What are the manifestations of suggestion?

Dark means hidden, implicit and undisclosed; Instruction means enlightenment, informing and influencing.

Taken together, it means secretly enlightening people in private. From the perspective of human psychology, suggestion affects people's psychology and behavior in a non-confrontational, implicit and indirect way. This influence is manifested in making people act in a certain way and accept a hypothesis affirmed by subjective will. This assumption may not be well-founded, but it has been subjectively affirmed, making people strongly inclined to this content. In daily life, suggestion, as a multifunctional language skill, is widely used and has many meanings.

Hints can be found almost everywhere. For example, in the factory, you will hear the factory leaders remind employees: "There are only three days in this quarter!" At the corner of the road, you can see such a sign: "The car accident here has caused 7 deaths! ! "

At school, the teacher hinted at the poor students: "That classmate failed in the exam last time, and then he listened carefully in class and his grades went up." Of course, in order to make the implied language use freely and fully reflect the hidden characteristics, we should also pay attention to grasp some essentials. First of all, we should follow the original intention of the topic, and the implied content should be close to the topic, not too far away, otherwise there will be a "dark" but not "obvious" result, which is puzzling. Secondly, the language of hints should be accurate and concise, and "hints" should be grasped. Don't be mysterious, pretend to be deep, and don't stubbornly hint at what you could have said clearly, making people feel that you are not close. In a word, hinting is just a means to make others fully understand what you mean. If others misunderstand your implication, explain it in time to avoid misunderstanding or adverse consequences.

Avoid embarrassment by hinting

Li Siguang and Xu Shubin have been dating for two years, and their feelings are very good, but no one mentioned personal marriage.

One day, Xu Shubin received a letter from Li Siguang. She was shocked when she opened it. It turns out that this letter was written by Li Siguang's father to Li Siguang. The letter said, "Since you have known each other for two years, you know each other well. You are over 30 years old. If her family agrees, she will be engaged! " After reading the letter, Xu Shubin had a fever on his face and drummed in his heart. She knows that when someone is mentioned in the letter, she means herself. So she excitedly asked her mother and brother for advice. After careful consideration, they finally agreed to the marriage. Li Siguang expressed his inner thoughts in a devious way with hints, which avoided the embarrassment of telling the truth and kept their love relationship mysterious.

Implicit irony

It is extraordinary to satirize ugliness and laugh at stupidity in a suggestive way.

Wei Yuan, a writer in the Qing Dynasty, was straightforward and hated diseases as much as his enemies. In Wei Yuan's hometown, there was a shameless juren who copied other people's poems. 1 1 year-old Wei Yuan once revealed the truth, which made people angry. He used the topic to vent and pointed to the candle in the lantern and said, "Oil dips in the candle, and there is fire in the candle."

Wei Yuan was witty and said to him, "Paper lanterns have many eyes at the edge of the cage, but no pearls in their eyes."

This kind of advice, because it avoids specific people, allows you to ridicule and criticize without scruple.

According to legend, Pu Songling went to see Wang Yuyang. Wang Yuyang was arrogant and didn't want to see him. He said to the doorman:

"Tell the messenger that I am not at home." After listening to the janitor, Pu Songling wrote "noon" on the gate of Wang Yuyang, and then left. The doorman looked puzzled and told Wang Yuyang. Wang Yuyang thought for a moment and said to the doorman, "He is cursing me! It turns out that this is a mystery, and the answer is "cows are not outstanding." "

Get out of trouble by hinting

During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao led his troops to a place without water. The weather is very hot, the soldiers are tired and thirsty, and the marching speed is very slow. When Cao Cao saw this, he was also very anxious. Suddenly, he had an idea, pointed to the front and said, "There is a piece of Merlin in front. Let's go there and pick plums to quench our thirst. " When the soldiers heard that there were plums to eat, they all drooled and became less thirsty. So Cao Cao took the opportunity to lead the way and soon walked out of the thirsty area.

It can be seen from this story that although Cao Cao used deception, it played a certain role in alleviating the difficulties of marching at that time. It can be said that looking at plums to quench thirst is a positive contingency technique. The function of this method is to comfort yourself or others with fantasy, so as to achieve the purpose of stabilizing people's hearts.

Show an attitude implicitly

People can't express their views on anything directly. Sometimes, in order to take care of others' psychological endurance, or because of some inappropriate occasions, they may have to express their attitude through hints.

At a meeting at the White House to discuss budget cuts, President Reagan humorously said to everyone:

"I was told that purple fudge is poisonous." After that, he picked up a piece of purple fudge and stuffed it into his mouth to show his attitude and determination to drastically cut government spending no matter how opposed others are. At first, many participants did not agree to cut government spending, but after this warning from the president, the original idea began to waver.

Make an implicit request

If some requirements between acquaintances and friends are inconvenient to say, or hints are more humane, you may wish to help you achieve your goal through hints.

