body is naturally straight.

(5) Knees are naturally close together, legs are upright or placed sideways, and feet are close together or overlap or form a small "V" shape. A man's knees can be separated by one punch or so, and his feet can be slightly stepped or slightly divided to show the beauty of natural freedom, but he can't open his legs and feet at will, which will appear vulgar and arrogant. If you sit up for a long time, your legs can cross and overlap, but pay attention to the recovery of the upper thigh, with your toes down.

(6) Sitting in a chair, at least 2/3 of the chair should be filled, and the sofa with a wide seat should be at least 1/2. Don't lean back in the chair for at least 10 minutes after taking a seat. After a long time, you can lean back gently.

(7) When speaking, according to the direction of the speaker, turn the knees of the upper body to the speaker and keep the upper body straight, so as not to show inferiority, compliment and please. Pay attention to manners and respect others, but don't lose self-esteem.

(8) When leaving the seat, naturally and safely, step back half a step with your right foot, and then stand up.

(9) When a woman is seated, if it is a skirt, it is not elegant to slightly close the skirt by hand and then pull the skirt after sitting down. It is polite to sit on the left side of the chair in formal occasions and leave it when you leave your seat. The lady should sit gracefully, quietly and gently, with her legs together, her feet on the left or right at the same time, and her hands folded on her left and right legs. If you are sedentary, you can cross and overlap your legs, but you should pay attention to the recovery of your thighs. The toe down gives people a noble and generous feeling.

(10) When men and women need to sit sideways, they should turn their upper body and legs to the same side at the same time, but keep their heads forward.

(1 1) As a lady, the choice of sitting position depends on the height of the chair and whether there are handrails and backrest. There are many ways to swing your hands, legs and feet, but it is not advisable to cross your legs or cross your legs.

(12) The most suitable way to sit in a restaurant is to sit on the left. When the chair is opened, the body will stand up straight at a distance that almost touches the table. The leader pushes the chair in, and the legs bend and touch the chair behind, so you can sit down. After sitting, sit upright, and your upper body can lean on the back of the chair. Don't put your cheeks or elbows on the table with your hands. Don't often leave the table or move your seat. When eating, your upper arms and back should lean on the back of the chair, and your abdomen should keep a fist distance from the table. It is best to avoid sitting with your feet crossed.

(13) Sitting in jeans, sit sideways first, with one foot supporting the body weight and the ankle of the other foot resting on the toe of this foot. You can also sit cross-legged, with your toes up and your hands naturally on your knees. If you sit on the sofa, you don't have to be too restrained, just sit naturally and keep an elegant sitting posture.

After sitting, sit upright, but not stiff. Don't put your cheeks or elbows on the table with your hands. Don't tamper with tableware and napkins at will, and avoid some impolite behaviors, such as taking off your coat, tie and sleeves at will; Speak with lively gesticulations, often leave the table, or move your seat; Headrest, yawning, stretching, rubbing eyes, scratching hair, etc.