Two success models: "I must win" and "I can't be greedy"

Pu Songling has a famous inspirational couplet: where there is a will, there is a way, burn one's bridges, 102 Qin Guan will eventually be Chu; Hard-working people are rewarded by heaven, and they have tasted courage. More than 3,000 armour can swallow Wu.

Pu Songling encouraged himself with this pair of couplets and insisted on writing Liaozhai, one of the representative works of China's classical literature.

In fact, this couplet contains a well-known success model: always remember your goals and don't stop until you succeed.

Many so-called "success studies" preach the same truth, fanning the flames, almost crazy, and desperate to realize their ideals.

This model should be said to be very effective, and now it is widely adopted by many enterprises. Look at the cultural walls of those enterprises, and you will know that they are basically slogans like this: if you are not crazy, you will be old; You don't know how good you are until you push yourself to the edge of a cliff.

Many people did succeed with this model. This model is particularly effective for things that Pu Songling can do by one person.

However, in one-time games, this mode is very harmful and even life-threatening.

There was once a tightrope walker named Valenda in America who was invited to perform on an important occasion. According to Valenda's wife, before the performance, Valenda kept saying: This time is too important to fail. His wife had a bad feeling, and then he fell dead. Valenda's numerous successful performances before were all because he was sane and focused on the tightrope itself, regardless of the success or failure. This time, because all the people present were heavyweights, they suddenly felt anxious and lost, and something happened as a result. Psychologically speaking, this mentality of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss leads to abnormal performance is called the "Valenda effect".

In addition to walking a tightrope, there are all kinds of intellectual and sports competitions, and of course there are some cruel wars, all of which are one-off games. In other words, just this one chance, one slip may become eternal hatred. In this case, always thinking that I must win, I must win, is definitely not a good thing. In this case, the "Valenda effect" is very likely to work.

One-time competition, it is best to treat it with a normal heart, in order to play a normal level. This is a bit difficult, really difficult! But only in this way, there is no better way.

The myth of Go, Wu Qingyuan is a master of one-time game.

Wu Qingyuan used to play Japanese Go all over the world. However, many Japanese Go experts are unconvinced, saying that Wu Qingyuan's level is not necessarily higher than theirs, but he can withstand the temptation and keep breathing. Yes, you can resist the temptation and keep breathing. With this quality, Wu Qingyuan's lonely position in Japanese Weiqi field has been achieved.

Wu Qingyuan has a principle of playing chess with others, that is, "not greedy for victory". It is said that every time Wu Qingyuan plays chess, he has to read the Tao Te Ching to make his meaning clear. The opponent may not want to be as calm as water, but he just can't be like him. Wu Qingyuan's principle of "not being greedy for victory" coincides with the viewpoint in Sun Tzu's Art of War: the first battle is unbeaten, and the second battle is victorious. You can be unbeaten, but whether you can win or not depends on whether your opponent gives you a chance.

"I must win" and "Don't be greedy to win". What is your success model?