When chatting together, what do children hate most from their parents?

Children are simple and it is easy to take their parents' words seriously.

For those "repressive education" that parents think is to stimulate their children's progress, children either accept the denial in its entirety, or violently resist and go to a dead end.

A father in Thailand had a big fight with his son because his child was addicted to the Internet.

The angry father shouted to his son, "Don't live if you dare" and put the loaded pistol in front of his son. Unexpectedly, my son really pulled the trigger.

By the time his father came to his senses, his son had fallen to the ground and was out of breath.

Children hate these five sentences from their parents! Don't ruin the child with one more mouth.

In fact, what really killed his son was not a gun, but his father's radical words and deeds.

Just because of the impulse, a good home was destroyed. ...

So please parents, wake up! If it's really for the good of the children, be sure to go easy on them.

Coincidentally, in a certain issue of Metamorphosis, a pair of father and son with frequent contradictions also staged such a scene:

The father found the program group and wanted his son to change.

Because in the father's eyes, his son is rebellious and irritable and doesn't listen to his parents at all.

However, in the program, we found that this father is also a "mouth is not forgiving" character.

For example, he asked the children to wash the dishes, and the children did it honestly, even though they didn't want to.

Children hate these five sentences from their parents! Don't ruin the child with one more mouth.

After that, my father sat in the living room and criticized: "Before you let it go, you will be beaten if you don't do it, you know?" Can't you learn from your cousin? "

These words made the father and son full of gunpowder, and the son slammed the door.

Beating, belittling and scolding day after day, how can a child become a gentle, confident and sunny teenager in such a family environment?

Psychologists say that there are only two kinds of children who grow up under the education of beating and scolding.

One is introverted and self-abased, accustomed to pleasing others and accepting the outside world;

The other kind is irritable children, who are full of hatred, extremely rebellious and easy to take excessive actions against others.

As parents, who doesn't want their children to be outstanding and happy?

However, once the mentality of expecting success is excessive, the painstaking efforts of parents will become a shackle for children.

▼ "downgrade" encouragement

The Institute of Journalism and Communication of China Academy of Social Sciences and other institutions have published the Blue Book for Teenagers. Through the investigation of students in several cities, they sorted out "five sentences that children hate their parents most":

1. Go to study/do your homework!

2. Look at other people's children/look at others!

3. Don't watch mobile phones/TV/games!

4. Really useless/stupid!

5. You just play all day.

Children hate these five sentences from their parents! Don't ruin the child with one more mouth.

It is undeniable that behind these uncomfortable words, there are parents' spurs and expectations.

Many parents in the comment area said that this is encouraging children to make progress, awakening the sense of shame and making them work hard.

The imaginary spur effect is not achieved, but it makes children more disgusted and more likely to fall into self-doubt.

▼ "Degrade" modesty

Some parents not only seldom praise their children, but also can't face others' praise for their children.

For example, relatives and friends boast: "This child is really smart!"

Out of courtesy and modesty, some parents will immediately say, "Well, he can't, not as good as your child."

It's not that you can't see the bright spot of children, but that you are forced to belittle them for consideration and secularity.

But the words fell into the children's ears, which was too painful. Especially in front of outsiders, this negative lethality is enough to make him believe it.

Children will naturally have a low self-evaluation and dare not release their inner emotions.

▼ Self-projection of "Degeneration"

If parents themselves are not good enough and do not have enough right to speak in society, they will feel inferior and vent their work pressure on their children.

This situation is not common, but it does exist.

For example, Shen Wei, the "wandering master" of the previous fire, made a living by begging, but he was familiar with the classics of Chinese studies, with clear thinking and calm demeanor, which caused a lot of curiosity and onlookers.

However, Shen Wei commented on himself like this: "I feel depressed and I have been at a loss in front of my father since I was a child."

When he was a child, Shen Wei liked painting and loved human history, but his father hated it and banned it.

Shen Wei can only study according to his father's requirements since childhood.

Once he is found reading his favorite book, his father will scold him, brainwash him and say, "You will be worthless in this life."

Later, Shen Wei filled in the university volunteer and was forced by his father to choose the auditing major.

Because that is my father's unfulfilled ideal, which must be realized by him.

Later, after a nervous breakdown, Shen Wei angrily ran away and begged, resisting the persecution and control of his father for decades in the first half of his life.

No matter what kind of mentality, it is not advisable to belittle and attack children.

If we always turn a blind eye to children's emotions, even if this degeneration is wrapped in love, it will become a painful memory of children's life.

Children hate these five sentences from their parents! Don't ruin the child with one more mouth.

Tagore once wrote in a poem: "Let my love surround you like sunshine, giving you brilliance and freedom."

Living in an environment where there is no lack of love is the luck of a child's life.

Faye Wong was once asked in an interview, "As a parent of a child with an' angel mark', what do you think you can do for the child?"

Faye Wong said:

This answer, simple and open-minded, reveals a mother's deep love for her children.

Later, Li Yan was confident and generous and smiled beautifully in front of the camera.

Parents are their beliefs before children reach adulthood.

If you are not sure, they will go with the flow; If you turn spring breeze into rain, they will be tall and strong.

Children hate these five sentences from their parents! Don't ruin the child with one more mouth.

Life in the sea is hard. Everyone has imperfections, including children and parents, but this can't be a reason for us to speak ill of children.

Don't let those harsh expressions obscure the flow of love.

Don't add psychological burden to children, don't be stingy with their praise and give them a sincere, warm and sunny love.