Educational methods for children to swear.

The environment in which children grow up affects their development. If one day, the child suddenly says something bad or indecent, how should parents find the reason and solve the problem?

Reasons for children's swearing

Swearing is an uncivilized behavior, a manifestation of lack of education, which directly affects the communication between people. This uncivilized behavior happens to children in the following three situations:

1, learn to curse. There is no concept of right and wrong, which is the characteristic of children. It is a common psychology for children to learn to curse when others scold me. As parents, we should distinguish who our children learn from, and then carry out targeted education.

2, forced to swear. This kind of situation generally occurs among small partners: there are contradictions, tit-for-tat, being bullied, and venting dissatisfaction through swearing ... At this time, parents must never reprimand their children or protect their children, but patiently persuade and educate them to solve disputes among small partners with humility, and should make a clear statement. Children's fear of losing their parents' love and friends will prompt them to change their bad words and deeds.

3. Get used to swearing. We should treat such children with temporary indifference, ignoring him, unhappy face and harsh tone, which will help him distinguish right from wrong, restrain and reduce his bad behavior, and thus establish a good code of conduct. Once a bad behavior becomes a habit, it takes a certain process to overcome it. When helping children to correct the bad habit of swearing, they can also encourage children to get rid of bad habits through hard work.

4. Curiosity is at work. The child has just learned to speak, and he has a strong curiosity. He can't help imitating instinct. Occasionally he heard someone swearing, and he didn't know the meaning of this sentence, so he learned this sentence. Parents should not deliberately tease or laugh at him because they think it is fun, which will strengthen his behavior; Instead, you should tell him: "This sentence is a dirty word, which is not pleasant to listen to, and the baby can't learn it." Put uncivilized behavior in the bud.

5. The influence of parents' bad words and deeds. Some parents don't obey the rules at ordinary times, and their children have learned to curse because of their influence. Such parents should first improve their self-cultivation, be strict with themselves, start from scratch and create a civilized and polite language environment for their children; Secondly, children are taught to use polite language by telling stories and playing games. If parents occasionally commit crimes again, they should honestly review with their children: "What we just said is wrong, because we are unhappy, so don't learn from it." We will never say such things in the future. "

6, social bad words and deeds. Children living in social environment will inevitably be influenced by all kinds of bad words and deeds, and so will swearing. Parents should take some corresponding preventive measures: on the one hand, try to keep their children away from the bad language environment around them so that they can't hear or learn swearing; On the other hand, it is necessary to strengthen children's "immunity", teach them to distinguish right from wrong, and tell them that swearing and swearing are impolite behaviors. In addition, parents should also pay attention to the situation of their children's small partners, choose civilized and polite partners for their children, and reduce the chances of learning from each other.

7. vent your dissatisfaction. Tong Tong's mother is very strict. If the children don't do well, she will criticize them and sometimes even hit them a few times. Later, I don't know where Tong Tong learned to swear. When her mother criticized her, she said dirty words. She found that swearing would * * * her mother, so she repeated it.

Children can't express their dissatisfaction, so when they find that swearing will make each other angry, their emotions can be released, so they will do such things again and again. The more parents stop their children from swearing, the more they insist that it is a confrontational behavior. Faced with such a situation, parents should first know themselves and review their mistakes, then try to give their children a relaxed and happy environment to grow up, and find some ways to let them vent their unhappiness, for example, let them shout: "I am very angry" and so on. And don't overemphasize swearing, so that children can forget it slowly.

Don't let the baby think swearing is interesting.

1, don't let the baby find swearing interesting.

Some parents will find it interesting to hear a very young baby swear, and they can't help giggling. In this way, the baby will have the illusion that this is a behavior that can be appreciated by parents. Therefore, the baby will swear again and again, trying to continue to get this pleasant experience. If parents feel angry or embarrassed when they hear their baby swearing, the baby will attract their attention because of swearing and continue his swearing game. The best way is to give your baby a cold face when he hears swearing. Let him know that you are not interested in or disgusted with his swearing game at all, so that he won't try to attract your attention by swearing.

