Lonely English articles

Loneliness is an emotional state, in which people or animals will feel intense emptiness and loneliness. Loneliness is not just about wanting someone to accompany you or doing something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of isolation, disconnection and alienation from others. Lonely people may find it difficult or even impossible to engage in any form of meaningful interpersonal communication. Lonely people usually experience a subjective sense of inner emptiness and feel separated or isolated from the world.

The difference between loneliness and loneliness

See also: Lonely person.

Loneliness and solitude are different. Many people are alone sometimes because of environment or choice. If solitude is under personal control, solitude will be a positive, pleasant and uplifting experience. Loneliness is a state of being alone and isolated from others, which usually means consciously choosing to be alone. Therefore, loneliness is unwilling loneliness.

In the process of growing up as an individual, human beings began the process of separation at birth, which continued into adulthood as they became more and more independent. Therefore, feeling lonely may be a healthy emotion. In fact, choosing to be alone for a while may enrich people. However, experiencing loneliness may be overwhelmed by an unbearable deep sense of separation. This can be manifested as abandonment, rejection, depression, insecurity, anxiety, despair, worthlessness, meaninglessness and resentment. If these feelings last for a long time, they may make people weak and prevent the affected individuals from developing healthy relationships and lifestyles. If a person is convinced that he or she is unlovable, it will increase the possibility of painful experience and avoid social contact. Low self-esteem often leads to social disconnection, which leads to loneliness.

For some people, temporary or long-term loneliness can lead to significant artistic and creative expression, such as Emily Dickinson. This does not imply that loneliness itself ensures this creativity; On the contrary, it may have an impact on the artist's theme.

[Edit] Common reasons

People may feel lonely for many reasons, and many life events are related to loneliness. Lack of friendship between childhood and adolescence, or lack of meaningful people around them are the reasons for loneliness, depression and "instability". At the same time, loneliness may be a symptom of another social or psychological problem (such as chronic depression) and should be analyzed.

Many people feel lonely for the first time in infancy. This is also a very common but usually temporary consequence of divorce or the breakdown or loss of any important long-term relationship. In these cases, it may be due to the loss of a specific person, or it may be due to the withdrawal of social circles caused by the incident or related sadness.

Losing an important person in life usually triggers a sad reaction; Here, a person may feel lonely, even in the company of others. Loneliness may also occur after the birth of a child, after marriage or after any socially destructive event, such as moving from hometown to university campus. Loneliness may occur in marriage or similar intimate relationships, where there is anger, resentment or inability to give or receive love. It may represent a communication barrier. Learning to cope with the change of life style is very important to overcome loneliness.

Typology [edit]

[Edit] Common types

Loneliness can be summarized into the following categories:

Situation/environment-losing relationship and moving to a new city

Developmental-the demand for intimacy is balanced with the demand for individualism.

Intrinsic-usually includes feelings of inferiority and vulnerability.

[Edit] Common symptoms

Believe that "everyone else" has friends.

Feel lack of social skills and skills.

Make sure you have a problem.

I feel that no one understands my situation

Feel unwilling to try to change or try new things.

Feel "empty", depressed and even want to commit suicide.

Feel anxious and/or desperate

[Editor] In modern society

Loneliness often occurs in densely populated cities; In these cities, many people feel completely lonely and isolated, even if there are a large group of people around them. They lost an identifiable group among anonymous people. At present, it is not clear whether loneliness is a condition aggravated by high population density itself or just a part of the human condition brought about by this social environment. Of course, loneliness may even occur in a society with a much smaller population, but the number of random people a person contacts in a city every day, even if it is only a short contact, may increase the obstacles to deeper interaction with them and increase the feeling of isolation and loneliness. The quantity of contact does not translate into the quality of contact. [ 1]

Loneliness seems to be particularly common in modern times. At the beginning of last century, families were usually bigger and more stable, with fewer divorces and relatively few people living alone. Today, this trend has been reversed: more than a quarter of the American population lives alone in 1998. 1995, 24 million Americans lived in single-person families; It is estimated that by 20 10, this number will increase to about 3 10/00000. [2]

A study in American Sociological Review in 2006 found that Americans have only two close friends to talk to, which is lower than the average of three in 1985. The proportion of people who said they didn't have such a confidant rose from 10% to nearly 25%; Another 19% people said that they only had one confidant (usually their spouse), which increased their risk of feeling seriously lonely at the end of their relationship. [3]

[Editor] As a human condition

Philosophical; Existentialism believes that loneliness is the essence of human beings. Everyone came to this world alone, spent his life as an independent person and finally died alone. It is a human condition to deal with this, accept it and learn how to guide our own lives with some degree of elegance and satisfaction. [4] However, other existentialist thinkers hold the opposite view. It can be said that human beings actively "participate" in each other and the universe when communicating and creating, and loneliness is just a feeling of being isolated from this process.

[Edit] Effect

Chronic loneliness (as opposed to the normal loneliness that everyone feels from time to time) is a serious and life-threatening disease. At least one study has empirically linked it to an increased risk of cancer, especially for those who hide their loneliness from the outside world. [5] It is associated with an increased risk of stroke and cardiovascular disease. [2] People who are isolated by society also report poor sleep quality, so the recovery process is reduced. [6] Loneliness is also related to depression, which is a risk factor for suicide. [7] ? Mir Durkheim also described loneliness, especially the inability or unwillingness to live for others (that is, for friendship or altruism) as the main reason for his so-called "egoism" suicide. [8]

Loneliness can lead to alcoholism. Among children, the lack of social contact is directly related to several forms of antisocial and self-destructive behavior, the most obvious being hostility and criminal behavior. Whether children or adults, loneliness usually has a negative impact on learning and memory. Its impact on sleep patterns and the above-mentioned other effects will have a devastating impact on the ability of daily life. [7]

Other effects may be asymptomatic for several years. In 2005, the results of Framingham Heart Research in the United States showed that lonely men increased the level of IL-6, a blood chemical related to heart disease. A study conducted by the Center for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience of the University of Chicago in 2006 showed that loneliness can increase blood pressure by 30 points for adults over 50 years old. According to a survey conducted by John Cacioppo, a psychologist at the University of Chicago, another noteworthy finding is that doctors say that they provide better medical services for patients with a strong network of relatives and friends than patients who are alone.

Forced loneliness (solitary confinement) has always been a punishment method in history. This is usually considered as a form of torture.