Cao Xueqin is a master of literature and a good cook. One day, he invited his friends Guo Min and Yu Shu to his home and asked with a smile, "What do you two like to eat?" Guo Min opened his mouth and said:

"You can have a' white and fat body, often hidden in mud pits, full of beehives, and you can eat it raw and cooked'!" Cao Xueqin nodded and turned to ask Uncle Yu, "What do you want to eat?" Yu Shu said slowly:

"I heard that you are very good at' having a head without a neck, being angry and cold, flying with wings and traveling thousands of miles without feet'. How about making a try? " Cao Xueqin nodded frequently and said, "Good! All right! I'll do it! " It didn't take long for two dishes of delicious food to be served. That's really delicious and mouth-watering. So the three of them sat around the table drinking. It turns out that Guo Min and Yu Shu both like two dishes, one is lotus root and the other is fish. Because of the gathering of literati, Guo Min and Yu Xu both hinted their demands to their masters in the form of riddles, which seemed elegant and refined.

Su Dongpo and monk Fo Yin are very good friends. They not only often study articles and poems, but sometimes hint at each other for fun. On one occasion, Su Dongpo asked her maid to wear a straw hat and clogs to get things from Fo Yin Temple. Maid's question: "What items?" Su Dongpo said, "There's no need to ask. The mage will know by looking at your outfit. " The maid came to the temple to meet the monk Fo Yin and said that the master asked her to pick up an object. Fo Yin's question: "What should a bachelor take?" The maid replied, "The master didn't say anything, only that the mage would understand when he saw my costume." Fo Yin eyed the maid up and down, thought for a moment, and couldn't help laughing. He turned to the room, took out a bag of things and gave it to the maid. The servant girl came back and gave it to Su Dongpo. Su Dongpo opened it and laughed. She nodded frequently and said, "It's really good." Su Dongpo invited Fo Yin monk to have tea, but he didn't say so. Instead, he called a servant girl wearing a straw hat and clogs, and called Fo Yin to guess riddles, which was both subtle and humorous.

Hint to help

There is an interesting story in the German TV series Witt Kugel Clinic. A young man waiting for a doctor took a fancy to the girl who came to see a doctor together, but they didn't know each other. The girl left immediately after seeing the doctor. When the young man saw the doctor, the girl had disappeared.

How can I find that girl? The young man had no choice but to ask the doctor's assistant, Miss Hefen, about the girl's last name and address. However, out of professional ethics, she must never reveal the true situation of the girl. However, Miss Hefen felt sorry for this spoony young man, so she handed him a card for the next date and said, "This is the time for your next visit." The young man wondered, "I'm here to have my tooth extracted, and I don't need a follow-up visit!" " Miss Hefen smiled and repeated, "It's time for our next visit." She emphasized "seeing a doctor" and added: "Please come half an hour earlier." The young man suddenly realized, accepted her hint and left happily.

Miss Hefen is a doctor's assistant, and her conversation with patients can only be confined to the medical scope. But in order to help the young man, she cleverly hinted to the young man the time and place to meet the girl next time. She is warm and witty, tactfully understood, natural and frank, but expressionless.

Prompt each other by hinting.

There is a story that there is a small barber shop in the south. One day, a tall girl walked into the shop and asked the salesgirl to give her a haircut like Xia Zi, the heroine in the Japanese movie "Life and Death".

The salesgirl found the girl very handsome, but her neck was a little long. If she wants to curl her hair like Xia Jie, her neck will be completely exposed, which may not look good. But be honest, and be afraid of hurting each other's self-esteem.

She thought for a moment and said softly, "Miss, you don't sound like everyone here, do you?"

"I come from Jilin and have been here for several years."

"No wonder, you have grown taller. In fact, you are tall, thin and beautiful in a skirt. "

A few words down, the other party said My Sweetie in his heart, and the distance between the two sides suddenly narrowed. Before the other party could speak, the salesgirl added, "It's winter now. If you put your hair on it, you will freeze your neck. "

In a word, the salesgirl woke each other up. Maybe the other person knows that his neck is long, so he quickly said, "Wait, let me think."

The salesgirl quickly said, "I just want to discuss it with you." Preferably wavy. The hairy feet are just on the shoulders, the lower part is curled and the middle is undulating. The upper part is folded to match your figure and ensure a good look. "

The girl nodded with satisfaction.

If you just say, "You have a long neck and your hair is so ugly." The other party will be flushed with shame and leave in one go. In order to let the other person know that it is not appropriate to cut the hair with a long neck, and it can't hurt the other person's self-esteem, then indirect persuasion should be adopted. The salesgirl talks a lot, starting from her native place, and never involves the problem of long neck. When the other party said that she was from Jilin, the salesgirl immediately felt that the northerners were tall, so she seized this opportunity to lead the topic to her figure, and in a few words, she said that the other party was beautiful, and the two sides had an emotional foundation for further conversation. Then, seize the opportunity to find the key point of the "neck", but it doesn't seem to deliberately pick on each other's shortcomings. Therefore, it did not cause the other party's resentment, but only reminded the other party of the problem of long neck. The salesgirl here uses the indirect prompt method. This method can often get good results in some inconvenient situations.