2. Teach your baby a new way of expression.

If the baby is just trying a new word to see what consequences it will bring, or can't find the right word to express himself at the moment, then parents can try to attract the baby with another interesting new word, such as using some spells or interesting pictures mentioned in fairy tales; You can also use some words that sound stupid but not dirty words to help your baby express himself and distract your baby from those dirty words. Even if the baby has just learned to speak, he can quickly learn to express his anger in this way.

3. Set some boundaries for your baby

Once you find your baby swearing, you should set some boundaries for him. However, when you set boundaries for your baby, you must be calm. You should not be too excited or even treat your baby with a crazy attitude. If the baby creates the word himself, tell him that there is no such thing, and no one can understand what he is saying. In this way, the baby's enthusiasm for swearing can be reduced; If the baby imitates other adults to swear, don't explain to him what swearing means and why he can't swear. Just tell him calmly and clearly that "you can't use such words".

4. Don't care too much about the baby's dirty words.

Sometimes, babies swear just to want something or get their parents' attention. Parents shouldn't be embarrassed by their baby's swearing, so they try to end the baby's behavior as soon as possible, or even give up the principle and let the baby's little "conspiracy" succeed temporarily. For example, if a baby wants to eat ice cream, parents should not say, "It's not good to talk like this, so stop talking." Ok, here is your ice cream. " The baby about 2 years old lacks life experience, so he can't understand what his parents told him. They only value the results that can be achieved by swearing, and they don't consider the true meaning of their parents. Therefore, parents' behavior is undoubtedly encouraging their babies. As long as they swear, they can achieve their goals, and those who won't swear won't care at all.

How to stop children from "swearing"

Due to the bad influence of the surrounding environment and the imitation nature of children, it is not uncommon to "swear" in the process of learning a language. Faced with this bad behavior of children, parents can take the following measures:

The first trick: cold treatment

Cold treatment, also known as regression method, means that when a certain behavior appears repeatedly, if it is not strengthened, the incidence of this behavior will decrease.

The specific measures are: when a child swears, he doesn't hit the child, doesn't reason with the child, pretends not to hear, and ignores him. Slowly, if the child is bored, he will naturally stop talking. What parents need to be reminded here is: don't break into a rage, show abnormal anger, or repeat the child's dirty words. Not only can this not solve the problem, but it will only strengthen this bad behavior.

The second trick: imitation therapy

Imitation therapy, also known as demonstration method, refers to a corrective method to reduce and eliminate bad behavior by observing other people's behavior, learning and obtaining good behavior.

It is quite effective to change individual behavior by observing others' behavior, and its main types are: film imitation, video imitation, reading imitation, on-site imitation, participation imitation and so on. Parents can make up stories for their children to experience, which is a typical reading imitation method. While making up stories, give children some good suggestions in the stories. For example, when he is angry, he can talk to someone or his favorite toy instead of swearing. In a word, parents can use various strategies to help their children imitate good behavior and finally get rid of bad behavior.

The third measure: cognitive behavioral therapy

This is a way to change children's behavior by correcting unreasonable ideological activities or beliefs. It is characterized by the deep transformation of inner thoughts. Psychologist Baker's cognitive therapy emphasizes children's understanding of their own behavior, and changes children's cognition through direct intervention and reconstruction, thus changing children's behavior.

The fourth measure: environmental isolation law

You might as well think about it carefully: why does the baby curse and curse? If he is found to be affected by the bad environment after tracing back to the source, then environmental isolation should be adopted to keep him away from the bad environment, such as sending him to kindergarten to prevent him from playing with some swearing children and creating a civilized environment for him; Besides, when the elders raise them on their behalf, they should be told not to swear in front of the baby.

Fifth measure: appropriate punishment method