Express yourself in nonviolent communication language.

? In intimate relationships, we want to be ourselves, but we hope to achieve it by respecting others. Even if others don't particularly respect us, we want to establish a relationship with them, but we don't want to get caught up in their way of doing things. So how do we do this? It is suggested that we should express ourselves firmly and confidently in order to achieve these two points. Non-violent communication is a very firm and confident language. We can speak loudly and clearly about our feelings, needs and what we want from others. Although we are firm and confident, we can't do two things, because these two years will turn confidence into violence. In nonviolent communication, we affirm ourselves, but we don't criticize others. In nonviolent communication language, we never say anything to imply that the other party is wrong. By "error" we mean similar expressions-inappropriate and insensitive to power-which actually include any words that distinguish or classify each other.

? Therefore, in nonviolent communication, we should learn to speak our inner thoughts firmly and confidently, and tell others what we want them to do firmly and confidently in nonviolent communication language, because we still have wonderful art. However, we show it to each other in the form of requests rather than orders. Because once people hear our news, such as criticism or orders, they will feel that we don't attach importance to their needs as much as we do to our own-when others think that we are just doing what we want to do-we lose, because then they won't have so much energy to consider our needs in Beijing, and most of their energy will be used for defense or resistance.

I want to say that the most basic human need and the most wonderful feeling for everyone is the joy when we see that we have the ability to enrich our lives. If people pay voluntarily, I have never met anyone who doesn't like to pay for others. I believe that once people believe that I am not trying to force them to do anything, they will be willing to pay for others. We can make the dance of nonviolent communication never stop, and we can continue to share each other's feelings and needs at home. I really hope this is happening.